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Body Matters

Posted: 12/27/2013 4:32 pm

The beginning of the year is undeniably a good time to deal with your body. This new year is a line of demarcation, thank goodness. We are all, the willing and the unwilling, forced to deal with our bodies. All the commercials on TV even are telling us it's time to rein in the calories.

But it's predictable that unless you dig in a new, deeper way, all your good intentions will be out the window by February. There's a lot I can share with you in this area of life, but I want to give you some key tips today on what will help you succeed with your New Year's resolutions about your body.

1) Stop resisting that you have to deal with your body. It comes with being human. It's just the childlike "brat" in your head that wishes it were any different. Mature adults recognize that it's actually a privilege to learn to make good choices. In fact it's what differentiates us from (impulsive) children. We can delay gratification, and when we do, lo and behold, we feel better about ourselves.

2) Recognize that dealing with your body will make everything better. (Wait, read that again and let it sink in.) Starting with your self-respect and self-confidence, you'll be more focused, alert and better rested. You will notice an improvement in your love life, family life, sex life and your professional life. That is a big "bang for your buck!"

3) Tell people about your new intentions and be specific. Not just: "I want to lose 20 pounds this year," but: "I want to lose one pound a week and I am going to do it by XYZ method."

4) Set yourself up to win by starting with a realistic goal and realistic limitations. As long as you are successfully shedding weight (or resculpting, or even gaining, depending on your issues, according to your dream) schedule in treats so you prevent feeling deprived.

5) Be proud that you are going for your dream. Know that it means you are going to have to tackle the bratty voices in your head every day and you'll have to face fears, too. (We call this your "brat" and your "chicken" and they can be so convincing!) Most of us keep on extra weight to avoid dealing with fear of intimacy, facing something that isn't working in our lives or dealing with sexuality issues. So be proud that you are willing to let those things come up and finally deal with them.

If not now, when? This is your life passing by. Please get back in the driver's seat. I know from my own experience having gone from a size-12 person to a size-4 person, how good it feels to deal with my body.

Love,
Laurie

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