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DOMA and Me

Posted: 07/11/11 05:46 PM ET

The 1996 Defense of Marriage Act ("DOMA") has two main parts. Section 2 of the act states that states need not recognize a relationship between persons of the same sex that is treated as a marriage under the laws of other states. This means that if I'm married in Massachusetts (as I am), Pennsylvania or North Dakota can treat me as unmarried. The law is broad enough to include civil union laws ("treated as a marriage") and provides no state-to-state protection for these, either.

This punitive law throws the usual rule relating to respect for the laws of other states under the bus, so to speak. The usual rule is that states must respect the laws (including marriage laws) of other states, under Article 4 of the U.S. Constitution. This is the "full faith and credit" provision, which states that "full faith and credit" shall be given in each state to the public acts (i.e., laws) of every other state.

Section 3 of DOMA says that for all federal law purposes, the word "marriage" means only a legal union between one man and one woman as spouses, and the word "spouse" refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife. This means that for all federal law purposes (including taxes, social security and Medicare), people in same-sex marriages in states that allow them are treated as legal strangers.

I started to wonder what the effect of DOMA had on my life, took out my calculator, and found out the following:

Our Federal Income Taxes

I computed my federal income taxes for me and my spouse in two ways: as we had filed (single, i.e., as legal strangers), and as joint (married) filers. Because of the graduated tax rates, someone like me (a 65-year-old lawyer earning above-average income and working full time) pays at a higher marginal and blended tax than my spouse (66 years old and semi-retired, with modest income). Massachusetts tax income is irrelevant in this calculation, first because Massachusetts has a flat tax rate (5.3 percent for earned income), and second because as we are legally married in Massachusetts, we are permitted to file jointly for Massachusetts tax purposes.

The difference between our hypothetical federal joint filing ($22,413 in taxes) and our separate filings ($25,664) is an extra expense of $3,251 for the year.

Social Security Income

Because my lifetime earnings are higher than my spouse's, my social security income is two times what hers is. This is a situation similar to many opposite-sex couples, whether one spouse's (usually the husband's) lifetime earnings are significantly greater than the other spouse's.

But here's where we depart from the opposite sex couple.

If I die before my spouse, unlike the husband/wife couple, she would not be able to receive my social security payment instead of hers. (This problem will be eliminated if DOMA were repealed or invalidated as unconstitutional.)

In order to protect my spouse from financial problems if I die before her, I started a 20-year guaranteed level payment term life insurance policy when I was 61. If I die (before age 81), this policy will pay $250,000 to my spouse. This will replace the social security she would have received had DOMA not barred us from being married for federal law purposes.

The insurance costs $1,650 per year. (But if I die at age 81 or later, my spouse will not be protected.)

So far, our loss is $4,901 a year.

Medicare Means Testing

But there is another loss. Both Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance) and Part D (Prescription Drug Plan) have a means-tested penalty, called the Medicare Income-Related Monthly Adjustment Amount (IRMAA). This penalty depends on what your income is and whether you file jointly or separately. The penalty is much less for spouses of unequal income (like us) filing jointly than for individuals filing separately. But because DOMA prevents us from joint filing, we are again (and doubly) penalized.

Our separate filer monthly IRMAA totals $214.60. The penalty is all relating to my income as a "single filer." My spouse's IRMAA is $0. If we could file jointly for Federal tax purposes, our IRMAA would be $0, based on our joint income (i.e., like similarly situated married couples, we would not be penalized at all). The difference is $2,575 a year. This amount, when added to our previous loss of $4,901, brings the grand total to $7,476 a year.

How Much Of A Financial Loss Is This, Really?

The actual loss is much higher than the number indicates. In order to "pay" the $7,467 of extra cost, I must use dollars that have gone through the tax system. These are termed "after-tax" dollars. In order to have available the after-tax dollars it costs to pay the extra costs resulting from DOMA, I need to earn $10,371 a year ($7,467, grossed up at my marginal tax rate of 28 percent). Once I earn $10,371, I pay the tax on it, and get to $7,467 to pay my (our) personal DOMA penalty.

That means, at age 65, I need to earn $10,371 more a year than a similarly situated couple in a heterosexual marriage in order to pay for the DOMA loss. Our total social security income at full retirement age (66) will be about $3,300 a month. The DOMA loss is a huge expense, and one not needed to be paid by heterosexual couples.

Most people my age are not able to retire as early as the previous generation. But this extra DOMA-produced burden makes it even more difficult for me to even think about retiring, so I've put that decision on hold. Indefinitely.

Another Big Loss For Us Caused By DOMA

DOMA causes personal losses for us, also. Here's one:

My spouse and I have made the personal choice of not living in a state that does not acknowledge our marriage. But as we get older, we think about moving closer to family. Our close family members live in Maryland and Pennsylvania, two states that do not have equal marriage rights. So our ability to move freely and be near our loved ones as we age is impaired. That's a real loss for us and our family that goes beyond the monetary cost to us that DOMA poses.

© Laurie Israel 2011

 

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The 1996 Defense of Marriage Act ("DOMA") has two main parts. Section 2 of the act states that states need not recognize a relationship between persons of the same sex that is treated as a marriage u...
The 1996 Defense of Marriage Act ("DOMA") has two main parts. Section 2 of the act states that states need not recognize a relationship between persons of the same sex that is treated as a marriage u...
 
 
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07:29 PM on 07/14/2011
If the main reason for wanting legalized gay marriage is for the financial benefits, then are you going to explain why it's fair for married people of ANY gender to get such a break over those of us who aren't legally tied to someone they're having sex with?
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ceeenbee
10:38 AM on 07/15/2011
Whether that is fair or not is a completely different topic. The question is should one group of married individuals get benefits that another group of married individuals do not. You have to compare apples to apples. You certainly have a valid question. This is probably not the best article in which to debate it, though.
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wafuu
01:59 AM on 07/14/2011
As a big bass fisherman once declared: "It's all about the dollar bill, baby!" Thanks to this writer for couching things in easily understood dollars and cents...and sense.
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knight7se7en
You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger....
06:25 PM on 07/13/2011
Excellent article, Ms. Israel!
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bryanzth
Honest to Goodness USA Patriot!
06:10 PM on 07/13/2011
You know, there needs to be a conference on the several ways to create the means to arriving at Equal Marriage. Teams using constitutional, contract and state laws should put up methods. Other teams shoot those methods down. Advance a new way. Bash it. Advance and bash. Repeat. What results (what survives) should work.

Has that been done?

BZ.
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g-moi
Let's GoGreen. We Can Do It.
05:04 PM on 07/13/2011
Marisa Stein - a great example of la la la I can't hear you
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RainbowTeacher
07:09 PM on 07/13/2011
And dragging other people in to support her who actually don't - like the NAACP.
reeltime07
Is this really the playground?
04:48 PM on 07/13/2011
I wonder if being legally married on a Reservation( yes, even we have Christian Churches) is legally binding to all the states and federal Government?
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angelcakesinc
Tolerance of intolerance is intolerable
10:47 PM on 07/13/2011
The church isn't what makes a marriage legal in this country but you know, that's a good question! I have no idea.
12:27 AM on 07/14/2011
Yep. As long as it's a heterosexual marriage
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Paul David Johnson
04:00 PM on 07/13/2011
Laurie,

Let's hope this issue is rectified so you and your spouse can enjoy the best years of your life as a legally recognized MARRIED couple.
03:55 PM on 07/13/2011
You've left out what is often the biggest (admittedly non-financial) cost of DOMA. Gay people can't sponsor their spouses for green cards.
12:28 AM on 07/14/2011
Most likely only because it doesn't apply to her personally. This wasn't meant to be comprehensive, but an overview of MAJOR expenses incurred by SSM-couples.
08:15 AM on 07/16/2011
In my situation, it is a financial cost. DOMA has cost me at least $40,000 over 5 years, because I've had to travel to visit my life partner for a few months each year. If my spouse could come to the U.S. then I would not have had to spend that money. I call that a MAJOR expense!
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SF TKF
Cthulhu thinks you'd make a nice sandwich.
03:55 PM on 07/13/2011
Why is it that the party supposedly most interested in small government is always the first to line up and support laws which limit the most personal of freedoms?
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Jacquie Hamilton
Love my Mollster
02:49 PM on 07/13/2011
Very insightful. Let us hope that DOMA is overturned very soon.
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eyecon
Retired CEO & Quality-Mgmt Consultant
01:51 PM on 07/13/2011
I wish that my fellow progressive gays would give President a tad more credit, at least for good faith. He has finessed - to perfection - what he promised to do. A recent example relates to marriage equality in New York. Had he NOT said that it was up to the states he would have galvanized opposition. This guy doesn't say or do anything that is not thought through, 12 moves ahead. Seriously.

Consider DADT. In making repeal process oriented, the President has ensured that some Yahoo cannot become President and undo it. It took much longer than Dan Choi wanted but it got done in a sure and durable way.

DOMA is another issue that has been carefully choreographed. Does anyone really think that the administration is not strategizing with Olson and Boies (and probably Rob Reiner who is paying the bills)? BOTH parts of DOMA will be repealed - probably by the courts.

How quickly people forget that we had a very different kind of President; Someone who would do things impulsively and look where it got us.
02:54 PM on 07/13/2011
Sorry--but I stopped buying the "11 level chess" story quite some time ago.

I'd suggest you go back and look at the timing of the movement on LGBT issue. For example--the granting of "some" benefits to federal employees was in response to the blogsphere calls for a boycott of the LGBT/DNC fundraiser. In like manner you can identify that almost alll political movement on LGBT issue was tied to bad press and/or fundraising and electorial math.

DADT and DOMA were chorographed? Don't make me laugh. They happened in spite of, not because of, the WH.

How quickly people ignore the type of Presidents we have had--LBJ who signed the civil rights act while acknowledging the Dems were losing the south for a generation; Truman who integrated the military even though the majority of the country was against it and he was facing a tough re-election; Teddy Roosevelt who was branded a "traitor to his class" by instituting income tax in order to combat an American aristocracy; and FDR who welcomed the hatred of the banking and business power brokers.
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knight7se7en
You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger....
05:12 PM on 07/13/2011
"LBJ who signed the civil rights act while acknowledging the Dems were losing the south for a generation ; Truman who integrated the military even though the majority of the country was against it and he was facing a tough re-election; Teddy Roosevelt who was branded a "traitor to his class" by instituting income tax in order to combat an American aristocracy; and FDR who welcomed the hatred of the banking and business power brokers."

Point #1: None of those individuals are alive. So to speculate on what they might or might not have done with regards to DOMA or DADT (and thus gay rights) in comparison to Obama is a waste of time.

Point #2: I would defy anyone to name for me any presidential candidate on the GOP side of the aisle who would do as much or more than Obama to further basic rights for gay citizens under the Constitution. Hell, there are Democrats in power right now that do not support a gay person's freedoms under the Constitution. The homosexual community should count it's blessings before it roasts arguably the most pro-gay rights president this country has ever seen.
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Giverny
Truthiness
08:07 PM on 07/13/2011
Do you remember the president saying I need to hear from you, I need you to let me know in no uncertain terms what it is you want? He needs that type of response to get through the mire of the house and senate. He needs the protests and people handcuffing themselves to the fence like Choi and Boyd did. Without it, he looks like he is completing his own agenda not ours. That goes for all of the issues. I phone my reps weekly with issues I care about including the White house. Names and voices give volume to to a laws presence.
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Giverny
Truthiness
03:11 PM on 07/13/2011
I believe Obama will do what he promised in good time but he is between a rock and a hard spot with the obstructionists. I see it as a chess game that he is having to play with the mission statement of "Timing is Everything". We all have our own agendas and waiting is hard and scary in most cases because life is pending... but we do have a president who is going through the list of promises one at a time and making it happen. I see marriage equity coming nationally very soon. It may not seem like it but it will.
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CoronaDischarge
Fired Up! Ready to go!
01:17 PM on 07/13/2011
DOMA will be on the scrap heap of history soon enough. It must be. The logical inconsistencies can't be swept away by religious dogma ... that itself has no place in our laws. 

It is the contract with the individual that must be upheld by government. It is the basis under which the governed have consented to be governed. It is imperative that the few must be protected from the tyranny of the many in the pursuit of their private lives. To allow otherwise is to subject all to the tyranny of uniformity - the antithesis of the promise that is America.
03:01 PM on 07/13/2011
You are abusing the definition of Tyranny. DOMA was not passed by a single leader with sole authority and power.

Please stop with the misinformation.
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TBJ
Irrelevent Blurb
03:43 PM on 07/13/2011
He said: "tyranny of the many".
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Christine Beatty
Transwoman author, activist.
03:59 PM on 07/13/2011
World English Dictionary:
tyranny (ˈtɪrənɪ)
— n , pl -nies
1. a. government by a tyrant or tyrants; despotism
b. similarly oppressive and unjust government by more than one person

You're splitting hairs, but for what purpose? You certainly seem to have a lot of disdain if not hatred for LGBT people. Why is that?
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WheelsOnFire
Fiercely Independent
10:58 PM on 07/18/2011
Brilliantly said.

Fanned & Faved.
01:02 PM on 07/13/2011
DOMA says a state does not have to extend you extra benefits that others in that state do not have, such as being married to someone of the same gender.

If Nevada gives you a liscence to deal blackjack do you get to deal blackjack when you move to Utah? NO.
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eyecon
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02:00 PM on 07/13/2011
Oy veh. Enshrined in our Constitution is the idea of equal protection under the law. Moreover, in Loving v Virginia it was determined that people have the right to marry the person of their choice. This is settled law. Your argument was actually made in Loving and dismissed by the Court.

Full faith and credit already extends to marriage. The constitutional issue is the failure to convey the same rights because of religious opprobrium over the parties to some marriages that you disapprove of. The Establishment Clause of the First Amendment addressed that issue more than two centuries ago.
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croneofcaulder
Dogs are better than people!
02:41 PM on 07/13/2011
Conservatives generally don't have great critical thinking skills. I'm not being mean, it's just an accurate observation (and I know plenty of them).
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redsox4
02:51 PM on 07/13/2011
Loving v. Virginia is based on race, not sexual choice...but you are right the law is settled under DOMA. No one in 1967 EVER bought up the argument of same sex marriage.
sean62965
Do you really need my "micro-bio"?
02:53 PM on 07/13/2011
That is not even comparing apples to oranges. The feds don't recognize the license to begin with. The feds take the SS and medicare from both, but, leave the other out of the equation.
Talk about redefining marriage, they had to write DOMA to do it. It will be repealed, soon. One court already said, it will move higher.
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anastasiabeaverhousen
Time wounds all heels
12:45 PM on 07/13/2011
Extremely well done, Ms Israel. Thank you.