It was my friend Ron who first brought to my attention the vibes our body language gives off to men.
One day he said to me, "I bet you love having your neck kissed." I asked him how he could possibly know this about me.
He said, "Lisa, it's so obvious. When you talk, you put your hand under your hair and on your neck. Without realizing it, you're showing me you like having your neck touched."
Every time you're with a man, each of you is giving off signals that you might not even be aware of.
I want to share some of these with you because once you get this, it's like having a behind the scenes playbook for knowing whether or not he's into you.
Men are attracted to your personality, your friendliness and your warmth.
So how can your body let a man know you're an amazing women with a wonderful personality?
We have a tendency to lean in towards things or people we like. So when you like a man, you'll want to lean in slightly by tipping your head or moving your body forward.
It makes you appear friendly and warm while giving off the vibe of "I think you're pretty interesting and I'm starting to like you."
When you pull away or sit way back in your chair, you're saying I'm turned off and not interested.
Want to know if he's interested in you?
If you're standing and talking, look down to see which way his feet are pointing. If they're pointing towards you, it's a good sign that he's into you.
If they're pointed away from you, then chances are that second date isn't going to happen.
Here's another way to tell if he's not interested. If he's standing and has one foot pointed towards you and one towards the door, he's ready to go.
Now here's an obvious one. When you're on a date, don't cross your arms or put your purse directly in front of your body.
When you do, you're giving off a vibe of being closed off, which means you won't come off as either warm or friendly.
If his arms are crossed, it's likely he's closing off or protecting himself in some way. When this happens, try leaning in to let him know you're interested and see if that causes him to open back up. If he keeps his arms crossed over his chest, then chances are, this date is heading nowhere. Use an exit strategy and move on to someone who shows you he's into you.
Don't invade his space by sitting too close when you first meet unless he invites you into his space.
Ever been in an elevator where someone got too close to you? It feels awkward, don't you think? It's like someone is trying to invade your space.
The space between 5 and 18 inches is considered the intimate zone. It's a great space to be in when you're in a relationship and you want romance and intimacy.
But when you're just meeting someone, stay a little more than an arms length from them unless they give you signals like touching your hand or a kiss to come in closer.
Matching body posture makes a man feel like you understand him.
When he leans in, you lean in. When he pulls back, you do the same.
Words of warning: don't match any man's posture of aggression or anger. He subconsciously sees this as a threat.
Touch is important!
When a man tells a story and you agree with him, lightly touch him on the arm as you share that you understand.
Most people like touch and respond to it in a positive way. That's because touch feels good and makes the person being touched feel special. And we all love feeling special, right?
Next time you're on a date, start paying attention to the vibes you're both giving off.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. Her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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