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Lester Brathwaite
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Writer, noted wit, bon vivant, bad bitch.

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Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC (Part 3): On Committing Social Media Suicide

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 11:20 AM

Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC

My generation has been force-fed the notion that to be loved, to be special, to be something or somebody, one has to be a star. And I bought into it with certainty. From the moment I understood my reflection was I and I he,...

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Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC (Part 2): On Leaving New York

(1) Comments | Posted November 2, 2014 | 8:32 AM

Love and Other Misguided Concepts

It's impossible to find love in New York.

I should clarify: It's impossible for me to find love in New York. This city has been romanticized for years, probably because being in love in New York must be great. It's a Gershwin tune. It's...

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Queer and Selfie Loathing in NYC (Part 1): On Quitting Writing

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2014 | 4:16 PM

Goodbye to All That

The streets are busy, yet they feel empty. Life continues, but as a hollow version of itself I cannot recognize. New York -- that living, breathing monolith clawing at an indifferent sky -- has ceased to exist to me. Like the warmth of a first...

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15 Song Lyrics That Define Being Gay and Single

(10) Comments | Posted September 10, 2014 | 6:54 PM

"I've got all my life to live/ I've got all my love to give/ And I'll survive/ I will survive!/ Hey/ Hey"

Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" remains one of the quintessential dating songs, as well as perhaps the most iconic gay anthem of all time, and is it any...

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Why I've Given Up on Hooking Up

(87) Comments | Posted March 7, 2014 | 3:49 PM


Sex has never been a particularly pleasant experience for me. It's a fundamental part of being a gay man, of being a human being, but the "fun" part has always eluded me. Don't get me wrong, I always enjoyed the bumping...

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10 Poses to Get You Into Vogue

(1) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 1:02 PM

Having paged through my fair share of Vogue s since acquiring my first issue some ten years ago, I've picked up a trick or two. There are certain poses models always do -- poses that are "classic Vogue." So to master these is to get one horse-like step closer to...

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Liquid Confidence

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2013 | 5:00 PM

I've always been terribly insecure -- though always secure enough in myself to admit it.

No matter my accomplishments, I've never been able to overcome my insecurity. There's always that nagging voice at the back of my head saying I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not talented...

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Self-Realization in Verse

(0) Comments | Posted February 28, 2013 | 12:58 PM

I wrote this poem almost six years ago, shortly after writing this mini-manifesto, while sipping on a giant cocktail at the now-defunct Dallas BBQ on Broadway in New York. The drinks were cheap and the size of your head, so it was understandably a frequent hangout...

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Sex Drive in Park, or Grind No More

(6) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 6:40 PM

I recently deleted my Grindr and Adam4Adam profiles.

For those of you who are not familiar with the world of casual gay sex (and honestly, you really should be), they're a hookup app and website, respectively. Ever since sobering up, I've had little to no sex drive. I'm not sure...

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A Note From My 21-Year-Old Self

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 3:12 PM


I found this while in a manic cleaning fit the other day, a declaration from 2006 to quit drinking the following year. Needless to say, missed the boat on that one:

I'm going to quit drinking after New Years. It's not so much a...
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A Year Above the Influence

(14) Comments | Posted February 1, 2013 | 12:51 PM

In 2006, I was diagnosed with tuberculosis. It was dormant, I was told, but there was a 50 percent chance it could become active. I had to take medication for six months during which I couldn't drink alcohol, but I decided 50 percent was enough of a chance to take....

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