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Linda Durnell
Author, ex-tech exec, relationship disaster survivor and suffering from
shen dug ngal wa la mi so pa (Tibetan for "inability to bear the
sight of another's suffering).

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Entries by Linda Durnell

Is it Possible to Find Truth in News?

(1) Comments | Posted January 23, 2014 | 8:08 AM

A well-informed society is the mark of a successful society and access to accurate and quality information is essential for its citizens. The duty of our news media is to bring to the audience impartial news, representing the real nature of the event and presenting it without introducing bias or...

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Post-Traumatic Vacation Syndrome

(1) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 3:03 PM

It is that time of year when many people embark on some type of vacation, and it appears to me that vacations can be lumped into one of two categories:

1. It was the best vacation ever and I'm miserable to be returning home.
2. It was the...

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What I Want in 2013: Am I Asking Too Much?

(0) Comments | Posted December 26, 2012 | 4:32 AM

1. All children to grow up safe and away from abuse, violence and hatred.

2. That we could read each other's thoughts. It would be easier to stay clear of the mean people
who pretend to be nice and our lives would eventually become authentic and accountable, if...

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How to Celebrate Joy in Spite of the Ups and Downs of Life

(3) Comments | Posted December 21, 2012 | 10:00 AM

There are times in all our lives when we find ourselves struggling to feel joy. When we feel attacked and life appears dark, we must find a way back to the knowing that light is always available -- through a smile, a gentle touch or a simple utterance of a...

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How to Survive Family Conflicts During the Holidays

(0) Comments | Posted November 29, 2012 | 9:42 AM

One of life's most difficult situations is when someone you love is no longer present in your life due to disagreements, especially during the holidays. After navigating through the tumultuous teenage years, parents, adult children and siblings expect to have close and loving relationships with each other; and when we...

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What Makes People Strong?

(4) Comments | Posted October 24, 2012 | 12:05 PM

After giving advice recently, I was told, "But I'm not strong like you." "I don't know how you survived." I replied, "You would have been strong, if you had to be," and I continued, "Sometimes, being strong is the only choice you have." Until this conversation, I had never given...

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War on Words -- Obsolete?

(3) Comments | Posted September 26, 2012 | 10:06 AM

We have the War on Drugs, the War on Terror, War on Poverty and with the recent events, it appears we can add the War on Words. It has long been understood that words create realities and most of us teach our children to be careful with their words, as...

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Life's Crossroads: How To Thrive in Times of Change

(4) Comments | Posted September 25, 2012 | 8:00 PM

Life's crossroads create opportunity for us to choose between different options, and when we see someone embracing the moment when choices are decided upon, it can be awe-inspiring. A crossroads is about change. Choices must be made -- not just when things are not working out as we had planned,...

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Overcoming Arrogance: An Election Lesson

(0) Comments | Posted September 13, 2012 | 3:48 PM

When we are witness to arrogance -- as we have seen in recent political discourse, we see all too often individuals who are attached to the reference point of "me." As an elected official, their job is to focus on "us" and "others" and a devastating disconnect occurs and distrust...

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Why Do We Stop Saying 'Yes' to New Experiences?

(6) Comments | Posted August 22, 2012 | 8:42 AM

When did saying "no" become easier than saying "yes"? Recently a friend told my husband and me about Color Me Rad, a 5K wherein you get covered with colored corn starch throughout the run. My husband said, "Sounds like fun," and my immediate reaction, without even thinking, was...

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Olympic Athletes: 7 Skills They Use for Success

(9) Comments | Posted July 23, 2012 | 8:06 AM

While we were watching the Olympic trials, my husband asked me, "Could you have done this when you were younger?" I thought about what it took for these athletes to make it to the Olympics. If you believe we all have the ability, given the right conditions, to have an...

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How Do I Let Go?

(15) Comments | Posted July 20, 2012 | 8:00 AM

How many times have we heard from well-meaning friends and family members that the solution to our problem was to "just let it go"? My stepdaughter recently asked me, "I want to let it go, but how do I do it? What does it really mean?" Her sentiments echo the...

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No-Win Scenarios: Ways to Cope

(11) Comments | Posted July 1, 2012 | 9:53 AM

How often do we find ourselves in a situation that seems un-winnable or, in the extreme, impossible? When this happens, it is difficult to make sense of the things that have happened to us. There are situations that, regardless of what we do, will change us forever. When these life-altering...

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Under the Influence of Joy: 8 Ways to Create More Joy

(17) Comments | Posted June 23, 2012 | 7:50 AM

We are acutely aware of being under the influence of many things: drugs, alcohol, jealousy, manipulative media, and racism. We fight to create awareness so we can move beyond the influences of these negative emotions and situations. Just as important as letting some things go, there is the importance of...

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Apologies Don't Start with the Word 'You'

(4) Comments | Posted June 20, 2012 | 4:01 PM

While talking to my stepdaughter recently, she told me about an apology her boyfriend made to her. I was surprised to hear that his apology had contained the word "You" more than the word "I." Most of us are used to hearing some version of these sincere apologies:

  • I'm sorry...
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5 Ways to Reduce Fear

(2) Comments | Posted June 10, 2012 | 9:59 AM

It seems that fear is manufactured before our eyes through the news and our interactions with others, and it appears most often without our permission and it permeates our lives. Because fear is contagious, it can control us effortlessly, if we let it. The destructive power of fear no longer...

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Where the Mind Goes, the Body Will Follow

(2) Comments | Posted June 7, 2012 | 7:40 AM

When our mind is fearful, our bodies follow the fear and we experience the physical effects of stress. We all have heard that stress produces cortisol, the "fat hormone." We know that stress changes our bodily functions and when left unchecked, can harm us is many ways.

Why is...

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Difficult Woman or Fearless?

(0) Comments | Posted May 31, 2012 | 2:46 PM

When a woman is described as tough, sexual, smart or ugly, you can almost count on that woman being accomplished, secure in her sexuality, intelligent and unaffected by her looks. Women who have forged ahead in their lives, unapologetic for their choices and unaffected by others who would clearly be...

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7 Habits That Can Hurt You

(33) Comments | Posted May 18, 2012 | 7:50 AM

When we realize our life is not working -- financial hardships, abuse, unfriendliness, weight gain, bad relationship and/or an unfulfilling job -- there are a few habits we can let go of to change our reality immediately. Change is swift and permanent when we choose to make certain mental, spiritual...

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What Obama's Decision Means

(3) Comments | Posted May 10, 2012 | 10:11 AM

Constitutional rights have been battled over for as long as we can remember. The fight for equality for blacks, women, equal rights in the workplace and now equality for LGBTs, has never been easy and many have suffered to put an end to the discrimination. We finally have a president...

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