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Lindsey Ellison is a divorce and breakup coach and founder of Start Over. Find Happiness., a coaching practice that helps women navigate their divorce or breakup, and create a life they love post-divorce. She is a divorced mother of two boys and happily re-married. For more information, please visit her at

Entries by Lindsey Ellison

10 New Year's Resolutions to Make After Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted December 20, 2015 | 5:25 PM

So you did it, you finally got divorced (or separated). 2015 may have been your worst year ever, especially if you just signed the divorce papers. And now a new year is upon you, and perhaps this is the first New Year where you feel hopeful.

But as you...

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Why You Attracted the Wrong Partner

(8) Comments | Posted December 4, 2015 | 4:58 PM

Whether you're still in an unhealthy relationship, or you have just exited one, you may be asking yourself, "How did I attract someone so wrong, when at one point it felt so right? How do I know my next relationship won't be just as bad?"

The answer lies deep within...

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Narcissism and Donald Trump: 'A Risk to Our Country'

(8) Comments | Posted August 10, 2015 | 6:37 PM

In order for a politician to endure the public spotlight and harsh criticism, one must have a healthy form of narcissism. The politicians must firmly believe their policy to be the best, and they must lack empathy to those who disagree with them. The only way to win an election...

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My Parents Didn't Support My Divorce, Here's What I Said

(25) Comments | Posted April 29, 2015 | 12:18 PM

When I was unhappily married, I kept my feelings secret for many years, hoping that I would snap out of it.

On the inside, I was suffering with my torment, but to everyone else, I appeared happily married. And of course, my parents they had absolutely no clue that...

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5 Signs Your Narcissist Is Ready To Move On

(5) Comments | Posted March 12, 2015 | 4:39 PM

Falling in love with a narcissist feels like you've finally entered the fairy tale relationship you've always wanted. Everything is perfect - you are doted on, the passion is like nothing you've experienced, and you are told, "You're finally the one for me," making you feel like you've been chosen...

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5 Signs of a Bad Marriage No One Talks About

(11) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 10:44 PM

While our culture gets criticized for being too pro-divorce, I'd like to counter that criticism and say we are a culture of over-tolerance. We tolerate bad behavior and bad relationships for far too long.

We are rewarded for "sticking it out" and are scolded by our society if we...

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To Repel Your Narcissist, You Must Raise the Bar

(1) Comments | Posted December 17, 2014 | 1:05 PM

Think about when you first met your narcissist. What was going on in your life back then? Were you coming out of a bad relationship with someone else? Were you young and vulnerable, trying to escape a traumatic childhood? Perhaps you were needing someone to save you and just make...

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When Divorcing a Narcissist, Prepare for the Rage

(10) Comments | Posted December 2, 2014 | 12:46 PM

When you first met your narcissist, you probably once viewed him as a majesty who could give you the keys to his fairytale kingdom. His charm, wit and charismatic personality won you over, because you so badly craved a prince charming to save you. Conversely, your needing a prince charming...

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The Secret to Divorcing a Narcissist: 'Stop Feeling, Start Thinking'

(11) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 11:48 AM

Divorcing a narcissist may be the toughest fight of your life. While your marriage to a narcissist may have seemed like hell, divorcing him/her can be painfully agonizing, making your marriage seem like a walk in the park.

Following my recent blog, the #1 Secret to Engaging...

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Narzisstische Persönlichkeitsstörung: Wie Sie mit Betroffenen umgehen

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 3:04 PM

Wenn Sie mit einem Narzissten verheiratet sind, mit ihm verwandt sind oder von ihm geschieden sind, dann wissen Sie vielleicht, wie schwierig es ist, mit so einem Menschen vernünftig umzugehen.

Narzissten sind Meister der Manipulation. Bei den ersten Treffen sind Sie intelligent und charmant. Anfangs werden sie für super-selbstbewusst gehalten,...

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Il consiglio #1 per chi ha a che fare con un narcisista

(32) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 8:11 AM

Se hai a che fare, sei sposata o divorziata con un narcisista, allora sai quanto sia difficile farli ragionare. I narcisisti sono dei campioni della manipolazione. Appena incontrati sono intelligenti e affascinanti, ed è inevitabile averne un'alta considerazione (della quale ovviamente sono perfettamente coscienti), nella quale...

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The #1 Secret on How To Engage With a Narcissist

(257) Comments | Posted September 8, 2014 | 6:43 PM

If you are related to, married to, or divorced from a narcissist, then you know how difficult it is reason with them.

Narcissists are masters at manipulation. They are often intelligent and charming when you first meet them. In the beginning, you hold them to such high esteem (of...

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The #1 Question Cheaters Must Ask Themselves

(18) Comments | Posted September 2, 2014 | 4:19 PM

To all those men and women who are in an empty marriage, who feel lonely and unloved, who crave the touch of someone else because they haven't been touched by their spouse in months, maybe years: You wake up each day and perform the roles you signed up for --...

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8 coisas que me lembram que a vida continua depois do divórcio

(1) Comments | Posted August 26, 2014 | 9:13 PM

A história pós-divórcio de Lindsey Ellison é um exemplo rematado de sucesso no espírito de “se a vida lhe dá um limão, faça uma limonada”. Como coach para divorciadas, Ellison aproveita as lições que sua própria história lhe ensinou para orientar mulheres a passar pelo divórcio e, uma vez terminado...

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Why 'I Love You' Isn't Good Enough

(0) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 5:55 PM

How many times has he told you he loved you, but then the outcome doesn't reflect the true love he continues to profess? There are two scenarios in which this happens:

1) You are actually in love with him and hoping for love in return.

2) You are falling out...

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7 Surprising Ways He Begs You to Stay

(3) Comments | Posted June 17, 2014 | 1:18 PM

I don't know what it is about women, but when we've made up our mind about divorce, the decision is made. It is done. We can suffer silently for years, filling the void in our marriage with girlfriends, new hobbies, or our children.

But then comes the day when...

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6 Things Young Brides Need to Know About Marriage

(6) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 4:34 PM

I have seen the "advice for brides" columns before. They are often laden with sugar-coated, diluted suggestions for living happily ever after: "Communication is the key to happiness" or "Healthy fighting equals a successful marriage."

I read them all before I got married. At 24 years old, I thought...

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¿Falta de sexo en el matrimonio? 5 motivos por los que no deberías culpar a tu apetito sexual

(3) Comments | Posted May 2, 2014 | 2:21 AM

Corría el año 1998 y yo estaba en la sala de espera de mi médico, muy nerviosa. Me esperaban los resultados de mis análisis de sangre, y yo estaba convencida de que me ocurría algo malo. Pensaba que tenía cáncer o un desequilibrio en la tiroides, o que mis ovarios...

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Men, Are You Willing to Give Up Your Marriage for Success?

(43) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 5:30 PM

As a women's divorce coach, the top complaints I hear from women who are considering divorce are:

"He is never home because he is always working. And when he is home, he never pays attention to me."

"He has it so easy. I take care of everything while he...

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Kein Sex mit dem Partner? Warum es nicht an Ihrer Lust liegt.

(2) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 11:09 AM

1998 saß ich nervös im Wartezimmer meines Arztes und wartete auf meine Labor-Ergebnisse. Ich war überzeugt davon, dass mit mir irgendetwas nicht stimmte. Ich dachte, ich hätte vielleicht Krebs oder ein Schilddrüsenproblem. Vielleicht produzierten meine Eierstöcke auch nicht die richtigen Hormone. Ich suchte einen medizinischen Grund dafür, warum ich keinen...

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