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The Spiritual Power of Words

Posted: 10/17/11 10:13 AM ET

We have at our disposal a power that can change lives, make a sick spirit healthy, encourage success, guide those who need it, make or break relationships and create a lasting impression of us as people. That power is the power of words.

All of us use words in everyday conversation, that's the human way of communication. We talk. Words are more powerful than anything on earth. But do we ever seriously think about what we're saying to another person or how we're saying it? Tone of voice and body language all play into what we communicate. How do our words impact our relationships with others? The words you speak to others will determine the feedback you get from them.

The ancients believed that the spoken word contained the power and authority of the Gods. In later centuries, any person who could actually write words was elevated almost to the level of the divine. Words dictated how life should be lived, what you could or couldn't do; they could be used for good or for harm. There were spells, there were prayers. The power of words was awesome.

Words, spoken or written, still hold power today. They can inspire us to achieve goals or they can hold us back from even trying. One simple sentence can make a difference in how a situation is perceived.

"When you say you can't, it means that you won't."

That statement is profound in its simplicity. The meaning is clear; if you think you can't, chances are good that you won't. The power of words is psychological.

Intentionally negative words can lower self-esteem, kill the joy of enthusiasm and change your attitude about life. Well chosen positive words on the other hand, even just one simple word, can motivate and encourage dreams and bring about life changes. What an amazing power we have in words!

But words are sometimes used as sharp, barbed weapons too. A child who is told he or she is "bad" believes it and may live up to that statement. The power of cruel words can damage relationships as well. Said in anger, they still have the power to crush and destroy a person's self-esteem.

Words used to uplift, to motivate, to comfort have a meaning well beyond simple letters strung together. They are powerful in how they make a person feel. Their emotional impact can define a life or change an outlook. Words make human errors forgivable.

Dr. Maya Angelou used words to tell us why we should forgive any mistakes we made in our past. It is hauntingly beautiful.

"You did then what you knew how to do. When you knew better, you did better."

Those two sentences free you to forgive yourself and understand that you are not the same person you may have been at a terrible time in your life. Words are empowering and they can empower you to make healthy and positive life changes.

Writers use words to entertain, to make us think and to inspire. Like a beautiful mosaic, words fill in the corners and crevices of our lives making us laugh, cry and ponder. The words you speak can have a profound effect on the people they reach.

Do we place too much "power" on words, spoken or written? Perhaps actions are more suited to our modern lives? I cannot believe this is true, for while we surely need acts of kindness, acts of love, we need words too. Words convey more than actions because they unite us. Words bring us together in a way no action can. This can be seen in the eyes of someone learning to read. A door to a new world has been opened before them and words are the key that has unlocked it.

The power of words is magical, spiritual, incredible. Nothing is more powerful than words. Use them well in your life.

© 2011 Kristen Houghton

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You may email her at kch@kristenhoughton.com. Read the book critics call "sane and savvy advice for all a must-read," ranked in the top-selling 100 books of 2011 by Tower.com "And Then I'll Be Happy! Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness and Put Your Own Life First."

Her new book, "No Woman Diets Alone - There's Always a Man Behind Her Eating a Doughnut" is due to be released December 1, 2011.

 
 
 

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We have at our disposal a power that can change lives, make a sick spirit healthy, encourage success, guide those who need it, make or break relationships and create a lasting impression of us as peop...
We have at our disposal a power that can change lives, make a sick spirit healthy, encourage success, guide those who need it, make or break relationships and create a lasting impression of us as peop...
 
 
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09:39 AM on 10/19/2011
The most important words are the ones we tell ourselves. Self-talk both reflect and affect our mental states setting off a chain of causality towards action, interaction and character.
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Kristen Houghton
Author, Lifestyle Journalist, Humorist
06:58 PM on 10/19/2011
I have to agree with you Gnomeo. I call those words we tell ourselves the "self-critic inside our heads".
05:08 PM on 10/18/2011
We must remember from where all our harsh words and thoughts originate. Ourselves! It's not Karma but, what we choose to have within our own consciousness.
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Kristen Houghton
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07:53 PM on 10/18/2011
Interesting comment KHYYAMM.
05:02 PM on 10/19/2011
Kristen, thank you for acknowledging my post. After reading it again, I feel that I left a few things out. If our harsh words and thoughts originate from us, they hurt us first, before anyone else. And, some people believe that Karma is the cause of our success or failure but, it's more the thoughts and actions that we choose, that create our world.
02:06 AM on 10/18/2011
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XtjsTYC_H4&feature=related

"there is no joy in small things joy is in the infinite" from the VEDA
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Kristen Houghton
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10:09 AM on 10/18/2011
Well stated merlinspinoza. Not to disagree with the VEDA, I see joy in small things also, like a rosebud or a sun rise. They also make up the infinite.
12:00 AM on 10/18/2011
I work mostly with foreign nationals whose first languages are not English. Day in and day out it's a constant struggle to pare down my speech and emails to the core message in order to avoid any miscommunications. Noun - verb - object. Prepositions, articles, adjectives and adverbs must be used sparingly.

But sometimes, every now and then, we'll get an American intern for a little while. It's such a relief to say to someone at work, "dude, I'm jonesing for a sub" and have them reply, "oh, you know it, bro. Let's blow this place."

It's not Shakespeare, but those words fill a void I didn't realize I had.
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Kristen Houghton
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10:14 AM on 10/18/2011
A professor of mine told my class that hearing your "mother tongue and the lingo of your generation" is something we all find happiness in hearing. Perfect example: my husband and I came back from an overseas trip; when we were going through customs here my husband asked "What's the score?" Without missing a beat the official said, "5, 3, Yankees." We knew we were home.
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DrMiaRose
Author, Psychologist and Wellness Coach
06:08 PM on 10/17/2011
This is a great reminder to be conscious of how we use words every day to either hurt or heal. Healing words arise from a deeper place. They can be waterfalls of kindness, if that's what we choose. It's so fulfilling to express love rather than judgement. I wonder why we don't it do it more.

Mia Rose
http://www.healinglovenotes.com
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Kristen Houghton
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06:42 PM on 10/17/2011
Thank you DrMiaRose. "Waterfalls of kindness" is a beautiful expression!
05:40 PM on 10/17/2011
Words have a vibration and with the intention we put with our thoughts while using words we can manifest our greatest dreams!Thansk for this post!
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Kristen Houghton
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06:44 PM on 10/17/2011
You're very welcome patriciagozian. We have a great power with what we say.
03:10 PM on 10/17/2011
Great article. Thank you for this.
Words are truly powerful.
The pen is mightier than the sword, a poet once said.
Only now it's keys on a keyboard.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:01 PM on 10/17/2011
Many thanks Mokum. I'm glad you enjoyed it!
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WoodsideCraig
Author of the blog "The Weiler Psi"
02:46 PM on 10/17/2011
I believe utterly in the power of our own words to shape our lives and create our reality. I make it a point to commit to everything I say in the most truthful way possible. A white lie is only acceptable as a fully conscious act where the reason for doing it is completely known. Almost solely for business reasons. (i.e. I want to end this conversation quickly with the salesperson so it is OK to lie to make them go away quickly and not give them an opportunity to keep the conversation going.)

I almost never use the word hate and I make it a point to not complain.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:02 PM on 10/17/2011
Thank you for commenting WoodsideCraig.
01:08 PM on 10/17/2011
"All of us use words in everyday conversation, that's the human way of communication. We talk. Words are more powerful than anything on earth"

I found your post offensive to Mimes.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:02 PM on 10/17/2011
Good one Properman! My deepest apologies to mimes. I love mimes!
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Kristin Talbott
One should always be a little improbable.
06:11 PM on 10/18/2011
Good point, but just know that your humorous words were powerful enough to make me laugh at a time when I really needed it.

Thank you.
12:33 PM on 10/17/2011
I struggle with using the 'h" word. I'm getting better though. Thank you for writing this article.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:03 PM on 10/17/2011
You're very welcome MRstoner2dude.
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yinkadlb8
Having a glimpse of a sunny day.
10:44 AM on 10/17/2011
Spoken or written words have spiritual undercurrents within that make them attractive or repulsive to hear or read. Every word spoken has a force that can bring succour or distruction to situations or events no matter whether carelessly or seriously said. Therefore it is necessary to watch what is being said as words affect both seen and unseen matter to result in situations that we are comfortable with.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:04 PM on 10/17/2011
I like your statement yinkadlb8. I truly believe words, and how thye are said, affect everything.
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Marcus01
It all just seems like it's real
10:33 AM on 10/17/2011
Because of the energetic power of words, it helps to be careful when using them. I cringe a little when I hear people use the h-word, as in "I h--- that", or "I h--- when that happens". Those uses of the word may seem harmless enough compared to others, but h--- is not a very pleasant energy to put out there, period. On a subtle level it affects you and the people around you.

On the other hand, being mindful of our words and choosing them carefully can be very beneficial. Kind words, words of gratitude, love, appreciation and so forth create a pleasant and inspiring environment to be in.
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Kristen Houghton
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05:06 PM on 10/17/2011
We create our own world. It can either be filled with positive or negative energy and words like "hate" have a tremendous amount of negativity which damages our emotional environment. Thank you Marcus01.