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Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW are considered experts in the field of relationships. They have been married since 1972. They have both been trained as seminar leaders, therapists and relationships counselors and have been working with individuals, couples and groups since 1975. They have been featured presenters at numerous conferences, universities,and institutions of learning throughout the country and overseas as well. They have appeared on over two hundred radio and TV programs and are co-authors of the bestselling book,
101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 copies sold) and Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love. Please visit our site and like us on Facebook.

Entries by Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The Real Reason Why 'I Can't Do What I Know I Need to Do'

(0) Comments | Posted November 24, 2014 | 11:14 AM

If you are one of the people who have had difficulty putting into practice the suggestions of self-help books, you are not alone. Don't take it personally. It's not your fault. Well-intended though they may be, many self-help books generally don't. Help, that is. What they often do is point...

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Why Settle for Something Good?

(0) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 3:24 PM

In his book Good to Great, which has become a classic in the field of leadership and organizational development, Jim Collins speaks about what it takes for a good company to become a great one. About 10 pages into the book it became apparent to me that the very same...

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Real Reason You Get Attracted to People Who Are So Different

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 4:15 PM

Relationships aren't just about togetherness and connection. They are also about the spaces of separateness. While togetherness time promotes greater understanding and connection between both partners, the times between experiences of connection are just as important to the health and sustainment of the relationship. When partners are together, they naturally...

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Living (and Almost Dying) on the Edge

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 1:51 PM

Markus had everything going for him. He was a star athlete, had been captain of the high school hockey team, he was young, healthy, strong and smart and was now the best salesman in the company. He could write his own ticket for the future, anything that he wanted. At...

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Going for the Gusto!

(0) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 2:46 PM

Linda: Back in the old days, at the very beginning of my relationship with my husband Charlie, what I wanted most in my life was the comfort and security of a committed partnership. I grew up in a family where chaos and struggle ruled and I was determined not to...

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What's Wrong With Being Right

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2014 | 2:03 PM

Charlie: The mind is an extraordinary thing. It can solve problems, imagine amazing ideas, envision inconceivable possibilities, help us to plot strategies for difficult challenges, aid us in connecting dots that transform our capacity to comprehend previously incomprehensible experiences, and in uncountable other ways, bring greater clarity and understanding into...

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Vive La Difference!

(0) Comments | Posted October 13, 2014 | 2:40 PM

Linda: During our first few years together, Charlie and I knew what kind of a relationship we desired, but it took more than hope to bring it to fruition. Like most people, we were up against conditioned patterns and lifelong habits most of which didn't support our vision. Neutralizing them...

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Myth: Good Relationships Require More Effort Than They're Worth

(0) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 1:59 PM

When NASA launches a space vehicle, it uses a massive amount of its fuel getting beyond the earth's atmosphere. After it clears the pull of this gravitational force, considerably less fuel is required, allowing it to travel great distances expending much less energy. This principle also applies to relationships.

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Do Relationships Really Have to Be This Hard?

(1) Comments | Posted September 9, 2014 | 1:20 PM

One of the most frequent questions that we hear from people is, "Why is it that creating good relationships requires so much work? If it's so natural for us to love one another, shouldn't it be easier than this?" To paraphrase a former president, I can feel their pain. In...

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Looking for Trust in All the Wrong Places

(0) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 7:16 PM

It's often in the last place you'd ever think of.

Relationships don't begin with trust. Trust is built day-by-day by two people who demonstrate trust-worthiness through their words and actions. Trust is developed conversation by conversation, by working through conflicts and demonstrating kindness, generosity, and consideration. In a moment of...

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Recovery Is a Full-Time Job

(0) Comments | Posted August 27, 2014 | 1:18 PM

Veronica had a lot of reasons to be angry at the world. Born into a family with a history of domestic violence and incest, she never had anything even remotely resembling a "normal" upbringing. One of her earliest memories is of her father taking nude pictures of her when she...

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Lessons From a Skinhead

(0) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 3:44 PM

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Frank Meeink beat the odds; he survived. An Irish-Italian kid, he grew up in the slums of South Philly. Both of his parents were alcoholics, drug addicts and dealers. Frank was 2 and his mother was 19 when his parents...

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The Real Reason That Opposites Attract

(0) Comments | Posted August 6, 2014 | 6:00 PM

A little tension can sometimes be a good thing.

Did you ever think that it was a cruel joke of nature that most of us find ourselves attracted to people very much unlike us? I mean, wouldn't it be an awful lot simpler and a lot less messy if we...

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Not Enough Time for Intimacy?

(0) Comments | Posted July 23, 2014 | 7:39 PM

Jason and Carolyn are a power couple. He's an investment banker and she's an attorney. They also have two daughters ages 7 and 5. They both share a commitment to provide quality parenting for their girls and share child-rearing responsibilities. In between jobs and child-care, they somehow manage to squeeze...

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Has Your Sex Life Got You Down?

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 9:12 AM

If so, you may be suffering from an ailment that is common to a great many individuals and couples, more than most of us would imagine. And speaking of imagining, it's the lack of imagination that is the source of this problem. Creatures of habit that we are, most of...

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When Being Wrong Is Right

(0) Comments | Posted July 10, 2014 | 2:18 PM

Charlie: When it comes to relationships, it's very possible that the 10 most powerful words you'll ever hear are: "You can be right, or you can have a relationship." And the most powerful word of those 10 is "or." I first heard this phrase about 25 years ago when a...

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Think Vacations Are Luxuries? Think Again

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 3:15 PM

CHARLIE: My family never took vacations when I was a kid. Consequently, I grew up thinking getaways were not important and only for other people, like those with lots of money. Over the years, and with Linda's help, I've found that neither of these notions is true. As an adult,...

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How Do You Spell 'Success'?

(0) Comments | Posted June 26, 2014 | 11:52 AM

It's not necessarily spelled "M-O-N-E-Y."

"People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find, once they reach the top, that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall." -- Thomas Merton.

The notion that money can't buy happiness is deeply ingrained in the minds...

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Even Great Relationships Can Recover From Great Difficulties

(0) Comments | Posted June 12, 2014 | 7:18 PM

Under the influence of the "happily ever after" myth, we may have the illusion that marriage should be all spring and summer, all fun and games. Being "crazy about each other" unfortunately doesn't guarantee long-term bliss or a conflict-free relationship. It can be a shock to discover that trust goes...

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Are You My Soulmate?

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 6:56 PM

Many people believe that there is a "special person out there waiting for me," and my job is to find him or her so that we can spend the rest of our lives in bliss. This is a particularly popular and seductive idea because it suggests that once I've located...

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