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12 Ways to Know if a Man (or Woman) Will Make You Feel Emotionally Secure

06/01/2015 12:59 pm ET | Updated Jun 01, 2016

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Have you ever said to a friend, "He's such a great guy and our sex is hot, but I don't feel emotionally safe with him." Or, "She's really pretty, but I don't feel any emotional connection when we make love." Or, "We have such great sexual chemistry, but he's so detached during sex that it makes me feel emotionally insecure."

Have you every met someone who attracts you sexually, but you just didn't feel any emotional connection to them? If your regular dating experience is that you rarely meet someone who, both emotionally and sexually, attracts you - it could be because you are dating the wrong type of man (or woman) to fit your emotional needs.

The Moon sign rules a person's emotions and deep-rooted feelings. It indicates their cultural conditioning, and immediate emotional response to people, places and things. It reveals the attitudes that were instilled in the individual by their family and developed in their childhood. The Moon position determines how a person reacts to the behavior and actions of others. The Moon sign reveals the special needs a person has to feel emotionally satisfied and secure.

The Moon position gives insights about a person's domestic nature and home preferences, and the type of relationship he (or she) has had with his mother or women in general. It is also an indicator of eating habits.

When two people have compatible Moon signs, they enjoy just being in each other's space. They intuitively understand each other's needs. Often, (especially if their Mercury's are compatible) they can talk for hours and feel like they've known each other for years! They have a natural ease of living together. They're likely to appreciate the same home décor, and have similar food preferences and eating habits. Because they have complimentary habit patterns, they respond to daily problems and minor differences in similar ways. They also enjoy an emotionally intimate sex life together.

Incompatible Moon signs between a couple can produce emotional confrontations and disharmonious day-to-day living together. Their habit patterns clash and they have major differences in personal behavior and eating habits (e.g. "I hate the way she squeezes the toothpaste out of the tube." Or, "I can't stand the way he talks with all that food in his mouth.") Because they spend so much time angry or at odds with each other, their relationship lacks the emotional intimacy that makes for a satisfying sexual relationship.

In order to have a harmonious relationship, it's important that you and your partner understand each other on an emotional level. If you're going to have an emotionally satisfying and secure relationship, and intimate sex life, it's important to know that your Moon signs are compatible.

At the end of this article, you can use the FREE Transit Calculator to find out your Moon sign. Then, look it up (in the list below) to learn about your unique emotional needs and the signs you'll be most compatible. Here is a list of the 12 Moon signs:

Moon in ARIES

You have a fiery, independent nature that can be charming as long as you're getting what you want. You insist on doing what you want whether it's right or wrong. Because of this tendency, you resent anyone interfering with your actions. You can be rather impatient and have an emotionally volatile nature, often behaving impulsively without carefully considering the consequences of your actions. Your nature is to have sudden flare-ups of temper, which begin and end quickly and are soon forgotten. Despite your warm, loveable nature, you have a tendency to want to dominate others emotionally.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius and Libra.

Moon in TAURUS

Your emotional well-being is connected to your need for material security which is why you often attract wealth to your life. You're always conscious of looking out for your own interests. You tend to be conservative, steady and dependable with a great deal of common sense in both domestic and financial matters. A stable domestic home life is essential to your emotional security. Your sensuous nature causes you to enjoy good food, great music, earthy sex, and all the material comforts of life. However, your tendency to be stubborn can make it difficult for you to make changes in your emotional behavior.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn and Scorpio.

Moon in GEMINI

You have the ability to be charming and quick-witted, as well as moody and irritable. You also have a tendency to vacillate emotionally and be rather superficial. People with this Moon position are often "chatter boxes," capable of talking incessantly. You may be inclined to rationalize your emotions to the point where you don't know how you feel inside. Your tendency to be nervous and restless and constantly on the move can result in becoming excited about doing "ten things at once," but not finishing any of them. Because of your rational mind, you have a natural gift of thinking up practical solutions to domestic problems.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Gemini, Libra, Aquarius and Sagittarius.

Moon in CANCER

You require tenderness, understanding and security. You have the capacity for real depth and intensity of emotions that gives you an almost "psychic" sensitivity to the feelings of others. Unfortunately, this can result in your being over-sensitive and hurt by imagining that you've been slighted - even if you haven't. You are often focused on memories from your past, which can nurture you or plague you. You are likely to have a strong domestic side that expresses itself by being a great cook, homemaker or just very devoted to your family (especially your mother). Domestic security, having a home and partner are important for your emotional happiness.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces and Capricorn.

Moon in LEO

You're a warm and emotionally proud person who seeks to be loved, admired and appreciated. With a flair for the dramatic, you like to entertain and be the center of attention. While dignified, you have a strong need for romance and affection. But there is a tendency for you to be self-centered and act like a diva (or king or queen, which of course you are). You can be quite stubborn and take it very personally when you're criticized. Your need to love and be loved is an emotional drive that tends to give you an upbeat and sunny disposition. You enjoy creating a beautiful home and like to oversee and control your domestic environment.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Leo, Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Moon in VIRGO

You are kind and always helpful. But you are emotionally shy and retiring when it comes to expressing how you feel. One of your saving graces is that you enjoy being of service to others. Domestically, you are neat and clean in both your personal hygiene, and domestic environment. You are health-minded and pay attention to your diet and eating habits. You are a perfectionist who can be overly self critical of yourself or others. You spend a great deal of time worrying. You have to be careful of your tendency to be over-concerned with details instead of paying attention to the big picture. You are intellectually curious on matters of a more practical nature and enjoy doing tasks around the house.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn or Pisces.

Moon in LIBRA

You have a deep emotional need to be in a relationship in order to feel complete. However, your strong sensitivity to the attitudes and reactions of others causes you to be easily influenced by them. Crudeness of any kind, such as vulgar language, turn you off. Any conflict that causes disharmony in your relationships is quite upsetting and can adversely affect how you physically feel. You are kind and courteous to others because your emotional well-being is contingent on the approval of the people you interact with. There is a warm, pleasing charm in your countenance and manner. Domestically you favor places of beauty where you can socialize and entertain your friends.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Libra, Gemini, Aquarius and Aries.

Moon in SCORPIO

You seek out intimate relationships where you can experience emotional intensity. Consciously or unconsciously you put those you love through many tests to prove their worthiness of you. Unconsciously, you feel a need for your partner to give up something that proves their love for you. Once they do, you are loyal and protective in every way. However, your serious commitment to a relationship can lead to your becoming possessive, controlling or even jealous. If you are personally affronted or betrayed, you have a tendency to hold grudges (or even seek revenge). In a positive way, you have the ability to be a transforming force in your intimate relationships as long as you don't try to re-make others.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces and Taurus.

Moon in SAGITTARIUS

You are optimistic and have a very idealistic emotional nature. Something inside you is drawn to adventure, travel and even living in a foreign country (or even having a relationship with someone from another culture). But you need a great deal of personal freedom to explore and don't like getting stuck in any routine too long. Heavy responsibilities can feel very restricting for you, causing you to want to escape. You enjoy philosophizing, discussing social values, the spiritual realm and even religion. But you need to be careful, because you do have the potential to be arrogant and a bit of a proselytizer.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Sagittarius, Aries, Leo and Gemini.

Moon in CAPRICORN

There is a very responsible and dignified air about you. You are conservative and respect tradition. But you have an emotionally reserved and cautious nature that can come off as being cold. Behind closed doors, feeling more secure, you're more likely to let go and let the "real you" come out. You are very serious and opportunistic, strongly identifying with material rather than spiritual values. One of your best qualities is that you're ambitious and will work hard to achieve status, position and financial security. However, because you are driven toward seeking money and power, you may selfishly pursue your own interests. Fortunately, operating with honesty and integrity is important to you.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo and Cancer.

Moon in AQUARIUS

You come off as detached, independent and a bit of a loner. However, you are emotionally intuitive and have a wonderful capacity to empathize with the needs of the world. Because friendship is one of your basic needs, you are friendly to all, in an impersonal way. Your home is an ideal place for group activities with your many friends. One of your biggest needs in a domestic relationship is the freedom to come and go without being restricted. You have a fear that emotional involvements will pose a threat to your personal liberty. But when your fears are assuaged, you are loving, fair, trustworthy and loyal.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Aquarius, Gemini, Libra and Leo.

Moon in PISCES

You are very psychic and seem to know how things feel even if you've never actually experienced the actual event. Because of your compassionate nature, you are kind and sympathetic to the feelings of others. Your super sensitive emotional nature acts like a psychic sponge, soaking up the thoughts and feelings of those close to you. You can be shy and your feelings can easily be hurt, even when no slight was intended. You're psychically vulnerable when you're intimately involved with someone. The intensity of feelings you experience may be so great, you feel a need to withdraw into seclusion to protect yourself emotionally. You're emotionally drawn to fantasy, especially where it concerns the romantic and ideal.

For Emotional Compatibility: You're likely to be compatible with those who have their Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus or Mars in Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio and Virgo.

To learn what sign your MOON is in, use the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. It will compute your personal transits for 2015 and the planets in your birth chart. Then, make sure to scroll down to the bottom of the page, where you'll see your planets and the sign they're in. You will see the sign your MOON is in. And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope in 2015 and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health in: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015.

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Larry Schwimmer is president of Astrodecision.com, a San Francisco-based consulting company. The firm uses planetary cycles analysis to counsel individual and corporate clients on picking the "best dates" to make successful decisions of all types: personal, marketing, financial, and political. The firm currently advises a diverse client base that includes politicians, presidents of major corporations and an MLB baseball team. Schwimmer is an internationally known business consultant, life coach and astrologer (with a Fortune 500 M&A background). Visit his website: Astrodecision.com