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Lara Lillibridge
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Lara Lillibridge lives in the Midwest, where she tries to balance the writing life with single parenthood. She finds joy in singing off-beat and dancing off-key. She has had essays published at The Good Men Project, The Feminist Wire, Airplane Reading and Brain, Child magazine's Brain, Mother blog. You can read her less coherent ramblings at http://www.only-mama.com

Entries by Lara Lillibridge

The Word Isn't Normal. The Word Is Mainstream.

(1) Comments | Posted October 20, 2014 | 6:22 PM

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I came across this article on the lovely Jillian Michaels. In this article she admits that it would be "a dream" to be straight. Because I have no social life, I read the comments about her statement, and the majority...

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Feminist Mama Manifesto

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 2:44 PM

I wanted to be a prostitute for Halloween. My mother wouldn't let me. I wanted to be a cheerleader. My mother wouldn't let me. My mother only allowed gender neutral toys to cross my path until I wrapped up a bag of kitty litter in my blanket and rocked to...

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Always a Bride, Never a Bridesmaid -- Hope After Multiple Divorces

(2) Comments | Posted June 4, 2014 | 12:30 PM

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I've been divorced twice. I've typed those words into lots of blogs, and there's a good reason for it -- it used to be my biggest embarrassment. I figured being divorced once was acceptable, but twice was over the limit....

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I Almost Photoshopped My Own Picture, But Here's Why I Didn't

(0) Comments | Posted May 23, 2014 | 1:37 PM

I recently posted a blog with this picture:

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And every time I look at it, I see my belly is a little too round for my liking. Now, I know I am well within the normal curve, but that doesn't mean I am...

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Growing Up Straight in the Gay World

(2) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 5:30 PM

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When I was in my early 20s, my best friend, Sally*, started dating women. She joined a fledgling online discussion group for other women questioning their sexuality, and she soon made a bunch of real life friends...

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Do We Need a Ritual for Divorce?

(5) Comments | Posted May 7, 2014 | 3:11 PM

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I was talking to a man in a bar last night who is currently going through a divorce, and he said something that struck me as remarkably brilliant: "Why is it that there is all this ceremony to getting married, and...

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The Truth About How Hard Single Parenting Is

(3) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 2:52 PM

I know some people who are contemplating leaving their marriages, and the knee-jerk reaction is to caution them about how hard single parenting is.

Don't stay in your marriage because you fear hard work. Yes, it's hard to be a single parent, but it's also hard to be a...

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The Right to Gay Divorce

(4) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 12:04 PM

There is something missing from the gay marriage debate. It's not just about feeling validated, retirement or health care benefits. All those things are nice, but those of us afforded the benefits of marriage take one major thing for granted -- the right to a mediated dissolution if the relationship...

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What If We Treated Marriage More Like the Contract It Is?

(239) Comments | Posted November 27, 2013 | 2:58 PM

I've been married twice, and both times I went into it with a lot of hope and enthusiasm. Both times, I planned to remain married to this person forever and ever, amen. And both times, I didn't. Both times, I was the instigator in the divorce.

I reflect on that...

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