Have you heard the term "dad bod"? I had heard rumblings but I looked into it further when Kaitlyn Bristowe (the latest Bachelorette) remarked to my beloved People magazine that she didn't want a mate with the "dad bod". Even as someone who feel looks matter and fitness definitely matters my "uh oh antennae" activated.
OK so first this "dad bod" term. Dad bod is said to be coined by college student Mackenzie Pearson. At least she's credited with it but she also says her friends had been using the descriptor so I can't be sure. Who really cares? What's interesting is that "dad bod" refers to a man "with a nice balance of a beer gut and working out." Basically, a guy with a normal body. I cannot even for a minute imagine if "mom bod" was used. I think of mom jeans and a total backlash "this has nothing to do with having kids" etc.
As usual, I digress. The truth is I think dad bod has been widely accepted for a long time. Washboard abs are not on many women's list of requirements especially if you are in a relationship with a "dad" and I mean married or just in a long-term relationship (not with your dad, someone else's dad etc.). If I'm speaking personally (and my husband has never been overweight, very active etc.) a) that "I spend my life lifting weights" look isn't my thing and b) would any woman seriously want all that goes along with a guy who is more neurotic than you are? No thanks, I've got that covered.
So the dad bod concept isn't new. The dad bod is actually a step up from what many men (over 25) look like. If I'm dreaming I wish men would come out and say "we don't like a woman with a super flat stomach, perfection is not what we're after"...but that would require I go back to sleep and dreamland.
What do you think of dad bod? Ladies, single and otherwise, do you want washboard or dad bod? Do you think it says something that Kaitlyn doesn't want a guy with a dad bod? Please tell me you knew who Kaitlyn was. And guys, do you like women saying that chiseled isn't crucial or do you even care?
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