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When Even Right Work Feels Wrong

11/04/2013 01:49 pm ET | Updated Jan 23, 2014

No, right work does not always solve all of life's problems. Or does it?

Oprah Winfrey, understandably, loved her work. But at times, even Oprah found she was frustrated and angry in ways that interfered with her ability to enjoy her own very special right work. She could become frustrated or angry, and things just did not feel right. Her enjoyment of her work was threatened and perhaps, disrupted.

Similarly Carlos Santana, internationally known rock star, is clearly in his right work. But even after he became a star who still loved his work, he noticed that his attitudes could shift on him unexpectedly, and he was not as happy as he felt he should have been with the vast success he had achieved.

Yes, even people with "rock star" status who are very much in right work can still struggle.
Most of us have had similar experiences.

You probably have, too. You love your work, but sometimes things just aren't right. You are frustrated or angry, and things don't feel like you thought they would when you thought you had found your right work?

If we are in right work, then why aren't things right at work all the time? This may not be the time to change your work!

We can all get triggered by feelings and events that have nothing to do with our work. An old hurt resurfaces that has nothing to do with a well-intended comment from a coworker. But we react negatively and our inner joy is lost.

Perhaps, our boss has become a symbol of our mother or father and we project the resentment that lingers from our childhood into our current and right work setting.

Yes, as we know from psychology, there are legions of explanations for why the feeling of being in right work may come and go. But what can we do when we find ourselves seemingly in work that is optimally suited for us but not enjoying it as much as we think we should?

What did Carlos and Oprah do? Carlos Santana and Oprah Winfrey are two people who found an answer to what was keeping them from enjoying being in right work all the time. And both of them found their answer in the same place, the work of Dr. Jerry Jampolsky and his wife, Dr. Diane Cirincione.

When it comes to celebrity status, Jerry and Diane have a lot of their own. And there can be no doubt they are in their own right work. In fact, that may be what drew Carlos and Oprah to them.

Drs. Gerald Jampolsky and. Diane Cirincione

Between the two of them, Jerry and Diane have published 16 books. Jerry's first book "Love is Letting Go of Fear" has sold over 5,000,000 copies and was a book that changed my life when I was a young woman in my twenties. Dr. Gerald Jampolsky is a Stanford trained child psychiatrist and with his wife, a clinical psychologist, Dr. Diane Cirincione, have become some of the best known thinkers, speakers and writers as psychosocial spiritual teachers. Their teachings have been supported by spiritual leaders in Christianity, Islam, Buddhism and Hinduism as well as scientists around the world in a variety of disciplines including quantum physics and neuroscience.

Both Carlos Santana and Oprah Winfrey attribute major life changes to Jerry and Diane's seminal work in Attitudinal Healing.

Oprah said, "After 25 years and more than 30,000 guests, it was Jerry Jampolsky's definition of forgiveness that changed my life. Attitudinal Healing has changed my life. It has helped me see the value of letting go of the obstacles to love. I can recommend it with all of my heart."

Attitudinal Healing - A Practical Spirituality

"Attitudinal Healing is based on the principle that it is not other people or situations that cause us distress. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes that are responsible for our distress, and the actions we take as a result of those thoughts and attitudes can hurt us. Healing results when we concentrate on changing our own attitudes rather than trying to change the attitudes of others. Thus, the goal of Attitudinal Healing is self-healing in the face of each life challenge. Attitudinal Healing is not a religion, nor is it religious. People from many cultures, faiths, and denominations, as well as those who follow no faith at all are welcome to participate." - From Love Is Letting Go Of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky, M.D., 2005 edition.

In my recently published book, Finding Right Work:Five Steps to A Life you Love, I had the privilege of interviewing Diane Cirincione and Jerry Jampolsky, husband and wife and the Co-Founders of Attitudinal Healing International in Sausalito, CA, which has centers in 29 countries on all continents around the world. Most recently, Jerry and Diane have made a major impact on Attitudinal Healing in education when they developed and began to implement a program called "The Power to Choose" for K-12. They are rock stars themselves in their field.

I selected Jerry and Diane for my book because they teach a simple but powerful method to change your thinking. Their message is that it is your attitude that creates your life experience. From my thirty plus years in recruiting, job placement and search, I know that my own personal success has emerged from a great deal of work in managing my own mind and learning how to observe my reactions to external events. In addition, for over 30 years, I have consistently seen that the candidates with self-awareness and positive attitudes are the most successful and happiest employees and the easiest to place on jobs.

Jerry and Diane's ground breaking work has proven over and over again to quickly impact and affect people old and young, across many cultures and types of trauma and belief systems. It has helped a wide range of people from returning veterans with PTSD to school children learning early on how to manage their minds. It can also be a powerful tool for changing wrong work to right work.

Attitudinal Healing's message is simple and easy to remember. (From: Love is Letting Go of Fear)
• Our own thoughts are all we can change. If we change our thoughts to thoughts of love instead of fear, we forgive ourselves and others. When we forgive, we live in love and there is happiness and peace
• You can be right or you can be happy
• The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds
• The best way to navigate through life is to give up all our controls
www.ahinternational.org

Change Your Mind, Change Your Life, by Diane Cirincione and Jerry Jampolsky

Neuroscience has now shown that there is dramatic transformation which occurs in the neural-pathways in the brain of people who meditate and alter their attitudes. Neural pathways are actually physically altered in significant ways as people begin to become more peaceful and loving. As people become more aware of their own minds and more able to see the preprogrammed and many times, old responses they are projecting onto their experience, They begin to have the skill and power to change their life experience for the better.

Do read Jerry and Diane's books and it will likely be that what you may have perceived as "wrong work" because of your very own thinking can magically become "right work" as you alter and change your own mind.

Fortunately for everyone, Jerry and Diane's right work has been helping people from all walks of life free themselves from the chronic fear that keeps them from both inner and outer peace and sometimes... that also includes fully enjoying and sustaining their right work.