Most adults spend the majority of our time at work. The joy or stress we get from our jobs directly impacts our happiness, health, relationships, financial success and overall satisfaction with life. In fact, 80% of adults say their job is the most stressful thing in their lives - but it is how we respond to that stress that determines if it will hurt our happiness.
Because we spend so many hours working, it's easy to blame our boss, the company or our job tasks for anything negative that happens in our lives. Any of these sound familiar?
- Money is tight. Bleepin' company won't give me a raise.
- I'm stressed out. My boss is such a jerk.
- I'm overweight because I'm stuck sitting at my desk all day.
- I can't quit smoking - all my co-workers go out for smoke breaks.
- I don't get along with my spouse. I'm always crabby from work.
- I don't see my kids enough. I have to work such long hours to get the job done.
- And the list goes on!
It's easy to blame our jobs when we spend so much time there. But it is not your company's fault. It isn't your boss's fault. It's not up to them to hold your hand and help you be proactive about your life and goals. Sure - they need to provide a paycheck, a positive workplace culture and support to help you grow and develop. But it's up to YOU to use those resources and take action on creating a job and life that fits your needs.
How can you shift your perspective and attitude when it really seems like a bad job or bad boss is to blame for your troubles?
- Rewind. Go back to the beginning of your relationship with your company. Why did you pursue a job there in the first place? What made you want to work there? Try to reconnect with your original motivation for working at your company to get re-inspired in your work.
Most people are so busy being busy that they forget to stop and enjoy their work and life. When you take a breath to identify why your job is causing you stress and then take another breath to figure out a solution, you are one step closer to happiness.
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