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Kira Sabin
Kira Sabin has been coaching single men and women from San Diego to Singapore since 2007. Through smart conversations about love and fun activities that get people out of their comfort zone, Kira coaches singles not only on love, but how to create amazing relationships. She is a professionally certified coach through the International Coach Academy and a member of the International Coaching Federation. She has been a source and contributor for Huffington Post, USA Today, Your Tango, Yahoo Shine, Chicago Tribune, The Frisky and Divine Caroline. In 2010, she created the blog to give Gen Y healthy dating/relationship advice and have become a national college speaker on the subject of dating with technology.

She lives in America's Dairyland, Madison, WI and yes....loves cheese.

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Entries by Kira Sabin

The Gift We Should Be Giving This Mother's Day

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2016 | 1:37 AM

It's Mother's Day and as I think about the mothers in my life it makes me think back to stories about my Grandmother that I learned a few years ago.

Now, not my favorite Grandma. Because I do have a favorite. My Mom's Mom was one of my favorite people...

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What I Did Right (and Wrong) in the First Six Months of My Relationship

(1) Comments | Posted July 20, 2015 | 3:41 PM


Relationships can be tricky, but dating and mating when you are a life coach who specializes in love has its own unique pressures. Naturally, I want to be crushing it on all levels, all the time, since I know a ton about how...

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The Real Problem With Ghosting

(6) Comments | Posted April 29, 2015 | 5:17 PM


I had not even heard the term "ghosting" until I was interviewed by an adorable 20-something blog a year ago. She asked me about it, so I had to bring myself up to speed. If you don't know what "ghosting" means, I'll tell you.

It is the newfangled word...

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How to Be Single Through the Holidays Without Losing Your Shit

(0) Comments | Posted December 16, 2014 | 12:55 PM

No matter how much you love the holidays, when you are single there are some just annoying as crap parts to it that it can downright tarnish your jingle bells.

So, I am going to cut through the crap today and talk mindsets and strategies to just get through...

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Chivalry Is Dead, and You Killed It

(18) Comments | Posted August 7, 2014 | 10:45 AM

I have to be honest, I am about to lose it over here.

Seriously, we are getting to the point where this is ridiculous.

As a life coach who works with singles and just even as a woman, if I hear one more person tell me how they want men...

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The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants... or Does It?

(1) Comments | Posted April 16, 2014 | 2:22 PM

Let's get something straight, right now.

The heart does not want anything.

The heart does not have a brain nor does it have the ability to make complicated decisions about love. It pumps blood to your organs. That is pretty much it.

So, I tend to throw up a...

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Why I Hate Valentine's Day

(15) Comments | Posted February 12, 2014 | 7:59 PM

I have to be honest, I am a little embarrassed for all of us.

That we have taken something that is as amazing as love and pretty much made it crap.

That we have started to measure love by gifts, instead of the simple beauty of someone...

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The Most Important Thing You Need for Love in 2014

(0) Comments | Posted December 31, 2013 | 10:12 AM

I recently read this super smart article on Psychology Today. I passed it around to my life coach clients and even on Facebook because I thought there was so much truth there about the ways we sabotage ourselves when it come to love and relationships.

The people I...

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I am Not For Everyone -- Neither Are You

(13) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 10:57 AM

I need to say something hard. Out loud. I almost want to yell it because it is uncomfortable.

I was at a Halloween party last weekend and was talking to a nice and attractive gentleman I had just met. Being playful and a little Champagney (Yes, that is a...

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Men Can't Read Minds, Get Over It

(15) Comments | Posted September 25, 2013 | 9:57 AM

If you want a psychic, go hire one.

If you want an awesome relationship, you create one.

One of the best ways to start creating that relationship is by letting people in on what is going on in our heads. By letting them in on the weird and wacky world...

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4 Really Simple Ways to Change the World

(11) Comments | Posted August 21, 2013 | 2:11 PM

First, it was the overdose of Cory Monteith, star of the TV show Glee, which I truly loved at one point in time. Then in the last week, Bachelor reality star Gia Allemand and TV star Lee Thompson Young both are found dead from apparent suicide.

I don't have enough background or...

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Getting Too Old for This Crap: An Ode to My 40s

(14) Comments | Posted July 11, 2013 | 11:19 AM

So, it happened. A couple weeks ago I turned 40, and I did not stumble gracefully into it. Heck, I didn't stumble at all.

I have been strategizing, worrying, planning, stewing and freaking out since the minute I turned 39, hanging on to my 30s like the kitten in the...

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It's Time to Bring Back Some Kindness to Dating

(8) Comments | Posted January 24, 2013 | 2:35 PM

I always found it funny when my friends and clients joked about being "in the trenches" when they talked about dating. However, after hearing lots of not-so-fantastic stories lately, I too am starting to think the incredible Pat Benatar was right when she sang "Love Is a Battlefield." I am...

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Singling for the Holidays

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2012 | 11:00 AM

Cuddling in front the fireplace. New Year's Eve kisses. Mistletoe. Considering that this was a time of year that we counted down to as kids, it can be pretty tough when you are single. Whether it is your annoying uncle asking, "Are you dating anyone yet?" at the family get-together...

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Are You Using Love as an Excuse to Stay Stuck?

(3) Comments | Posted May 5, 2011 | 12:48 AM

It may be in a house, a restaurant, a coffee shop or a bar (I think maybe even a few women's bathrooms), but I have had the conversation many times in my life with many friends. Usually in tears, always in pain, they look at me and say the words...

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Don't Let Technology Ruin a New Relationship

(11) Comments | Posted May 2, 2011 | 7:46 PM

Today, I want you to take a little trip back in time to when I was in college -- way back in the '90s. At the beginning of my sophomore year, a guy walked into Dante's (my cool campus job) and after a malt, cheesy popcorn and lots of witty...

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Was Your Breakup Actually About You?

(5) Comments | Posted March 14, 2011 | 1:17 PM

A few years ago I went on what you might call a kamikaze mission. I felt like I was having a lot of conversations in my head around my past crushes and relationships, and I was coming up empty. Looking back, I spent a lot of my high school and...

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Over Dating? Join the Undating Revolution!

(21) Comments | Posted March 2, 2011 | 3:07 PM

People who have known me for years are fascinated by what I do but are sometimes a little confused. I am a live-life-to-the-fullest kinda girl, and when they think of a dating coach, they think I am spouting off a lot of rules, dos and don'ts and how to be...

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The Single's Survival Guide to Valentine's Day

(2) Comments | Posted February 14, 2011 | 2:47 PM

Love, schmove. When you are a couple, Valentine's Day is one of the most exciting days of the year. When you are single, you sometimes want to throw things at those happy couples.

If you are about ready to sit at home, open up the Ben and Jerry's and...

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4 Cheap Valentine's Dates That Will Win Them Over

(1) Comments | Posted February 8, 2011 | 7:14 PM

Two Movie Tickets: $24
One Large Tub of Popcorn: $8
Two Medium Sodas: $10
A date night at the movie theater: Ridiculous!

With Valentine's Day around the corner, you will want to do something special for your significant other. But if even a movie night is...

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