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Kimberly Dark
Kimberly Dark is an award-winning writer and storyteller who uses humor to help audiences discuss challenging topics. She was recently profiled by The Advocate as one of the top six speakers on LGBT issues on college campuses today. She is a parent and sociology professor at California State University San Marcos. Learn more about her performances and publications at

Entries by Kimberly Dark

Becoming Travolta (Queer Fat Femmes in a World Without Role Models)

(1) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 6:19 PM

This essay, "Becoming Travolta" appears in the newly released anthology, Queering Fat Embodyment edited by Murray, Pause and Wykes on Ashgate Press.

Saturday Night Fever was the first R rated movie I ever saw. I sat uncomfortably next to my mother during the whole film...

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The Santa Barbara Shooter: That Guy Was in My Class

(6) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 6:13 PM

Oh. My. God. That guy's been in my class.

It was my first thought as I watched Elliott Rodger's youtube channel. All of those cry-for-help videos have now been seen by thousands since he went mad and took his legally purchased guns to try to prove what he thought was...

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Why You Should Love and Hate the Louis CK 'Fat Girl Rant' -- and What to Do About It

(18) Comments | Posted May 22, 2014 | 3:38 PM

So, a woman speaks deeply personal lines revealing her inner truth on television -- except the script was written by a man. Nothing new there. I mention this first to label it as a problem and set it aside. Seriously, we need to remember that the vast majority of words...

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Yoga Teacher Talk: Inspiration or Mind-Numbing Nonsense?

(2) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 3:18 PM

Come to a comfortable seated position; use the blanket to elevate your hips so you can sit with the spine straight. Close the eyes and rest the hands gently in the lap.

So begins the yoga class. And just yesterday, as we sat quietly, receptively, in a meditative pose, the...

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Woody or Dylan: Whose Story to Believe?

(3) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 6:23 AM

There are no new allegations against Woody Allen and yet, the story of his family is once again the subject of public debate. Dylan Farrow wrote an open letter to Allen's fans published in the NYT blog on February 1. She gives a first person account of being...

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Butch Moms, Bullies, Manternity and Love

(1) Comments | Posted December 31, 2013 | 4:57 PM

When my son was 8-12 years old, we attended some family events with a butch-femme social group comprised of both families and singles. In a sense, we were coming together with people who have little in common other than the external oppression their families endure. We were coming together based...

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Changing How You Think About Your Body for Good

(2) Comments | Posted November 6, 2013 | 6:02 PM

It happens every month or so. Look, I'm not bragging, but it happens. Some young person -- often a woman -- tells me that I've changed her life through storytelling. She says that she never thought of herself or her behavior or her identity or her body "that way" before....

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Be You, Be Different, Improve the World

(1) Comments | Posted September 4, 2013 | 9:15 PM

When my son was small, every year at the beginning of school, I would go to meet his teachers and anyone else involved in his instruction -- administrators, librarians, etc. I went with my son and his gay dad and my lesbian partner; all of us were there to pledge...

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The Defeat of DOMA Can Help Us Rethink Other Family Policies Too

(2) Comments | Posted August 13, 2013 | 9:30 PM

Queer families aren't the only ones waiting for more child-supportive policies in America.

My son didn't feel comfortable discussing his queer parents in school because kids can be mean. And who knows whether the adults will hold difference against you too. Because I was legally married to my son's gay...

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Why Gay Marriage May Not Be the Best Thing for Queer Families

(55) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 3:32 PM

Increasingly often, people nod their heads enthusiastically, thinking they understand my queer family. The United States has been marching toward marriage equality during the 23 years since my son was born. When he was small, I was more likely to hear a quizzical "how did that happen?" when someone learned...

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Parenting, Love and Loss (The Good Kind)

(0) Comments | Posted June 9, 2013 | 6:08 PM

My son and his dad were out for a beer recently and his dad asked if he was afraid of anything as a child. Caleb replied that one of his childhood fears was not being a competent adult. Just in small, everyday ways -- like he wasn't sure he'd be...

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An Invitation to Queer Parenting

(1) Comments | Posted May 23, 2013 | 3:10 PM

"Do you have to use that word?" My mother made a face that looked slightly ill. I know my mother loves me, but she hates the word "queer" and really wishes I could be a little less odd too.

"What word? 'Queer'?"

She nodded, and her face looked like...

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