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Women's Equality Day: What the Heck Do I Tell My Daughter?

Posted: 08/26/11 11:25 AM ET

Today is Women's Equality Day. At the center of my mind today is:

What the heck do I tell my daughter?

How do I tell my daughter about the fact that despite many gains made for women's (and mothers') equality, women still don't earn equal pay for equal work? Women now make, on average, only 77 cents for every dollar that men make for full-time work.

Not equal.

How do I tell my daughter that there's rampant hiring and pay discrimination against mothers? While overall women make 77 cents to every man's dollar, women without children make 90 cents to a man's dollar, mothers make 73 cents, and single mothers make only 60 cents to a man's dollar. Women of color experience increased wage hits on top of this. Further, studies have found that with EQUAL resumes, women with children are 100% less likely to be hired than women without children. Another study found when moms are offered positions, on average, they are offered starting salaries that are $11,000 less than those offered to non-mothers.

Not equal. These stats keep me up at night, particularly given that 80% of American women become mothers by the time they are 44 years old.

What do I tell my daughter about the fact that women don't yet have equal representation in Congress? Women are 50.7% of our population, yet women comprise only 17% of Congress. This low representation of women in our national legislature ranks us 70th of all nations, behind Turkmenistan, Bosnia and Herzegovina. Our nation is missing out. The Harvard Business Review recently reported, "If a group includes more women, its collective intelligence rises."

Not equal. There's definitely no reason to celebrate Women's Equality Day here.

And how do I tell my daughter that instead of rising, the very small number of female CEOs is falling, despite the fact that women are now 50% of the labor force for the first time in history. There were 15 female CEOs in the Fortune 500 last year, and now there are only 12 female CEOs in the Fortune 500 companies. That's 12 women CEOs out of 500. Not good. This drop is despite the fact that a 19-year Pepperdine University survey of Fortune 500 companies showed that those with the best record of promoting women outperformed the competition by anywhere from 41% to 116%.

Not equal in the business sector yet either, which is deeply troubling because our economy needs every bit of entrepreneurship possible, and disproportionately leaving out women hampers our nation's success.

There's certainly not much in the way of news to celebrate on Women's Equality Day.

So, what the heck DO I tell my daughter?

Then it hit me. I know what to say: I'm telling my daughter that I'm fighting for her and for all the daughters in our nation on Women's Equality Day.

And one of the ways I'm fighting is by pushing for policies that promote family economic security, which have been shown to reduce the wage gaps, while also helping businesses and taxpayers save money in the long run -- policies like paid family leave, access to early learning, sick days, health care, and more. I'm fighting by advocating for policies like the Paycheck Fairness Act and the Healthy Families Act,

I'm fighting for every girl and boy to have equal opportunities to thrive.

And as I fight, I'll be telling my daughter that I'm not alone, and that I'm joining this fight with the more than million members of MomsRising.org, as well as with over a hundred aligned organizations. And, I'll tell her that I'm also joining this fight with the voices of women, daughters, and mothers across the nation who are speaking out on Women's Equality Day in a #HERvotes Blog Carnival to assert that they are joining together to combat extremist attacks against women's health and economic security. You can read more here.

For Women's Equality Day, I'm telling my daughter to fight.


 

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02:40 AM on 09/11/2011
By the way, where the heck is Men's Equality Day?
02:37 AM on 09/11/2011
You got destroyed on AVfM Radio: http://www.avoiceformen.com/a-voice-for-men/avfm-radio/avfm-radio-are-all-women-like-that/

26:26 minutes in, just like August 26th is "Women's Equality Day"
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WilliamL
06:33 AM on 09/01/2011
Tell her than as long as women continue to use their sexuality as a bargaining tool in order to "ballance the filed" then women will continue to be looked upon as sexual objects in the work place and society.
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blarneydude
I can handle the truth. Now let's talk about you.
11:02 AM on 08/30/2011
Tell your daughter: mission accomplished.

Women are not only fully equal to men; they have more choices.

That should do it.
lawgrrl
I feel like I am in a whirlwind of stupid!
10:18 AM on 08/30/2011
It's interesting in viewing comments regarding articles that talk about the disparities between minorities and whites or women and men. The white male posters tell minorities to essentially "get over it" and the white male posters tell women to "get over it", and that it's a level playing field, blah, blah blah. From the mouths of those who currently have the power. Interesting.
10:26 AM on 08/30/2011
The disparity in pay between men and women has been addressed in multiple studies that all come to the same conclusion. When correcting for field of work, education, experience and hours worked, the pay gap is approximately 5% and can NOT be attributed to discrimination. I suggest you read this and let it soak in. Feminist ramblings about the pay gap just strain their credibility.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424053111903454504576486690371838036.html?KEYWORDS=KAY+S+HYMOWITZ
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LemurTech
02:19 PM on 08/30/2011
What a fantastic article that is. Thanks for posting the link!
01:49 AM on 08/31/2011
I don't understand why white women lump themselves in with minorities as if they did not grow up in the same families as these privileged white men. They share in the advantages real minorities can only dream of. The playing field for women has been leveled and it's time they stop asking men to fix things for them. If you are not getting where you want to go then look at the other man or women next to you in the same boat and try to figure something out.
02:38 AM on 09/11/2011
They lump themselves in because it is convenient. White women are the most privileged group in the western world.
12:51 AM on 08/30/2011
I will tell my daughter to fight for equal opportunity she needs to step up and sign up for selective service. To earn more money, she needs to learn deep sea welding, engineering, or other deadly, dangerous jobs that pay better than criminal justice or social work.

I jwold tell my daughter her gender is the majority of voters in this country, and IF they truly wanted more women in power, they would vote for women instead of men, since gender is more important than substance.

I would teach my daughter that she is entitled to raise children AND have her work accomodate her needs over their own. After all: Children Are Our Future. We can't allow men to share this attitude, the place would fall apart!

Most of all, I would tell my daughter not to sign any petitions against Women's Sufferage or you'll end up on youtube.
lawgrrl
I feel like I am in a whirlwind of stupid!
10:18 AM on 08/30/2011
Faved.
02:25 AM on 09/07/2011
You do realize that telling her to fight for equal oppurtunity would mean that you are telling her to fight for women to have LESS oppurtunity than they do currently.

Gender is more important than substance? How does that make sense. Eventually, if women can shake the crutch of feminism we will start to see thier gender produce some worthwhile candidates and the people will vote accordingly.

So, if she starts in a career as a deep sea welder, stays for 3 years, and then excercises her right to choose motherhood over her career for 2 years and then she goes back to her job you think she should be paid the same as the employees who just gained 2 years experience?

In what way is that fair to anyone?

What if she worked there for 10 years and then left for 10 years and came back as a part time employee? ( which is a very likely scenario for any woman in any career)

Do you think she should get paid the same as the other people on the job that have worked without significant absence for the last 20 years ?

What if some of the employees that had remained in the field for the last 20 years were also women ?

You say children are our future......... what about families? Without family whats the point of life?
Where are we headed?
02:00 PM on 09/07/2011
You need to reread my statement. I was being sarcastic.

Those are excellent questions you ask, and I'd love to hear the answer spins - but it never happens.

On youtube a group of college guys went around having girls sign a petition against woman's sufferage.

Woman's "sufferage" is the right for women to vote.

Most girls signed it, thinking all women "suffer" from something. They've heard all their lives how much women suffer.

I was basically telling women to do their share, take the bitter with the sweet, if they want "equality", which, let's face it, equality is fighting and dying, dirty work and sacrifice. Something most women take for granted men have always done, and will always continue to do for them. Like dying in wars or building dams, and agreeing that women can do anything they can do while doing all the heavy lifting for them.
11:21 AM on 08/29/2011
How come only liberal feminist complain about the supposed gap? I have two women reporting to me, both do fantasic work, both are paid fairly, both are moms and neither wants more responsibility, which would allow them to make even more money. Guess what? Both are extremely happy to have the balance of being a mom and a well-paid job.

I refused to relocate my family when offered a promotion, so I did not receive a promotion. I didn't cry foul, I understood that I have choices and so does the company.

I will tell all three of my daughters that life is full of choices and women have more than men, so take advantage of it.
lawgrrl
I feel like I am in a whirlwind of stupid!
10:23 AM on 08/30/2011
Your one personal example does not sum up the experience of most women. I was a prosecutor for many years, got better verdicts than my male counterparts, and had an elected female DA as my boss, and only found out through an expose in the paper that I was so severely underpaid than my lazy male counterparts who barely did a trial in a year, while I was doing dozens. The article showed a HUGE disparity between my male colleagues versus my female colleagues. Prior to this article I had been told over and over that there was no money for a raise, yet found out only through this article it was complete bull shit. And in talking to my fellow prosecutors in other states, they have found the same to be true regarding their pay. The good old boy culture still exists, it is making progress, but still exists. Your example does not reflect the experience of most women and it is unfair to belittle or minimize the experiences of others as a result.
11:00 AM on 08/30/2011
And your one example does not sum up the experiences of most women either. Personality plays a part in who gets promoted as well. Maybe you're a difficult person to get along with and they were trying to run you out of the department/firm.

My major issues with these studies is they do not account for the number of women who take time off to raise children (not a bad thing) and they don't do a very good job assigning comparable jobs dominated by each sex - its just someone's opinion that a cop should be paid the same as a teacher or a hair stylist should be paid the same as a brick layer.
02:16 AM on 09/01/2011
Why haven't you asserted your legal right to sue for equal rights? You're a trained attorney, for heaven's sake!
11:14 AM on 08/29/2011
Great article on the wage gap myth by Kay Hymowitz in the Wall Street Journal

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424053111903454504576486690371838036.html?mod=WSJ_Opinion_LEFTSecondBucket
10:26 AM on 08/30/2011
looks like u beat me to it
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blarneydude
I can handle the truth. Now let's talk about you.
10:38 AM on 08/30/2011
Even given the source (the WSJ, which seems to have a weetad of a political slant), anyone addressing the alleged "wage gap" has a formidable task in addressing the common-sense assertions of this article.
10:50 AM on 08/29/2011
The claims that women don't get equal pay for equal work are bogus. Women on average work fewer hours. They are 20x less likely to die on the job. Though more likely to take time off. Averages in wage would only reflect equal pay for equal work if the average choices that men and women make were the same. So tell your daughter that if she wants to make more then she has to work more. Single women under 30 make more than single men. Explain that if women are discriminated against.

As far as being represented in government. The same types of choices are what effects that. Running for and winning a political office means spending time in another city away from your family. Women are much more reluctant to do that than men. In terms of a person's happiness I don't know that filling those positions makes a person enjoy their life more.
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Rus Viking
"The opposite of courage, is conformity."
11:39 AM on 08/29/2011
"Single women under 30 make more than single men. Explain that if women are discrimina­ted against."

They can't.

And it's not a recent phenomenon, either.

Well done.
07:07 AM on 08/29/2011
You can tell your daughter that when accounting for field, education, experience and hours worked, the pay gap disappears.
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04:48 AM on 08/29/2011
We all must equally EARN our pay. If you have outside commitments that will lessen your commitment to your employer, you are going to EARN what you are worth to the business. Deal with it, there is no such inequality.
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iLdoRight
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04:11 AM on 08/29/2011
I hope you will tell your daughter to become as intelligent, as morally excellent and as good work ethic and quality work capable as she can be. Some men have worked with females who flirt and use their sexuality to get out of doing any real work, they make it rough on themselves and other females who come into that work place. I have walked into stores where you can usually find some females standing in the back of the store talking, but the men are always working. On average my honest opinion is that in many job classifications the females are not doing enough work to merit equal pay. Help her develop any natural talents and natural abilities she has, and remember to suggest that she finds some type that is fun for her and that she would likely do for free, but find a way to get paid for it. Help her become the best at it that she can be and do it humbly and with the excellence of a master.
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
07:32 PM on 08/30/2011
Another thing for some to consider if their circumstance in life is such that they do not need income is, "How can one best spend their time and money in the most satisfying way?" Perhaps trying to make the world a better place, (or trying to get the people in the world to be better people). The best, most efficient way I found to accomplish that is by trying to get people to live up to the values, ideals, principles, standards and beliefs of "true" Christianity. Doing it yourself with hands on watching to get the most for your dollar can be fun, while feeling like you have been taken for a "sucker" by some scammer can leave one feeling a little depressed. Think of what it feels like to know you have helped even one person decide not to kill someone, or rape someone, or do any of the other evil deeds that humans do in evil manner to other humans or animals. Just telling children, "Try to have a little good clean fun every day and try to learn something good every day and if you get smart enough you can help me try to make the world a better place in a way that does not harm anyone, doesn't that sound like fun" can be fun in itself. I add, "Thats what I try to do and it can be fun and you will always have something to do because the world needs so much improving".
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FLECKENSTEIN44
Pointing out the hypocrisy of the Left and Right
08:21 PM on 08/28/2011
What do you want? Force people to vote for women in elections so their would be equal representation?

Not happening. How about you get some smart women to run for office instead of these Palins, Bachmanns and that maxine waters were all hearing about.
03:45 PM on 08/28/2011
Wow ... amazing amount of hatred and sexism to found here. May I suggest that before some of you have ANY discussion with your daughters that you first work out what's behind your hatred and male bashing syndrome. Your daughter(s) deserve better ...
05:23 AM on 08/28/2011
How about telling your little girl that by every objective standard-life expectancy,health,education,etc.-she is better off being female than male.