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Liane Kupferberg Carter’s articles and essays have appeared in many publications, including the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, Newsday, Parents, McCall’s, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Skirt!, and many literary journals. She has recently completed a family memoir. Connect with Liane on Facebook and Twitter, or her website.

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Autism Acceptance: Don't Stop Believin'

(6) Comments | Posted April 3, 2015 | 4:01 PM

Two days before our 19-year-old autistic son Mickey leaves for sleep away camp, he asks to get a haircut.

No big deal, right? But 15 years ago this would have been unthinkable.

Back then, the barbershop was the scene of some of our worst parenting moments. By 8:00 in the...

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Music Lessons, Life Lessons

(0) Comments | Posted January 15, 2015 | 10:42 AM

John Kuhn -- Teacher and Friend 1915-2015

"If you could be anything in the world and talent and money weren't an issue, would you still be doing what you do, or something else?"

My husband posed this question in an attempt to liven up a rather staid...

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Tupperware, Shtupperware

(6) Comments | Posted August 27, 2014 | 4:28 PM

I have an embarrassing confession. Last week I was invited to a Tupperware Party. That's not the embarrassing part.

The embarrassing part is that I went. It was an invitation I didn't dare refuse. "Go or the other nursery school moms will talk about you,"...

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Autism Acceptance: The Crucial String

(3) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 5:08 PM

My husband and I had grown increasingly uneasy about our second child Mickey. Though a warm, engaging baby, he showed no interest in playing Peekaboo, How Big is the Baby or waving bye-bye. At monthly visits, the pediatrician assured us all was well. But by 18 months, Mickey had only...

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Gadget Graveyard

(2) Comments | Posted February 3, 2014 | 4:24 PM

There's a graveyard in my basement.

The lower level of my house is the final resting place for dead and discarded kitchen appliances: those innovative, time-saving, cunning devices you buy in a flurry of anticipation and eagerness, convinced they'll transform you into a domestic goddess.

My basement shelves are...

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Autism and Holidays

(5) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 5:17 PM

I sent out the email six weeks in advance. The subject line: "When Holidays Collide."

Dear Family, I wrote. Whether you're celebrating Thanksgivukkah or Festivus this year, this is your official invitation. Manischevitz-brined turkey? Challah stuffing? Cornucopia of cranberry gelt? Who knows? Don't forget to pack a menurkey.

In an...

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October 29 Is National Cat Day: Show Some Respect

(112) Comments | Posted October 28, 2013 | 4:43 PM

Cats get no respect.


They're the Rodney Dangerfields of the pet world. An afterthought. Second best. The Chanukah wrapping paper in a store teeming with Christmas merchandise. You'll find miles of ribbon, tags, candy canes, and cartoon Santas... but...

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Autism and Empathy

(23) Comments | Posted May 17, 2013 | 5:24 PM

When I first heard that autistic people didn't have empathy, I assumed my son Mickey must be an exception.

He was not yet 2 when the developmental specialist told us all the things our child would never do. Pretend play. Eye contact. Empathy. I remember sitting on the floor...

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Abusing Legal System to Discriminate Against the Disabled

(6) Comments | Posted March 14, 2013 | 2:06 PM

I'm not laughing.

In fact, I'm fuming.

A developmentally disabled 42 year old man named Robert Schiavelli was slapped with two court summonses for laughing too loudly, because his neighbor Daniel O'Hanian complained to the police that Schiavelli was "disturbing the peace."

Why was he laughing?


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10 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Parenting a Child with Special Needs

(40) Comments | Posted February 22, 2013 | 4:20 PM

There's no way you'd spot us in a crowd. We don't have a secret handshake. But somehow, special needs parents always manage to find each other. Maybe it's that unmistakable look of exhaustion and resolve many of us wear. Whatever it is, I've been part of this family...

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What Does Hanukkah Mean to my Autistic Son?

(6) Comments | Posted December 12, 2012 | 10:05 AM

"Can I get Annie for Hanukkah?" my son Mickey asks.

"You mean the musical?"

From his lack of reaction I can see he doesn't know that word. "You mean Annie who sings?"


"What does she sing?" I ask him, just to be sure I understand what he wants.

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Autism's 1 in 88 Can't Wait: Romney, Obama Campaigns Address Disabilities

(7) Comments | Posted September 26, 2012 | 5:40 PM

Remember that saying from the 1970s, that the personal is political?

As the parent of an autistic 20-year-old son, I know what my own family is struggling with. The need for employment. Housing. Health care. Insurance. Long-term community-based services and supports. Education. Transportation. Research. Improving the quality of life for autistic children and adults is my top priority.

I'm not telling you who to vote for. I'm not telling you who I'm voting for. Because this is a bipartisan issue. We need politicians who will lead, not follow. Politicians who will actually develop and co-sponsor bills, not ones who just show up for photo ops during an election year. They need to know just how urgent these issues are to the autism community. They need to understand that funding our families' futures isn't discretionary; it's a necessity.

On Friday, Sept. 28, both the Obama and Romney campaigns will address the nation's disability issues, including autism, at an election forum between 12:30 p.m. and 3:30 p.m. EST. (You can watch the webcast by registering here.)

It's up to our whole community to remind our politicians that our voices count. We need programs, not just promises. We need to know how our politicians intend to make a difference for the autism community.

Because my 1 in 88 can't wait. He needs a plan, and he needs it now.

For more information on what you can do to get involved, please visit Autism Votes.

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Next Steps For An Adult Child With Autism

(84) Comments | Posted April 5, 2012 | 2:52 PM

This week began with World Autism Awareness Day, created five years ago by the group Autism Speaks as a locus for fund-raising and spreading the word. It comes at the start to National Autism Awareness Month, which was created by Congress back in the...

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When Mom "Likes" Too Much

(9) Comments | Posted March 12, 2012 | 12:11 PM

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Okay, I'm going out on a limb here.

I'm a middle-aged mom and I love Facebook. And no, I'm not playing games like Farmville, Kingdoms of Camelot or Mafia Wars. I love it for networking....

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Feline Fatale

(4) Comments | Posted March 7, 2012 | 2:01 PM

She was meant to be a companion for our cat Dizzy. She looked identical. The same kohl-rimmed eyes. The same silky, silver fur. The same sweet face. She was Dizzy's Doppelganger.

But inside?

A heart of darkness.

Dizzy, our

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Roots and Wings: Giving Autistic Children What They Need To Succeed in Adulthood

(3) Comments | Posted February 24, 2011 | 11:55 AM

If you ask our son Mickey what he might like to be when he grows up, he will probably say, "A librarian. Or a Pokemon Master!"

There aren't too many jobs for a crackerjack Nintendoplayer, but Mickey is learning other skills. At 18, he attends the Comprehensive Support...

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Writers' Prey and Getting Paid

(2) Comments | Posted December 7, 2010 | 3:25 PM


The blogosphere has been buzzing in outrage recently over controversial author James Frey's newest publishing venture, Full Fathom Five, a fiction factory that pays a stable of young writers just $250 for commercially viable young-adult novels, and...

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Dizzy Girl

(7) Comments | Posted September 8, 2010 | 8:13 AM


"What a beautiful girl you are. You're in heavy purr tonight, aren't you sweetheart?" my husband Marc croons.

He's not talking to me.

He's talking to Dizzy. An eight-month-old silver-striped Maine Coon kitten with long silky fur and a lion's ruff around her sweet...

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Cracking Wise on Autism

(3) Comments | Posted August 2, 2010 | 7:50 AM

"We're trying new medication for Jake," my friend Lauren tells me. Her son, like mine, has autism and seizures.

"We saw bad side effects on that one," I warn.

"I know. The doctor told me Jake might even have hallucinations. So I said, 'Really? How would we be...

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The One-Two Punch of Autism

(12) Comments | Posted July 20, 2010 | 11:55 AM

"Your child has autism."

It's a devastating diagnosis for a parent to hear. But it's a one-two punch when your insurance company then refuses to cover the critical, medically necessary therapies your child desperately needs.

When our then-2-year-old son was diagnosed with a developmental disability 16 years ago,...

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