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03/18/2010 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

What Tiger Woods Can Learn From George Clooney: Why Marry and Have Kids?

I want to ask the readers this question: If Tiger Woods did continue to act single once he was married, then why marry and have children at all if he wasn't ready?

George Clooney is a man who has dated many beautiful women over the years and has made no secret of it. He is single, does not have children and lives his life how he wants to and the public likes him.

The main difference is that is he is not married, has not promised to be faithful to one woman, therefore "forsaking" all others. One of my favorite quotes that I do not know the source of is that the best gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. It is difficult for a child to feel content and loved when Dad is out with multiple women while his wife is home, upset or off balance. So, when men who cheat on their spouses or do other upsetting behaviors but say, "But I love my kids", is that from the father's perspective or the child's experience Kids often can't understand the complexities and just feel unhappy about their mom or parents being unhappy.

Here are some traditional standard vows.

Do you GROOM'S NAME take BRIDE'S NAME to be your wife -- to live together after God's ordinance - in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart's deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live?

Some marriages happen to please parents. Others to fit in. Others, to handle an unplanned pregnancy. As reason number seven, here is a good summary of one of the things that can lead to a long term happy marriage.

Marriages that begin because of genuine understanding and caring have better success than those started for the "wrong reasons," such as getting away from home, rebellion, or wanting to be "grown up.

So, why do you think some people choose to marry and have kids, which is essentially making promises of fidelity and loyalty and being consistently available spiritually, physically, emotionally and financially for their wife and children, and then don't follow through? Why not just stay single and sow more wild oats?