3 Quick And Easy Steps For Finding Your Own Prince Charming

04/18/2015 12:32 am ET | Updated Jun 17, 2015

I saw the new movie Cinderella with my granddaughter recently.

As Ella and Prince Charming fell in love, I thought about all of the women who wonder why they don't have Prince Charming coming to find them...

It's simple.

Most women aren't treating men like princes. Or even like they are charming.

Cinderella attracts and keeps Prince Charming not only with her kindness and warm heart, but also by how she treats him.

Women who are adored by men use the secrets I'm going to share with you in these three easy steps. They are simple and you can go out and use them right away to attract and keep your own Prince Charming.

I'll show you how to treat a man so royally that he'll happily want to do the same for you.

Step #1. It all starts with recognizing a great catch.

Do you remember the plot of another Disney movie, Beauty and the Beast?

Belle falls in love with the Beast because of how kind he is and how well he treats her. She doesn't know that beneath his ugly exterior is a man who was once very handsome.

Even though she is repelled at first, once she gets to know the Beast, she finds her heart opening to him.

Often times, I hear from women that a must have quality is the handsomeness of a man. I try and help my private clients understand that attraction can grow as you get to know a man.

What counts for getting the long-term relationship you want is how a man treats you.

This is why you want to give Average Joe a chance.

He can make a far better boyfriend for you than Mr. Hottie will any day. Mr. Hottie will want you to feel lucky he chose you. Whereas Average Joe will feel honored you chose him so he'll do everything he can to show you he's worthy of being your prince.

Step #2. Listen to a man the way he wants to be heard.

When you're speaking with girl friends, you talk about one subject, then in the middle of that subject, you move to another subject, then you go back to the original subject and then back out again to something else.

In the midst of all this, you're talking over each other, finishing sentences, asking questions and starting new trails of conversation that all of you can follow.

That's because this is how women communicate.

But it's not the way men communicate.

Most men can follow only ONE stream of thought at a time. (I'm not insulting or demeaning men by saying that. They are much more focused than women are on that one thought.)

And when you interrupt a man with additional questions, he thinks you aren't listening to him because you didn't give him a chance to finish his thoughts before you asked something else.

Believe me, I know you are listening.

But you're listening in a female way that men just don't understand. I want to show you what you can do instead that really works with men. Ready?

Ask a man ONE question at a time.

Allow him to talk and get everything out he needs to say about this one question until he slows down and stops talking.

Often times, he'll even say, "I'm done," or "That's it."

Now, count five to 10 more seconds before you ask him another question just to be sure he's finished with the last one.

I promise when you do this with a man, you will touch his heart and he will feel like the luckiest man around.

When he feels treasured, he'll want to do everything in his power to make you his princess.

Step #3. Make a man feel like your hero and watch your dating life change.

In this day and age, and with everything women have gone through, you've probably become pretty self-sufficient.

You had to. You didn't have a choice or you wouldn't have survived.

But what it did was it took away a man's power of feeling like he's needed in your life.

Men are wired to keep you safe, protected and provided for to the best of their ability.

When you can do it all, he thinks, what does she need me for?

Try making a man your hero.

It can be as simple as letting him open the door for you or asking him for a favor or his help.

Watch a man's body language when you allow him to be your hero.

His chest puffs up and he struts because he is so proud he made you happy.

Just be sure to thank and appreciate what he's done.

If you do, he will always want to be your Prince Charming, the man who makes his princess happy.

Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your free report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit

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