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Laura Lee Carter
Laura Lee Carter, the writer behind the popular blog, has been helping others turn midlife emotional difficulties into opportunities for personal change since 2005. Besides working as a psychotherapist specialized in midlife psychology, Laura Lee has authored a number of books and e-books on midlife change. Don’t miss Find Your Reason To Be Here, Midlife Magic, and How To Believe In Love Again: Opening To Forgiveness, Trust, and Your Own Inner Wisdom.

Entries by Laura Lee Carter

Bloggers Become Powerful Business Influencers

(5) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 9:10 AM

In case you weren't aware, bloggers are presently in a battle for their livelihood. The enemy is the new "influencing agencies" who believe we should enjoy working as the unpaid sales force for corporate America.

Boomer = Consumer
Keep in mind, we boomers were born into the age...

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Midlife Change? What Could Be More Natural?

(0) Comments | Posted March 7, 2014 | 11:31 AM

"Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you." - Carl Sandburg

I now feel liberated from only doing the most basic type of...

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The U.S. Loves Football, Brain Injuries Not So Much

(3) Comments | Posted August 30, 2013 | 12:58 PM

After suffering a terrible fall from my bike five years ago, I experienced a traumatic brain injury (TBI). From that perspective, I find the present attention on injured NFL players interesting.

First, as a culture, we do our best to convince young men that playing football is the best way...

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Invincible No More

(12) Comments | Posted August 2, 2013 | 2:24 PM

Perhaps it is the accumulation of recent experiences. Whether is was my 40th high school reunion last week, seeing new photos of old loves on Facebook recently or looking at myself in the mirror every morning, all I know is this whole aging thing is starting to get to me....

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What I Have Gotten Out of Writing Besides Money

(8) Comments | Posted July 18, 2013 | 11:31 AM

I know. Every case is unique. But in my case, becoming a writer in midlife has given me a new sense of meaning and purpose. I no longer sit and wonder why I'm here, I know!

At age 49, I lost my career as an academic librarian. One day it...

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I Said I'm Divorced, Not Contagious!

(15) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 5:45 PM

A major contradiction in our culture is the illusion that there's no longer any stigma attached to getting divorced. Oh, come on! It's a nice party line, but I found this to be absolutely false.

When I got my divorce -- which was a completely friendly transaction with no...

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Is Life Worth the Effort?

(10) Comments | Posted May 27, 2013 | 2:30 PM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

Is life worth the effort?

JD Schramm asks and answers a few important questions about suicide, and what happens to its survivors in his recent...

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Memorial Day and the Vietnam Vet

(0) Comments | Posted May 25, 2013 | 2:44 PM

Most of us are about to celebrate Memorial Day, a holiday which meant very little to me until I married a Vietnam-era veteran. I am afraid most young people have no way to understand exactly what happened to those in their late teens and twenties during the Vietnam War.


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Why Is Boomer Suicide on the Rise?

(7) Comments | Posted April 19, 2013 | 2:32 PM

This past Thursday, I attended the funeral of my 54-year-old cousin. This marks the second apparent suicide in my direct family in the past three years. Perhaps now you see why "midlife crisis" is a serious subject for me.

There have been a number of studies on boomer suicide that...

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The Truth About Midlife

(5) Comments | Posted April 4, 2013 | 1:49 PM

What is normal and to be expected as we move into our 40s and 50s? What do most boomers have in common psychologically, simply because of their place in American history? Myths and misinformation abound, but what do we know for sure?

How did the boomers' place in American history...

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Are You Tired of Taking Care of Everyone But Yourself?

(2) Comments | Posted March 25, 2013 | 5:00 PM

As we age, we may get tired of taking care of everyone else, and never getting our own needs met. Can we learn how to be different? Can we change?

Only if we are fully ready for something different than the same old codependent routine. Are you finally ready to...

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Midlife Changes Everything!

(11) Comments | Posted March 19, 2013 | 9:32 PM

I experienced a divorce at age 46 and job/career loss a few years later. Up until that time, I had no idea how common and normal these types of changes are in midlife. Then, as I read more about it, I realized it wasn't just me who did not recognize...

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Boomer Psych 101: You Are Not Alone

(6) Comments | Posted March 11, 2013 | 2:19 PM

Have you noticed a few changes in yourself over the past four or five decades? Did you think it was just you? I found it very reassuring to know it wasn't.

I began to wonder what boomers share as a generation, so I read the research. Some of the...

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A Few Things I've Learned Since High School

(43) Comments | Posted March 8, 2013 | 5:13 AM

Come to find out, this spring marks the 40th year since I graduated from high school. Who knew? I certainly didn't until I received a friendly note from the reunion committee. So I joined their Facebook page and started looking around.

What did I find? The faces of hundreds of...

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Life Lessons From My Dog

(6) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 12:34 PM

My dog Rasta only weighs 11 pounds, but he doesn't know that. He greets everyone at our front door with an assertive, defensive stance, and protects us from every squirrel that wanders into our backyard.

2013-02-22-Rastasmallestsize.jpgHere are a few life lessons he...

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How Love Changes With Age

(11) Comments | Posted February 22, 2013 | 3:25 PM

First, I heard on a PBS special about pets that many of us today have had longer relationships with our dogs than with significant others. Then this morning, I heard that many people are so in "love" with their iPads, that they would rather break-up with...

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What's Different About Midlife?

(0) Comments | Posted February 22, 2013 | 11:19 AM

I suffered through a few bad years in my late 40s. It seemed I just could not get my life right. First, I married the wrong man at age 39, and that turned out badly. I also continued to work in a career that simply didn't suit me anymore. Why?...

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Negotiating Normal Midlife Changes

(1) Comments | Posted February 13, 2013 | 6:33 PM

A friend of mine is now facing imminent retirement. Her greatest fear is that this will change her in negative ways. She feels the natural anxiety and confusion of no longer feeling certain of her purpose, and does not want to lose that sense of knowing where she fits into...

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Boomers: Engineered to Consume

(11) Comments | Posted February 4, 2013 | 2:15 PM

Do you ever tire of being manipulated everywhere you turn? I do. Everywhere I look, someone is trying to influence my decisions. They think that if they can say just the right words, they will succeed in transferring my money into their bank account. To these people I say: "How...

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What Does Midlife Mean?

(14) Comments | Posted January 30, 2013 | 4:32 PM

I went through the most devastating time in my life starting around age 39. First, I married the wrong man, got divorced seven years later, and soon after, lost my job and 25-year career at age 49. All of this I experienced basically alone, with no idea that what I...

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