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Top 10 Reasons the Best Marriages Are Bi

04/19/2011 10:58 am ET | Updated Jun 18, 2011

The world we live in today is full of technologically-savvy divorced people. You don't have to leave your house to find anything anymore, and that includes a spouse. Chances are, if and when you do start dating online, you will meet someone and there is a good possibility that special person lives in another city, or has a job in another city or has children in another city.

Life is hard enough, but are the best marriages bi? My marriage is bi. I live in one city and my husband lives in another. My children live with me, and his live in the city he lives in. I work in the city where my children are and he works in the city where his children are. And, I can't move. My ex has a similar situation. His wife lives in another city and he lives between two cities. I can name countless other examples of bi marriages.

The rewards of being in a bi marriage, in no particular order:

1. Routine with your kids. Having been divorced, and a single parent for many years, I find that my children and I get into a routine that suits us very well. We are like a well oiled machine when it comes to waking up to getting to bed at night. When my husband is home, it throws a wrench into our routine. We have to adjust and readjust until we are all satisfied and happy again....just in time for him to leave again!

2. No bed sharing. Not that sharing a bed is bad, but it's nice to not have the covers taken away in the middle of the night.

3. Renewed romance. When you see each other, it's like being newlyweds all over again in that bed that you often are alone in.

4. Minimal annoyance with each other. You can't get annoyed with someone you don't have to look at on a daily basis.

5. Independence. Yes, you can have that when you live in the same city, but you have it even more when you don't!

6. A place to go and visit. It's always a nice little getaway when you go and visit that spouse who lives in another city.

7. Airline miles. You can count on always having enough miles for free tickets whenever you do get to take a real vacation.

8. Control of the remote. This might seem like a little thing, but when you are married to someone who considers college softball a fun thing to watch, it's not a little thing.

9. Less cooking and cleaning. Once again, might seem like a little thing, but when your spouse is a slob and can't even wash a dish or pick their socks up off the floor, not having one more person to look after is much easier.

10. Every time you are together it gets better. The thrill of being together never leaves the marriage, so it always stays fresh. You don't run out of things to talk about when you are together or things to do and the time is precious and spent wisely.

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