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Why Women Are Burning Out at the Office Before Age 30

Posted: 06/05/2012 10:19 am

Symptom #1: You look forward to your mid-afternoon snack in order to break up your work day.

Symptom #2: You're critical or impatient with your cubicle-mate.

Symptom #3: You feel like you should be working more efficiently at the office and that there aren't enough hours in the day.

Diagnosis? It could be a standard case of the good ol' Monday blues... or you could be on the path to burnout.

Burnout is a psychological stress syndrome that occurs as a "response to chronic emotional and interpersonal stressors on the job." Besides feelings of excessive stress, burnout can ruin personal relationships and cause fatigue, insomnia, depression and anxiety.

What's worse? It may be spreading through Gen Y women like wildfire.

What's Going On
Larissa Faw, a Forbes writer, claims that burnout among under-30 women is pandemic. Pointing to McKinsey research, she writes that while 53% of entry-level corporate jobs go to women, they make up only 37% of mid-management and just 26% go on to become vice-presidents and senior managers. Meanwhile, men are twice as likely to advance at every stage.

The culprit? Faw says that women may "have simply reached their breaking point after spending their childhoods developing well-rounded résumés." Additionally, many women may have had unrealistic expectations about the working world, including the long hours demanded of them and the "day-to-day drudgery," which may come as a shock after college.

To top it all off, working women are worse at caring for themselves, she says: Men are 25% more likely to take breaks during the day for personal activities and 35% more likely to take time solely for relaxation. They also go for walks and head out to lunch more often than their female colleagues.

And, in Addition...
Given that many young graduates started their college careers in the recession and have doubtless been hounded by data on the flagging job market (have you seen that, for the first time in history, more unemployed people have some college education than not?), it could actually be more than too-high expectations and too-little self-care (though those are undoubtedly factors).

Rather, we believe that any burnout particular to young women stems (in addition to the usual culprits of unclear expectations, dysfunctional office dynamics, poor job fit and lack of control) from the fact that women have many expectations placed on them in addition to those set at the office.

Expert Carol Frohlinger, author of Her Seat at the Table and Nice Girls Just Don't Get It agrees, saying women grapple with society's expectations that they should be in a committed relationship, with their eyes on the prize, so to speak, of marriage and family. (And once they achieve those things? Then they have to deal with the "double shift" of work and motherhood.)

8 Steps to Avoiding Burnout
So, what can you do about all of this? While you likely won't be able to get your boss to turn your 7-to-7 into a 9-to-5 or get your parents to stop asking when they can expect grandkid #1, you can prevent burnout.

Here's how:

1. Readjust Your Own Expectations.
If Faw was right, and you were expecting that your B.A. in English was going to turn into a staff writer position at the New York Times the day after graduation, then it is time to readjust. Everyone has to start somewhere, and that somewhere is generally at the bottom of the pack.

Keep your head held high, and know that proving your competency at even the most menial tasks while maintaining a positive and professional attitude will help keep your career moving in the direction you want.

2. Learn How to 'Manage Up'
A dysfunctional office dynamic is one of the leading causes of burnout, and issues with a superior are the most stressful. Learning how to "manage up" will help you deal with a boss who is mean, hypercritical or insecure as well as help you figure out the most effective way to reach her expectations. Read our how-to guide.

3. Realize It's Okay to Say No
Employees who try to be everything to everyone and who are always working to their most-efficient max are extremely at-risk for burnout. Additionally, the worst thing you can do for your career is to overpromise and then under-deliver, says expert and Great on the Job author Jodi Glickman. However, there's a right and a wrong way to say no. Learn the difference, and when to draw the line. 

4. Quit Comparing Yourself
We all have that one Facebook friend who seems to have three months of vacation time, the money to spend those months traipsing across Europe and the Abercrombie-model fiancé she's traipsing with. Forget her. While healthy comparisons can help you determine exactly what your goals are, "comparisonitis" will ruin your finances and your happiness as you endlessly try to keep up with or one-up your friends or family members. Think you're suffering from comparisonitis? Here's how to tell.

5. Make Sure You Take Your Vacation Days
Americans will give up roughly 226 million vacation days this year. Don't be one of them. One report found that 48% of workers felt happier and more positive about their workplaces after taking a vacation. Since feeling cynical about your office is one of the key causes of burnout, taking a vacation is an easy (and fun... and potentially margarita-filled...) way to keep yourself going.

6. Develop Your Interests and Hobbies Outside of the Office
Is your self-worth and identity solely based on your work? If so, you're highly at-risk for burnout. Devoting time to your interests and hobbies outside of the office will make you a happier and more well-rounded individual. If you can't remember the last time you indulged in a hobby, think back to what you enjoyed as a child or teen. Consider joining a sports team, picking up a foreign language or volunteering.

7. Take Breaks
As we said earlier, we don't think that women's reluctance to take breaks is the primary cause of burnout, but it definitely doesn't help. So, take the time to recharge during the day. Pause your work to help you maintain good eyesight, or take a walk to help you stay in shape, even when you don't have time to hit the gym. Alternatively, ask a co-worker out to coffee. Establishing positive relationships at the office will make you happier and help you live longer. (Seriously... science says so.)

8. Take Time to Evaluate Your Career Path
If you've been chugging along on the same path for a long time and are feeling signs of burnout, take the time to consider your career. Have your values changed since you first started in your profession? Or is it that the values of your particular company or employer have changed? Are you not being sufficiently challenged -- or are you overburdened? To help you figure out whether it's time for you to change jobs or professions or go back to grad school, check out our free Build Your Career bootcamp, which will help you figure out the next step that's right for you and your long-term goals.

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Symptom #1: You look forward to your mid-afternoon snack in order to break up your work day. Symptom #2: You're critical or impatient with your cubicle-mate. Symptom #3: You feel like you should be ...
Symptom #1: You look forward to your mid-afternoon snack in order to break up your work day. Symptom #2: You're critical or impatient with your cubicle-mate. Symptom #3: You feel like you should be ...
 
 
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HUFFPOST SUPER USER
Kittenesque
01:59 AM on 06/08/2012
Really good advice. It is easy to feel down when you are secluded in this cubicle world.
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Box500
Space can be recovered. Time, never.
06:18 PM on 06/07/2012
Under 30 yr old men never feel stress at the office. Well, maybe they just are not "allowed" to complain about it. C'mon men, shut up and work, you dogs.
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shortguy54
Short, balding, brilliant... (well, maybe not so)
01:08 PM on 06/06/2012
Here's my recommendation:
The next time you talk about goals with your boss, be honest for once. Most people's goals would sound something like this:
To do my work to my boss's and my customers' best satisfaction.
To be rcognized for the quality work I do.
To feel secure in my Job.
To get a raise or promotion at some reasonable point in time.
To feel safe and happy when I go to work.

Avoid using the word "project" whenever possible. Work is work. Surprisingly, you may discover
12:57 PM on 06/06/2012
As much as I agree with all the points in this article I find the tone and use of quotes very insulting. Also, the vacation issue...really?! You think if people could actually afford it and had the time to do it, they wouldn't take a holiday. It's so incredibly condescending to put that suggestion in here. Why do you have to make it seem like women can't handle stress? Maybe I had a high-stress job and handled it so well that I got promoted early and hit my ceiling. Maybe it's not that i can't handle stress, but that I wanted to be professionally happy and challenged. Burnout symptoms should be recognized and acknowledged of course, but to make it seem like a woman is weak for having not done so is crap. Maybe the stress is due to the fact that people like you signal to women that we shouldn't take 'high-stress' jobs because our delicate constitutions can't handle them.
11:50 AM on 06/06/2012
I agree with all the 8 points you make to a certain extent, but the tone and quotes in this article make it very...well, insulting. How about you take into account that sometimes 'coping' isn't enough or worth it? Maybe, just maybe, I did handle the high stress well enough to get promoted early in my career but I hit my ceiling and left because I had maxed out on opportunities. Maybe it isn't that I didn't take care of myself well enough, but that I actually doing the opposite by wanting to be professionally challenged and happy. Oh and that crap about taking vacation...hey if I could afford it and the company wasn't under-staffed, I would. It's so incredibly condescending when people say things like that.
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Ethical Cat
08:48 PM on 06/05/2012
At the age of 30, my middle management job gave me so much stress that I had stiff neck/shoulder pain almost every week. Nothing helped even though I did practice the first seven points mentioned above. Taking the pain as a serious symptom of stress and burnout, I took a one-month vacation, reassessed and sent in my resignation. I have been freelancing ever since and life has never been better. I earn just as much (if not more), travel a lot for work, have a much better quality of life, and enjoying myself with different types of projects from various clients. My advice: Don't ignore recurrent health problems because your body is trying to tell you something before it snaps!
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sweetpatriot
28,woman,healthcareworker,polyglot,bisexual.
05:01 PM on 06/05/2012
30 is not the end of life.
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Wintersoldier7020
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10:25 PM on 06/05/2012
It's the end of youth.... and youth is all that matters.
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01:27 PM on 06/12/2012
Why do you say that 30 will be the end of youth?
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jukodebu
04:08 PM on 06/05/2012
Those are symptoms of burnout? Sounds like normal office type situations to me
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07:11 PM on 06/05/2012
That is most office type situation. Plus many workplaces are still hostile to women in several ways.

Let it burn, flicker away! Seems to be what many women say.
12:43 PM on 06/05/2012
Why Women Are Burning Out At The Office Before Age 30; Their Coping Skills Suck