10 Signs You Should Not be Getting Married in a Church
- You find yourself asking the clergy to take all the references to Jesus out of the service.
- You find yourself dreading your next meeting with the minister.
- You find yourself dreading the service, worried that the minister will say something too religious.
- You disagree with the core values of the church.
- You find the core values of the church so uninteresting that you can just tune them out, no problem.
- You are not a member of any faith community and neither one of you intends to be.
- This location feels like a choice you both are making for somebody else, rather than for yourselves.
- You and your partner have never talked about religion, and you have serious doubts that you will ever be able to.
- This experience feels like just another wedding transaction, one more service provider to check off the list.
- You can't wait for the reception.
10 Signs You Might be in the Right Place After All
- You have drifted from the church, but as you prepare for your wedding you find yourself seeking a community of faith.
- You enjoy meeting the minister and appreciate the chance to focus on matters of the spirit in the midst of wedding planning stress.
- You have worshipped here and found yourself moved.
- You want your marriage to be associated with this place and its core values.
- You can imagine the members of this church holding you in prayer.
- You sense that your marriage is about more than the two of you.
- You find yourself praying.
- This experience is causing you and your partner to talk about your faith and your aspirations for a faith community as a couple.
- You don't have it all figured out yet, but this church feels like a blessing to start you on your way.
- You can't wait for the wedding.
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