There are some days where being single is really hard. February 14 happens to be one of them. You can't help but pass colorful storefront windows loaded with Valentine's Day ideas and gifts. You find your email box loaded with Restaurant.com and Groupon offers to wine and dine you and the sweetheart you wish you had. Everywhere you look it seems like couples are holding hands and kissing.
The huge emphasis on Valentine's Day love can feel so intense that not only do you feel lonely on this day, but you may also feel left out of something that seems to be universally happening for everyone else.
When this happened to me, it really surprised me. After all, I was supposed to be one of those women who felt okay being single. I'm sure it's no surprise that lots of men and women find Valentine's Day one of the hardest days of the year to get through.
I knew if I wanted to "feel the love" that day, I was going to have to make that happen by doing something really nice for myself. I picked up dinner for myself from my favorite Thai restaurant. I topped off the delicious curry dish with the best ice cream in the world, Graeter's chocolate chip ice cream.
Then I filled my bathtub with hot water and a few drops of lavender oil. I luxuriously soaked and read a novel I'd been meaning to get to for a while. By the time I was done, I was feeling pretty good about myself.
I decided there was no way I was spending Valentine's Day alone the following year, so I toweled off and headed to my computer to look for a good man.
Just so you know, even men can feel the sadness of being alone on Valentine's Day and you will probably find quite a few hanging out at your favorite online dating site just waiting for you this week!
Unless you want a repeat of spending the evening alone next Valentine's Day, then now may be the time for getting out of your comfort zone by putting your picture and profile online to start looking for a great guy.
All you have to do is plant yourself in front of your computer for half an hour. Try a new dating site you've never had a profile on before. There might be new men you've never come across before on there and you'll seem new to them too.
The beauty of online dating is that even on the coldest night, you can meet new guys while feeling all snuggly in your pajamas inside your warm and cozy house.
Be daring as you look for love this week. Start a chat conversation with a man online that looks interesting to you. Allow yourself to feel what its like to flirt again. Be short and sweet as you answer his questions. And remember to ask him questions too!
In fact, why not have three or four different chats going at the same time? I know it sounds silly but it can be so much fun and there is something so sexy about lots of male attention all at once that will make you feel really good and really desirable!
I hope this encourages you to make this week a good one by giving yourself a special treat and by heading online for some wonderful male attention. Let me know how your online flirting goes!
Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who makes dating over 50 fun and easy. Find out more at www.FindAQualityMan.com.
Sometimes it feels like the foundation of your social life is so strong that you no longer find the opportunity to meet new and exciting people. Throw a barbecue or party in which guests bring a friend that no one in the group knows. Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date.
There's no longer a stigma about a woman learning to golf or a man taking a Pilates class, though such activities are still gender lopsided enough one way or the other to open up the dating options for the minority sex. In time you'll be able to go to a local public course and complete someone else's foursome, or cap off an exercise class by going for coffee with some of your fellow students -- both of which will give you the opportunity to meet a host of new people (most likely of the opposite sex). Just make sure you're doing something you want to do -- it would be a shame to begin a relationship under false pretenses.
Organizations such as "Habitat For Humanity" allow you to come into contact with people of all ages and from all walks of life, all of whom have strong, respectable values. And it's not just a great chance to meet a prospective date -- volunteering attracts interesting, good-natured people who themselves are excited to meet new faces and make friends.
Book clubs are great places to meet well-read, like-minded adults -- you can usually find one by calling your local library. Similarly, wine clubs, outdoors clubs and gardening clubs are good options as well depending on your interests. Joining a club allows you to grow as an individual and sets up the opportunity for you to meet someone who shares a common interest.
Singles over 50 are flocking to the online dating world more than any other demographic. It would be a shame to let 20th century prejudices about online dating spoil the opportunities that could await you with a membership. The perception that dating sites attract eccentrics or shut-ins is a dying one, but if you need convincing, just see for yourself the array of adults turning to sites like "Match" and "eHarmony" to help them begin meaningful relationships with interesting people. Here are the top five most popular dating sites for Post50s.
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