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Lesleyann Coker

Lesleyann Coker

Posted: January 11, 2010 01:14 AM

What's Wrong With Gay Sex?

What's Your Reaction:

Is ABC homophobic?

If recent events are any indication, the network is struggling to define its boundaries for gay sexuality.

After Adam Lambert's bi-sexually charged closing performance at the American Music Awards in November, ABC responded by canceling the singer's scheduled appearance on Good Morning America, and banning him from appearing on late night fests Jimmy Kimmel and Dick Clark's Rockin' New Year's Eve.

There's a clear double standard at play.

Janet Jackson - already notorious for her Super Bowl wardrobe malfunction - opened the AMA's with multiple crotch grabs, yet ABC didn't ban her from other programs. The network didn't bat an eyelash after Rihanna began her AMA performance strapped to a torture device, and pranced half naked in a white bondage suit featuring alternating latex strips and skin, and a collar of bullets. Why was Lambert singled out?

It's worth noting that while Lambert simulated sex acts with both men and women during his routine, only the homosexual acts drew ire.

ABC's reaction to Lambert's sexual norms-tweaking performance was typical for a network known for inconsistent enforcement of its infamous, self-imposed morality clause.

ABC has a bad habit of taking one step toward equality, then taking two steps back. Last February, ABC daytime broadcast the highly touted, first lesbian wedding for a soap opera couple on All My Children. Although the network allowed the women to kiss, it never allowed them to enjoy a proper love scene, even on their wedding night.

Instead, the lame sub-plot centered around one of the women fighting her attraction to a man, and kissing him the night before her wedding in a state of "confusion." Was this meant to imply the character really wasn't a lesbian, or to give hope she could be "cured" of her homosexual affliction?

On December 30th, almost a year after its sexless lesbian fiasco, ABC tried to throw the gay community a bone when One Life to Live aired daytime's first ever sex scene between two men. To ABC's credit, the scene was presented the same as any other soap opera couple making love for the first time. It included candles, soft music, loving close ups, and of course, some skin. There was even spooning afterward. What's the problem?

No advance publicity.

In soap opera land, when a popular couple "makes love" for the first time, it's cause for celebration. The shows orchestrate publicity campaigns weeks in advance with teaser feature stories in soap magazines and blogs. TV Guide and TiVo highlight the event in their show summaries. The publicity generates anticipation among loyal fans and helps draw new viewers to the show.

For this momentous occasion on OLTL, all was silent. There wasn't any magazine coverage, no blogosphere buzz, no TV listings, no mainstream promotion of any kind. The network ignored the chance to capitalize on one of the most important events in the history of daytime - as well as a milestone for the gay community. Were the publicists on vacation for the months of November and December?

ABC squandered a golden opportunity to take a stand on an important civil rights issue. They should have proudly advertised their plan to showcase a tender love scene between two consenting adults in a monogamous relationship, and not try to slip it under the radar on the last soap opera day of the year. If they feared certain groups would call for a boycott, ratings could have benefited.

It's cynical to think a two minute scene would have created a controversy at all, but it's also cynical to shy away because of the possibility. However, ABC isn't the only offender. In the fall of 2009, Procter and Gamble, the owner of CBS' Guiding Light, refused to allow popular lesbian characters Olivia and Natalia to share a single kiss as a couple, fearing it would spark a middle American consumer backlash.

At least ABC had the balls to broadcast the same sex sex-scene, but what good does it do if no one knows what day it's on? If a tree falls in the forest does anyone hear?

Share your thoughts below. Should gay sexuality be treated differently than heterosexuality on television?

 
 
 

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dusteallen
06:20 PM on 01/13/2010
You're also forgetting that ABC has Brothers and Sisters on air that normally shows in the time slot that Lambert had his AMA performance. ABC does a great job with the gay characters of ABC, making them out to be normal people who just want to start a family and going through the challenges they face to get there. In addition, the married gay couple, kiss almost every episode and there is no out cry about that, just like there was no out cry about the sex scene on the soap opra.

To me, as a gay male, what Lambert did was tasteless and disrespectful. When Lambert was on stage you could tell her was walking around waiting to do something controversial by the way he was almost mumbling his words and walking around lost. He completely took ABC and the viewers by surprise by doing all of the sexual acts he performed on stage (whether it was a man or woman). This was ABC's reasoning to blocking Lambert from being on other shows, he just is not trustworthy. Lambert before this incident refused to answer "gay" related questions to OUT Magazine because he didn't want to be seen as "too gay," yet he then went on national TV and pulled these tasteless acts.
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uniquelyme
07:02 PM on 01/13/2010
If you saw any of the kind of shows that Adam did in professional theater before he was ever on AI (check out YouTube, there's lots on there) you would see that the type of performer he is now is very similar to how he was before. It's not much different. From what I've read and watched I don't think he's trying to be Harvey Milk or make anyone gasp about how gay he is or isn't. I think that's just how he likes to perform and how he likes to be on stage. Anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to watch, the same as any other entertainer, period.
07:35 AM on 01/14/2010
1. if that was in his stage show before, why didn't it show up when he was on american idol? i still contend that lambert's problem stems from the fact that he sold his soul to be on a family-oriented tv talent show.

2. it's hard to make that "anyone who doesn't want to watch doesn't have to" argument when the show in question is a prime-time network broadcast. the whole idea is to get many people to watch, not just "cool people in the know."
08:12 PM on 01/13/2010
Do you really want an American Idol contestant at the center of a debate for gay rights/equality? You would be naive in thinking of this person as anything other than a product. I find it offensive that he has stated that his lewd acts were "in the moment" of the performance. If you don't think the American Idol puppet masters are not pulling every string for brand Lambert, than you are simply naive. Why wouldn't they pull every string to a multi-million dollar face with a gimmick?

I find it way more offensive that Adam Lambert would exploit his sexuality, the same way that Christina Aguilera and Britney Spears have, to distract people from the fact that his music is garbage! It is a gimmick. He's practically saying, "look how flamboyantly gay I am! Isn't it crazy and radical! I don't care what middle America thinks! buy my album!!!!" with the littlest amount of sincerity. As a music lover, I feel I have the right to be offended.
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uniquelyme
09:48 PM on 01/13/2010
No, I'm pretty sure he doesn't care what middle America thinks. If you don't like it, don't watch. Millions of people around the world love Celine Dion, but I find her extremely uninteresting. Because of that I don't watch her or buy her music.

By the way, I'm quite certain I can think of 20+ things off the top of my head to be infinitely more offended about other than one sexually provocative show that lasted for about 4 minutes.
06:15 PM on 01/13/2010
I f you dont know why then you live on the coast left or right and dont go to the heartland often.
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Debra Conway
Publisher, website designer
04:30 PM on 01/13/2010
Lambert fans are one mouse click away from being the new Claymates. That means no one will take what you do seriously. Think about it.

A friend.
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uniquelyme
05:04 PM on 01/13/2010
So you're "a friend"? No one will take anything you do seriously if you're an Adam Lambert fan?

News for you:
#1, how many people in the world actually care what Debra thinks of them? **crickets**
#2, entertainment is not supposed to be taken so "seriously." It's obvious that you're missing the whole point of being entertained. You're one mouse click away from living your life with one foot in the grave. I guess you're more comfortable in your homogenous little world filled with white bread and cookie cutter people. How special. Well, not really.


Think about it, Debra.
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cplKlyde
11:08 AM on 01/14/2010
I think you mean

A concern troll
03:32 PM on 01/13/2010
This is America--what do you expect?
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learninglife
Be the change you want to see in the world
03:25 PM on 01/13/2010
It always seems to come down to this irrational fear that everybody's going to "turn gay" if you don't suppress it. And then civilization as we know it will crumble. In my opinion, if our culture didn't condemn homosexuality, you would indeed see more people having relationships with the same gender - out of curiosity if nothing else - but those who want traditional relationships for themselves will continue to have them. Nobody's going "force" you to do anything you don't want to do. The world will still be spinning on its axis - only there will be less discrimination going on.
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montemalone
oenophile, aquarist, francophone, radical moderate
09:29 AM on 01/14/2010
Curiosity?
Mos don't hump hets out of curiosity.
Sexuality is inborn.
01:55 PM on 01/13/2010
Weren't gay couples on TV handled 15-20 years ago on Northern Exposure? I can't believe this discussion is ongoing.
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
02:52 PM on 01/13/2010
It's just Adam's rabidly defensive fanbase using everything at their disposal to punish anybody who isn't part of his fanbase.
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marylandtravelinman
01:27 PM on 01/13/2010
The entire argument against gay marriage is really against gay sex, namely anal sex between men. Our culture (particularly the male segment) revere two women having sex, but the same act with two men will cause groans in a movie theatre. The bigger question is that should someone’s queasiness with someone elses sex act be regulated by law and should that bias be protected by law. ABC is a part of our culture and therefore acts similarly...inconsistent.
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
01:58 PM on 01/13/2010
If that's the case, then why is one of their most successful shows produced by an openly gay man and featured gay male characters?
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montemalone
oenophile, aquarist, francophone, radical moderate
09:30 AM on 01/14/2010
Money
01:08 PM on 01/13/2010
First, Adam did not apologize, nor should he. We also need to be a LITTLE sympathetic to the fact that adrenaline sometimes does get the best of people, even celebrities. They're not perfect. They're human.

The other side of this coin or second, is that how the performance was received REALLY showed how insecure as a country and even corporate America (Networks) still are when it comes to men. Not withstanding homosexuality, just men showing any type of male sexuality. But ESPECIALLY man on man sexuality. I'm sorry but even if Adam Lambert wined and dined the guy on stage instead of crudely handling him, an issue would have been made out of it. (The don't rub it in our face effect)

Now ABC/DISNEY, realizing how ignorant their actions seemed, hurriedly put gay sex on their soap opera on DAY TIME TELEVISION! Adam was LATE NIGHT! Can the double standard get any more obvious?

Joel Santos
Author of the blog Re:Wind - Love, Sex, And Family
http://wp.me/KNPv
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Jazmo
Cause they're hip to the bull and hip to the lies.
01:00 PM on 01/13/2010
For whatever reason, lesbians have always been deemed "safer" than gay men. So there are double standards within the double standards. I'm no fan of Adam Lambert, don't watch AI, only sort of knew who he was before this. So I think his actions accomplished his mission ... which, to me, was less about being a gay spokesperson and more about publicity.
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
11:16 AM on 01/11/2010
ABC had featured men making out with other men on GREY'S ANATOMY, DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES and BROTHERS & SISTERS, as well as a man in love with a transgendered woman on DIRTY SEXY MONEY long before we'd ever heard of Adam Lambert. To me, this sounds more and more like Adam's fanbase self-righteously using his preference as a shield against criticism for being a gimmicky reality show contestant regurgitating stuff that sounds like it had been originally written for Katy Perry.
Vinkaye
None of the Above 2012
10:41 AM on 01/13/2010
Don't forget that it was ABC that first broadcast two men kissing, in bed, on Thirtysomething.... way, way,way back when.
I'm tired of Mr. Lambert's fans using this as an excuse. The truth is his sin wasn't homosexuality, it was practicing one routine for the producers, and doing an entirely different thing on a live broadcast.
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
02:38 PM on 01/13/2010
For me, his sin is being a reality show contestant, period. Other musicians have spent years going from one bar gig to another, hawking self-burned CDs from the back of their van, all in the hopes that maybe they'll get to be so much as the opener on some major band's tour in their eternal quest for the Signed Deal...and he decides to take the short cut by participating in a show that both embodies all that's wrong with today's music scene and exasperates the current fame-at-all-costs media culture despite all of that alleged "talent" his fanbase claims he has.
10:13 AM on 01/11/2010
Umm.... everybody and their grandmother knew they were going to have sex on NYE.

All the blogs and some of the magazines were talking about it at least a month before it happened. There were spoilers about it as well, including ABC's own website in previews for the coming week where the words 'Kyle and Fish have sex" were used. Scott Evans and Ron Carlivati, who head writes the show had discussed the love scene well before it aired in more than one interview.

And it wasn't on one of the lowest rated days of the year. All one needs to do is look at the ratings and they'd know that all shows were up that wee, as they tend to be over the holidays. If anything MORE people would have seen that scene than folks who usually watch the show, not less.
09:15 AM on 01/11/2010
Aren't the networks still run by men? While women represent over half the population and more than half the primetime audience, the "male sensibility" seems the rule on network primetime when it comes to sexuality. What is the male sensibility? Just about anything goes when it is performed by young, attractive women. Gay or straight doesn't matter. The Britney/Madonna kiss, Drew Barrymore showing her breasts (back to audience). Two of many sexual incidents among attractive women that aired without (supposedly) comment or complaint. All are acceptable to the networks.

Apparently, the contracting "female sensibility" where attractive men can show their sexuality (with anyone) is only acceptable during select time periods - like when the audience is 90% women during the day. What is so ironic about the Adam Lambert incident is that everyone knows that his sizeable fanbase is largely made up of women. As a middle-aged women with many friends, I don't know a single woman who was "insulted" by his AMA performance. It was not my favorite Lambert performance, but it certainly didn't warrant all the subsequent punishment and fallout. I was actually insulted by ABC's behavior and the obvious double-standard. I have a sense that it was the male decision makers who were insulted and proposed a rather childish punishment to Adam and his many fans.

if Adam was trying to stir up the point and prove a point, he was right.
08:13 AM on 01/11/2010
Why are you ripping on shows that actually had gay couples? The Bold and the Beautiful is a soap opera set in Los Angeles in the fashion industry and refuses to even create a gay character in its 23 year run. That is the show you should pick on, not One Life or ABC.
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uniquelyme
05:47 PM on 01/13/2010
You must not have read the entire article. She outlined why she was ripping them. Please read it again.
01:10 PM on 01/14/2010
I outlined it too, but the moderators needed to censor my perfectly sane explanation.
08:12 AM on 01/11/2010
Scott Evans, one half of the One Life to Live couple, did a great interview on We Love Soaps TV to promote the big New Year's scenes. It had also been advertised at After Elton in November.
12:35 PM on 01/13/2010
Those sites are fringe outlets for fanboys, of no interest to the mainstream. Lesleyann is absolutely right that the promotional potential was squandered. Hardly anybody watches soaps in the first place. If you don't even promote your show on your own network, expect little interest. Not that they'd even try with the gay angle in play.
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Melody Kramer
06:29 AM on 01/11/2010
If we are such a varied diverse nation full of new ideas,old ideas,people from all walks of life& from all different countries ,why do we seem to walk to the beat of one drummer... Some bigoted members of the Christian Right Church influence our freedoms. Who are they and why do they insist that we listen to their music ,burn books that they don't like,have no national health care and the like. If the Christian threat of a hell, in the after life, truly was erased,would anyone care what the bigoted few had to say about who and what we like? In my book we get one life ,one shot and we should live it freely,wilth concern for others,,with love and joy.. See movie ' Avatar'. Homosexuality should not be treated any differently than being born straight..it just is ,like being born black,white,male,female ,it's who we are.In the end taking away rights from others takes away rights from all of us.Just suppose that the concepts of heaven and hell are really about how we live our one life on earth.Would we dare waste our time worrying about something that will never take place.