10 Signs You Should Not be Getting Married in a Church
- You find yourself asking the clergy to take all the references to Jesus out of the service.
- You find yourself dreading your next meeting with the minister.
- You find yourself dreading the service, worried that the minister will say something too religious.
- You disagree with the core values of the church.
- You find the core values of the church so uninteresting that you can just tune them out, no problem.
- You are not a member of any faith community and neither one of you intends to be.
- This location feels like a choice you both are making for somebody else, rather than for yourselves.
- You and your partner have never talked about religion, and you have serious doubts that you will ever be able to.
- This experience feels like just another wedding transaction, one more service provider to check off the list.
- You can't wait for the reception.
10 Signs You Might be in the Right Place After All
- You have drifted from the church, but as you prepare for your wedding you find yourself seeking a community of faith.
- You enjoy meeting the minister and appreciate the chance to focus on matters of the spirit in the midst of wedding planning stress.
- You have worshipped here and found yourself moved.
- You want your marriage to be associated with this place and its core values.
- You can imagine the members of this church holding you in prayer.
- You sense that your marriage is about more than the two of you.
- You find yourself praying.
- This experience is causing you and your partner to talk about your faith and your aspirations for a faith community as a couple.
- You don't have it all figured out yet, but this church feels like a blessing to start you on your way.
- You can't wait for the wedding.
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What a quaint notion.
My wife and I were married twice: The one that the government counts occurred in an office in Augsburg, a civil ceremony conducted in German and English.
The one that COUNTS occurred under the eyes of the Gods, under the open night sky, with words that each of us spoke from the heart, without a government-approved formula.
Well that leaves you out, unfortunately. I really do not see a connection between a working brain and getting married in, or out, of a church. Mine works exceptionally well, I know how to use it, and I was married in a church. So your example is busted.
If someone demands authority over your life representing Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy or his childhood invisible friend, you would consider him to be not just a fool or a madman but a dangerous one at that.
Just what is different when someone claims to represent a different entity whose existence is equally unverifiable but requires that one also believe in a talking snake?
Failure to share belief is seen as ridicule. Would it not also be ridicule to visit Comicon and blurt that neither Star Wars nor Star Treck are real?
Courtesy requires that one suspend disbelief INSIDE Comicon but not outside. Courtesy also requires that one suspend disbelief INSIDE a church. Believers may not expect the church to encompass a country or a world any more than Comicon.
Adults consider it cute to accommodate the child's belief in Santa Clause. The "faithful" expect lifelong accommodation but are somehow adults when commenting on everyone else's behavior.
Asking that government not force belief on non-believers or (as in the case of contraception and abortion) force prohibitions associated with belief on non-believers is somehow "bullying" believers. Who is the real bully?
Anyone who demands control over my life had better offer more than talking snakes
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Don't buy the cow to get the milk...When you get sick of this situation,
just move on..Looks like this is the American way ? ...