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Make Over Your Mornings: 7 Shifts to Create Better Days

Posted: 01/15/2012 10:25 am

Snooze button. Waking up with thoughts racing about the day's to-do list. Snooze button again. Lying in bed feeling like you don't want to get up and face the over-scheduled day. Remembering the person who frustrated you last week, realizing you have no time for breakfast because you've already hit that snooze button twice, and... Let's take a breath.

One of the most important parts of your day, if not the most important, are the very moments you wake up in the morning. This is when the tone and course for the day ahead are set. The way you start your morning -- everything from your first thoughts to what you consume to the way you get ready -- has big-time influence your happiness, success and energy overall. And here's great news: Simply making some small shifts to the way you approach your mornings can empower your days and lead to radical positive changes in your life.

By making some positive changes to my own mornings a few years ago, I was able to create much more balance, energy and happiness in my own life, and I'm loving it! I truly believe this is one of the keys to a higher-quality life overall, which is why I'm so passionate about spreading the word.

It all starts with your thoughts. As you're waking up each morning, those first few thoughts that float through your cloudy mind are some of your most powerful, and they have the influence to set the tone for your entire day. With practice, you can to train your mind to make your first thoughts of the day positive, inspiring, high-quality ones.

Even if those first few minutes are not necessarily negative, and may even seem neutral, the idea is to step it up to a happier, more optimistic level. For the next few weeks, make a conscious, deliberate effort when you wake to shift your thoughts to anything that brings you joy, inspires you or brings you peace. After the first month or so, you'll find that waking up in a much more positive place will become natural, and so will better days.

Seven shifts you can make to create a positive morning mindset:

  • Keep a colorful pad and pen next to the bed to write down positive thoughts, affirmations and things you're grateful for when they come to mind. When you need a little nudge in the morning, grab the pad and read away.
  • Memorize a positive saying or affirmation as a "default" phrase you can easily shift to when needed. A simple one is, "It's a new day and another opportunity for a great fresh start."
  • Place a favorite quote or affirmation in a little frame on your nightstand. Something that always puts you in a better place.
  • Keep a glass of water next to your bed so it's waiting for you when you wake up. The water will be there to welcome you to the new day, refresh your body and start you off in a nurtured place.
  • Have positive reading material next to your bed so you've got a regular flow of thought-provoking, uplifting content to reach for in the morning. You can also subscribe to positive blogs and e-newsletters. They're a great quick read when you're having your coffee. Make a habit of reading something inspiring each morning, even if it's just a couple of paragraphs.
  • Questions are powerful. Create a practice of asking yourself positive questions in the morning like, "How am I going to make today amazing?" or "What can I do to take great care of myself today?" Then go over the answers in your mind or write them down.
  • When you begin to feel a little overwhelmed by the day ahead, try breaking priorities for the day into manageable sets of three. Focus only on the top three priorities for the day and know that you'll be able to handle them easily and with joy. Once you move past those three, move on to the next three. This is a fantastic way to clear mental clutter and create more focus, peace and balance.

In addition to your morning thoughts having a huge impact, your practices and experiences in the morning have a major influence on the quality of your whole day. Take a look at other positive ways you can make over your mornings. Try setting your alarm a few minutes earlier, and be sure to avoid the snooze button. Even just an extra 15 minutes in the morning is huge. Take a couple of minutes to sit in stillness or step outside and breathe in some fresh air. Take time to eat something super healthy (a must), connect with loved ones, and to just plain slow down.

Go through the spaces where you spend time in the morning and bliss them up. Clear clutter. Add a few items that make you feel good and inspire you when you see them.

Not only will all this action and reaching for higher thoughts make your mornings drastically more pleasant, it will also create a flow of reminders that you're taken care of, that you're making yourself a priority, and that you're worth all that is good and beautiful in life. That's the way to clear the path for a great days.

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RedneckDem
The top 1% stole my made in china bootstraps
04:49 PM on 01/23/2012
Sad to say, but I really need to stop checking HuffPo in the am because here just isnt very much positive info anymore... (except this, of course! Thanks)
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Matthew Vella
06:25 AM on 01/21/2012
I've always had such problem with this.... I'm now setting my alarm on hour early and setting it to ring every 15 minutes. And even then, I sometimes just go back to sleep. Like I have no control whatsoever, irrespective of the fact that I know I need to wake up, my body just tells me go back to sleep. If I just make one alarm at say 7, I'll find myself awake at 9 with absolutely no memory of waking at 7 at all. And I always keep my alarm (mobile) on the other side of the room.

Any advice? Its ridiculous but I have no idea what to do.
07:52 PM on 01/20/2012
As a mother of two kids, one still preschool age, I've found that walking our older daughter to school in the morning is something that can set the tone for the whole day. Elementary school starts at 7:55, and our town is less than a mile from the nearby mountain range, so it takes the sun about 45 minutes to rise over our town after it does so in the county seat. This means that during the late fall and early spring, I'm lucky enough to be able to watch the sun rise over the mountain as part of the walk. Combine that with the sound of the birds singing and being in a rural farm town so there's very little in the way of traffic noise apart from the main street's rush, and the peace of the whole setting and routine help charge my emotional, mental, and even spiritual batteries for the day.

Unfortunately, by the end of the day the morning boost has pretty much fizzled out due to dealing with the stress generated by running herd on a 4-year-old and a 9-year-old who is at that "acting like a teenager" stage. However, at least it helps me start the day off right.
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09:12 AM on 01/18/2012
Thank you so much for this. I am looking to make some changes in my life, and it seems that a new morning routine could really set the stage for a more positive life! I'm already awake now, so will set things up tonight and start tomorrow!
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MichaelFroemel
Star Trek fan from Germany
07:23 AM on 01/18/2012
I'm an early bird and have no problem with that. I get up the same time every day (including weekends). Never had problems in the morning. And all the late risers hate me for that... ;D
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Kristin Talbott
One should always be a little improbable.
10:27 AM on 01/17/2012
Does the person who wrote this not have to be at work until noon?

Not that the suggestions are bad ones, but even just engaging in "a couple of minutes of stillness" requires caffeine so I don't fall back asleep, going to the bathroom so I'm not distracted by that particular need, turning on the heaters so I'm not distracted by being cold, eating breakfast so that I'm not distracted by being hungry, feeding the dog so I'm not distracted by HIM being hungry...and by that point it's a miracle if it's not so late that I'm distracted by the time.
03:32 AM on 01/17/2012
Damn. I do everything wrong. Snooze button 3 times, minimum. Then panic and race for the world's quickest shower and dress and out the door in about 15 minutes flat. There's no exercising (definitely not whilst still in the bed unless I want to be beaten to death by my husband), there's no coffee, no breakfast, nothing. My positive affirmation is "crap, late again, crap". Now I will have to frame that....

I do keep water by the bed, but its for the after effects of the alcohol, and Stephen King counts as positive reading material, right?
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Matt Blanc
11:10 AM on 01/16/2012
Waking up has always been hard for me. Once I retired I experimented with different sleeping patterns, and found that I can wake up just fine at 7:00 am, whereas getting up at 6:30 for work was really hard. I think it's all about REM sleep patterns - it seems that I'm in the middle of a cycle at 6:30 but finished with it by 7:00. Now when I wake up I'm ready to start moving and don't feel like I'm in a fog for part of the morning. Of course it could also be that I don't have to face going to work with a group of dysfunctional idiots and instead get to plan my day to suit myself.
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spkninglsh
'Poor' Fridge Owner
10:24 AM on 01/16/2012
These tips are much better than waking up to a nightstand stacked with colorful bills, an empty bottle of Irish whiskey and the question 'How will I make it through another day?' stuck in your head.
07:45 PM on 01/20/2012
Now I have that Washington Post Jobs section commercial stuck in my head. For those who don't live in the DC-Metro area, it starts with a parrot repeating, "I can't take this, I can't take this! Not another day! Not another day!' At which point the parrot's owner comes in from work grumbling the exact same thing.
03:16 AM on 01/16/2012
Years ago I had such leisurely positive wake-ups. It's not about the ability to do so, but rather it's about a way of life, a style of living, or a habit of thinking.
Many thanks to it for it being very helpful to me---it reminds me of many good things as well as a good start for them and a new beginning thereafter, at least I hope.
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Bibulus
On my way back from Hawaii with the long-form bio
01:37 AM on 01/16/2012
I used to rush through my mind and day unthinking, a waking stupor, a coma within my own life.
One day, the first day as a father many years ago, I stopped to contemplate a morning in such a way that I was never able to wake to my sleep again.
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Indie Mom
independent does not mean lonely
12:08 AM on 01/16/2012
I've learned over the years that in order to really let my mind rest and get a good and peaceful sleep, my bedroom needs to be just that. No TV. No desk. No notepads or books or drinks or anything next to the bed. Cell phone is my 'alarm clock' and it's turned off every night except for a very quiet and delicate chime in the morning. Missed calls or texts can be read in the morning. If there is an emergency, I'm sure a police will knock on my door. I also shut my bedroom door.

I bought a good bed. Splurged on good bedding .. I prefer flannel year round with light weight to heavy weigh quilts and good pillows. Soft colored walls, dark curtains, low lighting. Quiet and serene. When I enter my bedroom and bed, my body and mind know it's time to sleep and dream and rest my soul. Reading, TV, journaling, eating, drinking, etc. go on elsewhere in the house.

I can honestly say that I can wake up with a smile on my face and take my time getting out of bed to start the day. Took me many years to get to this point.

If you are married or with a partner and their sleeping habits or noises (breathing or snoring or moving) interrupt your sleep, then think about getting your own bed for sleeping .. can still have romance in a 'shared' bed .. you just retire to your own space.
02:29 AM on 01/16/2012
I wish you keep it for as long as you can.
In reality, humans, willingly or unwillingly, are taken into an often much interconnected and sometimes even interacted world that some of them find themselves comfortable in, while others do not. I find here your serene soft bedroom exactly my great sweet fantasy.
hell in a bucket
unable to dance I will crawl
11:03 PM on 01/15/2012
When I wake up I sing a couple of lines of whatever song comes to me. F the neighbors 'cause I do it loud.
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Mr Sick Of Greed
06:54 PM on 01/15/2012
Sex in the morning is a great way to start the day too
06:22 PM on 01/15/2012
I go to bed early, then fall asleep when I get interested in a TV show. I love to get up early like 4 a.m. I take a hour nap of the afternoon then go to bed early. I take lemon water on ice to the bedroom at night and sometimes a 'no caffeine' drink. I have a bottle of water to take my pills first thing when my feet touch the floor. The coffee pot is perking when I get up. Sweet.

I do leg and arm exercises while lying in bed. It will help you when you are sick, because you can get up easier if your arms and legs are not weak at least that is what the nurse said.

I drink a glass of green tea in the morning then after my nap. I can't sleep if I drink tea before naptime and before bedtime.

I am going to try your way this week. I want to finish my office organizing and I spend a lot of time in there. I would love to make a showing and amaze my husband. I hope I can stay off of the computer.

For you to expect us to be happy before coffee is unrealistic, though:-)
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Namaste MF
09:04 PM on 01/17/2012
I agree! Set the coffeemaker before bed and you have that to wake up to!