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Kristin Shaw
Kristin Shaw is a freelance writer, 2014 and 2015 BlogHer Voice of the Year, and co-producer of the Listen to Your Mother show in Austin, where she is the mother of a mini Texan.
You can reach her via Twitter @AustinKVS, Facebook, or her blog, where she writes about relationships, motherhood and love.

Entries by Kristin Shaw

Planning A Girl's Night As Moms Is Like Catching Fireflies

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2015 | 12:08 PM


As a girl, I pursued fireflies in the yard and captured them in a pickle jar with small holes carefully punched into the metal lid. Not much of a nature lover, I nevertheless enjoyed the tickle of the small bugs tiptoeing across my...

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Il "peso" della maternità

(14) Comments | Posted May 9, 2015 | 1:21 PM

Nel primo trimestre di vita di mio figlio ho perso tre chili e mezzo, perché mi nutrivo solo di waffles, cereali, merendine e dolciumi. Non avevo idea che la gravidanza potesse ridurre una donna questi livelli, per settimane. Non riuscivo a vedere la luce alla fine del tunnel mentre mi...

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Marriage After Kids: The Junk Drawer Effect

(5) Comments | Posted February 5, 2015 | 9:42 AM

I save things. I save everything. The TV people are not going to come knocking at my door to film a Hoarders episode, but if it has sentimental value, I save it. I have relics from the proms I attended; love letters from a sweet sophomore boy when I was...

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Does Kindness Matter? My Grandmother Says Yes

(1) Comments | Posted February 4, 2015 | 9:53 AM

My grandmother kept two freezers full of food at all times; she was a product of the Great Depression, born in 1916. Every time she saw a neighbor, or the garbage man, or the mail carrier, she offered him something from her home. A cookie. A juice box. Perhaps something...

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Luckier the Second Time

(1) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 1:35 PM

Believe it or not, I drew his name out of a fishbowl at a company event; it's one of the luckiest things that has ever happened to me.

On our first date, after two months of phone calls and email exchanges, he referred to the rest of our...

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Das Gewicht des Mutterseins

(2) Comments | Posted October 2, 2014 | 6:40 PM

Drei ist die Anzahl der Kilos, die ich in meinem dritten Trimester mit meinem Sohn verloren habe, weil ich nichts vertrug außer Waffeln, Müsli und Toaster-Gebäck.

Ich hatte keine Ahnung, dass die Schwangerschaft einer Frau über Wochen hinweg so den Magen verdrehen konnte. Ich konnte das Licht am Ende des...

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The Weight of Motherhood

(71) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 2:32 PM

Seven is the number of pounds I lost in my first trimester with my son, because I could not stomach anything but waffles, cereal, Pop Tarts and toaster pastries. I had no idea that pregnancy could make a woman quite that sick for weeks at a time. I couldn't see...

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Rare Bird: Learning About Hope From a Grieving Mother

(3) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 3:20 PM

I detest the news. In fact, the news has become so frightening to me, especially now that I have a son, that I often avoid it. I know it's not the responsible, civic thing to do, but sometimes, it's the only way I stay sane. No matter what you do,...

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Brave: A Father's Love

(31) Comments | Posted August 29, 2014 | 11:20 AM

Sixteen years ago, a little boy was born. Austin was happy and healthy, with a shock of soft red hair, and grew up like any other little boy in the Midwest.

At the time, Austin was related to Brian by marriage; Austin was the son of Brian's brother-in-law, his...

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The Spaces Between

(9) Comments | Posted August 22, 2014 | 5:37 PM

I don't know about you, but as a GO GO GO, Type-A kind of person, it's tempting for me to fill up all of my time with "scheduled fun" for my family. Swimming lessons. Let's go to the museum. Meet me at the playground. Sign up for camp.


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Learning to Fly

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2014 | 1:28 AM


The robin is plump and strong, her orange-red breast flashing across the yard to the nearest tree when we approach the front door. She built her nest there, above the porch light, while my parents were on vacation. It is made of sticks...

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Goodbye, Ring

(33) Comments | Posted June 30, 2014 | 11:01 AM

I saw the ring in a magazine for brides-to-be, and it caught and held my eyes for what felt like a long and lingering stare. It was a white gold Tacori design, cradling a sapphire at its center, with small encrusted diamond and sapphire accents encircling it.

It winked at...

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Lessons from Dad: Enjoy the Ride

(0) Comments | Posted June 12, 2014 | 11:58 AM

My dad is a car fanatic. He is also a saver, and paid cash for a '66 Corvette, brand new. I'm sure he was sad to let it go when I was born in 1970. Dad grew up in a family with a bunch of boys and he was fated...

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To All of the Maggies of the World

(2) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 3:47 PM

Last June, photographer Sara Naomi Lewkowicz won the 2013 Ville de Perpignan Rémi Ochlik Award for her work documenting domestic violence. She had followed a couple, Shane and Maggie, for several months and photographed moments of their lives in great detail. Sarah wrote on her site:

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Lessons from My Mother -- As a Mixtape

(1) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 4:19 PM

My mother taught me how to dance, to my great embarrassment, at various weddings throughout my childhood.

We did the jitterbug, the waltz, the mashed potato, the chicken dance and the polka. Yep, the polka. We're not even Polish.

She has always had a love of music that...

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Brave: The Heads-Down, No-Helmet Approach to Life

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 11:54 AM


When he was 12-years-old, Robin was climbing up Lookout Mountain in Colorado on his first road bike at 12 miles an hour long after dark one night. He heard a siren, and a police officer stopped him; it was way past curfew.


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Brave: Hearts, Mended

(0) Comments | Posted April 28, 2014 | 12:57 PM


When I lived in Atlanta, there were seven couples who got together frequently on the weekends. My friends Becky and Ben were the constants, the ones who brought everyone together, and we were all very close. Over the course of several years, however,...

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The One Word I Need To Remember

(2) Comments | Posted March 8, 2014 | 11:00 PM

The plane was full, and we were in the very back row. I acquiesced to my husband's request for an afternoon flight this time instead of the cheaper tickets that required a pre-dawn wakeup call, knowing that it could be touch and go with holiday delays. Indeed, both flights were...

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When Are Cupcakes More Important Than Compassion?

(9) Comments | Posted February 24, 2014 | 5:15 PM

Imagine, for a moment, that you see a little girl. There is a substance that will kill her if she gets too close to it, and for the most part, she is good at staying away from it. However, at her school, kids are allowed to celebrate their birthdays with...

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Brave: What Can You Do With One Arm?

(1) Comments | Posted January 29, 2014 | 5:22 AM


He never talks about the accident.

He was 16 and riding in the car with a friend who was two years older. Driving on country roads in northern New Jersey, they didn't think anything could hurt them, these two first-generation Dutch-Americans.

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