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Linda Lipshutz, MS, ACSW
Linda Lipshutz, M.S., LCSW is a psychotherapist who has dedicated her career to helping families face the toughest challenges of their lives. She holds degrees from Cornell and Columbia and trained at the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy in Manhattan. She writes a weekly column about relationships for The Florida Weekly. Read more about her online at
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Entries by Linda Lipshutz, MS, ACSW

Losing a Pet May Cause Inconsolable Grief

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2013 | 5:06 PM

Gina blinked twice and did a double take. The neighbor's new dog looked just like Fluffy. But, of course it wasn't Fluffy. Gina fought to hold back tears. Her beloved poodle, Fluffy had died six months ago after a protracted illness, and Gina had been heartsick ever since. She couldn't...

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Do We Tell?

(1) Comments | Posted June 17, 2013 | 11:23 AM

Sharon looked across the restaurant and did a double take. (Details have been changed.) Was that Chet Adams, her closest friend Barb's husband? No, it couldn't be. Oh, yes, it was. Sharon looked again, and there was no mistake. It was definitely Chet. And there was no mistaking he was...

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Wishing You Could Take Back Your Words

(8) Comments | Posted December 3, 2012 | 11:30 AM

When Jeff* announced that he was leaving her after fifteen years of marriage, Beth was stunned. Beth felt so alone and so betrayed. She sought the solace of anyone who would commiserate with her and agree that Jeff was a selfish, heartless jerk. An inner voice cautioned that perhaps she...

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Must The Visits With Our Children Be So Awkward?

(115) Comments | Posted September 10, 2012 | 12:30 PM

We try not to stare. But we know too well that uncomfortable scene in the local fast food restaurant: that flustered father sitting with his children, trying desperately to keep the conversation going, as the kids' eyes are glued to electronic devices. The father peppers out questions, hoping to hit...

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Do Stepmothers Get a Bum Rap?

(27) Comments | Posted July 25, 2012 | 12:25 PM

Although Barbara* met Larry months after he'd moved out of the house, both his ex-wife and daughter Ashley blamed Barbara for causing the divorce. Barbara had tried everything she could think of to win Ashley's affection but nothing seemed to make a difference. Ashley had not only kept Barbara at...

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Must Divorced Fathers Become Second Class Citizens?

(951) Comments | Posted May 23, 2012 | 2:45 AM

It was the last straw. The Millers (details have been changed) had invited Greg's ex-wife Susan to their annual barbecue with the kids, and hadn't even taken the time to explain to Greg why he'd been overlooked. It really hurt, especially because he had spent hours last summer helping the...

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Don't Let Your "Divorce Guilt" be Your Undoing

(5) Comments | Posted May 10, 2012 | 12:20 PM

"Ellen" knew it was wrong to not show up. Her daughter, "Sara," had so looked forward to this day. Ellen knew that helping Sara select a wedding gown should have been a special moment in both of their lives. In fact, Sara had made a special point of including Ellen,...

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Surviving Under the Same Roof

(51) Comments | Posted May 4, 2012 | 12:35 PM

Shelly heard the car door slam and checked the clock on her nightstand. Three AM! Joe* had some nerve to rub his social life in her face. She tried to fall back asleep but tossed and turned for the rest of the night.

This was absolute torture....

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Can Our Children Handle College Rejections?

(3) Comments | Posted March 30, 2012 | 3:43 PM

Jared could hardly contain his excitement as he dashed home to check the mail. His heart was set on Princeton. He had killed himself his entire academic career to win the coveted admission. He was valedictorian of the senior class, captain of the basketball team. Everyone had assured him he...

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When Your Divorce Is This Week's News

(13) Comments | Posted March 5, 2012 | 2:00 PM

If you've had the misfortune of going through a very public, contentious divorce, it may feel like all heads turn when you walk into the room. You may be convinced that people are whispering behind your back. If truth be told, your friends and neighbors may be consumed with dissecting...

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Are You Really 'Just Kidding?'

(0) Comments | Posted January 20, 2012 | 3:23 PM

"I was just kidding!"

How many times have you seen someone justify hurtful barbs with the disclaimer: "I was just kidding"?

But, were they just kidding? Or did they use their alleged "humor" as an opportunity to dish out a message they didn't have the courage or weren't comfortable enough...

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Holding Your Own in Difficult Family Relationships

(2) Comments | Posted January 18, 2012 | 6:40 PM

Matt [not his real name] was trembling with rage. Once again, his father had humiliated him in front of the entire staff. Matt had proposed a carefully thought-out recommendation for a new project, and his father had dismissed his suggestion without giving him the opportunity to fully explain his ideas....

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When Friends Are on the Opposite Side of the Aisle

(2) Comments | Posted December 12, 2011 | 9:55 AM

Marilyn groaned when she saw Al Springer (names have been changed) elbowing his way towards her husband John. The two men have diametrically opposing political views and have had heated arguments in the past. Marilyn had warned John to keep his distance should Al come up to him. She cringed...

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Dare I Stay in Touch With My Child's Ex

(13) Comments | Posted November 9, 2011 | 2:45 AM

When your child goes through a divorce, you certainly wish to express loyalty and support to your own flesh and blood. But what if you have enjoyed a rich, mutually supportive bond with your child's spouse over many years? Should you be expected to give this relationship up?


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Are Your Friends Avoiding Your Phone Calls?

(25) Comments | Posted October 25, 2011 | 2:07 AM

If you are going through the pains of divorce, your friends and loved ones will hopefully rally with sympathy and support. The most patient and loyal will lovingly give you ample opportunity to cry and vent, offering tissues and hugs.

In fact, it's my guess that most of the people...

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Do Our Children Do As We Say, Or Do As We Do?

(7) Comments | Posted October 14, 2011 | 1:45 PM

Tara (not her real name) couldn't listen to another word. Her mother was complaining yet again that she'd gotten the short end of the stick in the divorce. Tara really didn't need to hear how horrible her father was.

Jordan closed his eyes in disgust as his father berated the...

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What Divorced Parents Can Learn From Their Children

(7) Comments | Posted September 30, 2011 | 10:02 AM

"Greg" knew he was in for it when he saw Susan standing at the front door, glaring at him. It was wishful thinking to believe he would come home to peace and quiet. The disagreements between Susan and his daughter, Lindsey had become quite ugly. The two hadn't liked each...

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