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Is It Your Job? Or Is It Your Personality?

Posted: 01/27/11 08:28 AM ET

How did you choose your profession?

Did you lie awake at night as a child fantasizing about spending 10 hours a day hunched over a computer?

If you're like most people, you probably fell into your profession.

When I was a kid, my secret dream was to be a televangelist. But I gave up on that after my mother informed me that I'd have to start going to church.

Gallup polling data reveals that a mere 20-30 percent of people are actively engaged in their work. That means, a good two-thirds of the people schlepping to work everyday are going through the motions, toiling away in jobs they don't particularly enjoy.

And we wonder why depression is on the rise.

We can blame bad bosses or poor management practices. But I believe one of the root problems is that most people stumble into their professions without enough self-knowledge to figure out what they would actually be great at.

We tend to choose a job based on the pay, what other people tell us we should do, and what happens to be available at the time. In the current economy, many feel lucky just to have a paycheck.

But if you're in a job you're not suited for, it's only a matter of time before you become miserable. And if you're miserable, chances are, you're not delivering superstar performance for your company or colleagues. As my dad says, "If you're unhappy with them, it's only a matter of time before they're unhappy with you."

I would know. I spent first five years of my career in the wrong job until a quick personality test (Myers-Briggs) revealed that I was never going to be happy in a job with no creativity.

One common source of career misery is people who are working in the right subject area but in the wrong role.

For example, many people become teachers because they liked history, biology or English Lit. Yet they get into the job and realize that they don't actually like preparing lessons or patiently helping poor students learn. A love of Chaucer isn't enough; a good teacher is someone who enjoys making personal connections with students.

The same thing applies to any other profession. If you're a quiet introvert who recharges by being alone, you probably don't want to be a customer service representative. You may love books or computer games, but the last thing you need is a job selling them.

When we're unhappy with our work, it's easy to blame our misery on the boss, company or the working conditions. It's scarier to admit that we might simply not be a fit.

Acknowledging that you're not well suited for your profession feels like failure.

But it's not.

It simply means that your job isn't a good match for your inherent skills or personality.

If you're an analytical, or a touchy-feely type, or a laser focused creative, that's probably how you were born. No amount of training or incentive pay is going to turn you into something you're not.

But it's not the boss's job to figure out where you would be better suited; it's yours.

People who hate their jobs wind up not being very good at them. You deserve better that that. And so does your employer.

Lisa Earle McLeod is a keynote speaker, author, columnist and business consultant who specializes in sales and leadership training. Her newest book, "The Triangle of Truth," has been cited as the blueprint for "how smart people can get better at everything." Visit www.TriangleofTruth.com for a short video intro.

 
 
 

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How did you choose your profession? Did you lie awake at night as a child fantasizing about spending 10 hours a day hunched over a computer? If you're like most people, you probably fell into your ...
How did you choose your profession? Did you lie awake at night as a child fantasizing about spending 10 hours a day hunched over a computer? If you're like most people, you probably fell into your ...
 
 
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realitytrumpsbull
Two 'alves of coconut!
11:34 AM on 02/01/2011
Work is that 4-letter word used to describe the activity we perform each day in order to support ourselves and keep our place on the Treadmill Of Life. Does it suck? Well, sometimes, but much depends on your approach. Kind of like landing an airplane, it's all about the approach.(Now, let's see your departure ;) )

Some people get a charge out of working, gives em a chance to earn a buck and strut their stuff. I think, though, that after you've done ANYTHING for a certain number of years, and you could basically do it in your sleep, you start actually doing it in your sleep, wandering through life sort of unconscious. 

And, the working world has increasingly become regimented, digitized, timed, half-automated, so it kind of follows that in some examples and circumstances, the people start acting half-automated, too. So, if you're feeling like that, maybe it's a cue from within that it's Time For Change. Start considering your various options, what do you WANT to do, vs. what do you HAVE to do, thanks to obligations financial and otherwise that you've incurred along the way. Are you bored to tears or beyond with your current circumstances? Crave change? Then make it happen. Start using that computer to ask questions, and explore options. Take an inventory of your skills and interests. How old are you? How much change can you really tolerate? Are you pretty comfortable where you're at? Ready to take the plunge into the unknown? Red pill, or the blue pill, or no pills? 

When was the last time you did something 'just for fun'? Life only lasts about 80 years, how many more will you spend in the yoke, there? A lot of things in life, we end up doing because of money. Are YOU a slave to a dollar bill?
12:26 PM on 01/31/2011
I agree that knowing your own myers-briggs is a very insightful tool. But, am wary of how companies use them. I found out my myers-briggs while working at a company and was then 'pigeon hold' because of one of those company test. Behind close doors, the powers that be arbitrarily said I probably wouldn't make a good manager because of my type. Someone who ignored the test decided to make me a manager anyway and I turned out to one of the best managers of my department ever. I knew my product, how to build it, make it work, communicate its uses, and had the highest respect for my employees.
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abbyrose86
Business exists to benefit MANKIND, MANKIND does N
05:14 PM on 01/30/2011
I completely agree with the points made in this article.

Life is short and one is doing something they are not well suited for they are going to be miserable and not the most productive.

Sadly too many in our society do just that and it in turn isn't good for our society as whole, or do I don't think is good for business and our economy as well. Too many are afraid to take chances and really go after doing their own thing. I think this idea of taking a job any job just to make money is part of the reason we have so many business, economic and social issues as we do.

Unfortunately, once people get stuck in a job or a field, they don't think they can move on to something else, and our business climate promotes that concept. It seems to me ALL these various factors, work together at creating a society of robots who are simply living to serve their masters and in the end only a few benefit and many others are left depressed.

Wouldn't it be great if more people REALLY had the opportunity to pursue their innate abilities and in so doing create new industries, new jobs, new innovations that help themselves AND society as a whole, rather just droning on in go nowhere jobs are careers they are ill suited toward.

Ah...so many things to think about.
04:32 AM on 01/30/2011
Thank you for your insights Lisa. I've found that we tend to be happiest when we do things that are meaningful to us. The conundrum is that so many of us have been told that it's not practical or realistic to follow our dreams when our very happiness depends on doing what we love in life.
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04:26 AM on 01/30/2011
Totally agree! Most people don't take the accountability they should when it comes to their jobs. They blame outside factors about things they can change. A positive attitude is necessary in everything we do!
11:10 AM on 01/29/2011
On one hand I agree with this article On the other hand for the past few years, where I work, its the people who complain the most that are full-timers. Everybody else struggles. I've had a several jobs years ago were excellent fits; that I loved and gave my best to and lasted no more than a couple of years (at best) before being let go. I've never been able to get back into that kind of work since. Go figure.
12:49 AM on 01/29/2011
ESFJ is the only normal personality and psychs won't tell you.
10:35 AM on 02/01/2011
"Normal"?
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thebearschick
12:47 AM on 01/29/2011
um, I dont see how having ANY job would be construed as a "problem" in this economy...
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mlaiuppa
Pres. Sarcasm Society. Like we need your approval.
12:28 AM on 01/28/2011
You can still be a televangelist. No church or seminary needed. Just look at Joel Osteen.

As for me, I didn't choose my profession for the money. Or I should say, I went into it knowing full well I would be underpaid for my entire professional career. I realized I would never be thanked and those I helped would never be grateful, but what I didn't realize was that after dedicating my life to other people's children and spending a career giving all of my time to benefit them and society I'd be vilified for choosing to serve others rather than selfishly pursuing money. No matter how many degrees I attain, how much training, I will still be considered incompetent. No matter how much time I spend off the clock supporting and nurturing other people's children, how much money I spend supplementing supplies that are lacking, no matter how much they improve, I will still be disrespected. The more I give, the more I am vilified.

I'm a teacher. I have a gift for being able to explain complex concepts so they can be easily understood. I enjoy it. I've looked forward to every year. I've spent my own money and my own time to further my education so I can improve my ability to help my students to achieve.

I used to enjoy it. I used to look forward to every fall.

Not any more. I just can't fight the public and media attacks.

BA, MAed, MLIS, NBCT
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04:05 PM on 01/28/2011
My mother was a teacher, and so was my grandmother, and for that matter, our President is a former teacher. Your comments make me sad.

However I suspect that after many years of doing otherwise, teachers are going to start seeing a jump in status and pay, as we slowly wise up to the fact that you can't create a a great country without great teachers. When the good ones get burnt out and leave, we'll change. It will be agonizingly slow, but we'll eventually do it.
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Robert SF
11:41 PM on 01/28/2011
Actually, no. Teachers are on the way out, especially teachers for courses in which students can be tested objectively.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/18/education/18classrooms.html
Naomi is one of over 7,000 students in Miami-Dade County Public Schools enrolled in a program in which core subjects are taken using computers in a classroom with no teacher.
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HST
Conservatism = selfishness
04:50 PM on 01/27/2011
My mother died of cancer when I was quite young and I wound up in the medical profession trying to make a difference.

27 years later I am burned out, surrounded by nepotism, people are being promoted above me based on favoritism instead of ability and the job market in my area has been flooded with inferior graduates depressing wages and making jobs harder to get.

Somehow I don't think my personality has much to do with it...
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Mr Sick Of Greed
01:53 PM on 01/28/2011
i feel the same way, my personality is the exact opposite of my job, but right now, finding a better and different job is not that easy.....sometimes the people who are giving the advice can not possible relate to the hardships of others......
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RedRat
Ignorance is fixable, stupidty is forever
01:54 PM on 01/27/2011
Very good. I don't think I fell into my profession of being a research chemist. I knew I wanted to do that when I was in about fourth grade. I was fascinated with the physical world and how it was held together. So I majored in chemistry in college, not to say it was always smooth sailing but my interest kept me at it.

I found a job with Uncle Sam that I fully expected to be a temporary position after I got my Bachelors degree and would look elsewhere after I got my feet on the ground. But the more I worked the more I like the job and before long some 40 plus years passed. Were there ups and down, of course, but I was one lucky SOB to find my profession.

I think many restrict themselves in their mindset when they graduate college or even high school. Look, if you are fully set on being a rock star or actor, you are not going to find much pleasure in any job other than what you want. However, you must also be realistic in your assessment of yourself. Do you really have rock star talent or acting talent? American Idol show that many of those just do not have it. You must be willing and able to change direction and find opportunity where it presents itself.
06:32 PM on 01/27/2011
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12:36 PM on 01/27/2011
Good article. I'm about to make a career change because my day job bores me and I don't think it fits my personality well.
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RedRat
Ignorance is fixable, stupidty is forever
02:06 PM on 01/27/2011
What you might be wise in doing, because of the current high unemployment rate, is perhaps to take that Myers-Briggs test to see where your personality fits. While the test is not fool-proof, like many psychological tests, it does give some broad guidance of where to look. Many jobs can appear boring (I found this in my first real job out of college) but then as I got into it, I found it so fascinating I stayed with it. Are you setting a personal bar for work that may be based on false expectation about work and your abilities? Hard questions, yes but necessary. Quitting a job and finding another can be a fatal mistake and employers look at people with a critical eye if they do a lot of job hopping.
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12:17 PM on 01/27/2011
We cant all be thrilled with our work, I am fortunate to have been able to make a career change into something I love doing....but previous to that, regardless of whether or not I enjoyed my work, I should have been entitled to accomplish it without the impingement of favoritism, nepotism, gender discrimination, religious discrimination, unfair pay for being overworked, parental discrimination....all of these things I experienced personally. Being subjected to these issues can debilitate your motivation and ambition no matter how much you are committed to your profession.

The corporate environment must be a fair and healthy one for anyone to be productive whether its their dream job or not. I think relegating it to the "if you dont like cooking, get out of the kitchen" attitude is only one facet of larger issue.
09:54 AM on 01/27/2011
Having made a major career change and couldn't be happier, do something you're suited for, I have a college degree first in my family worked for an insurance company for 10 years hated it. I felt trapped being made to sit still every single day work was torture, I have ADHD or at least that's what the Doctors diagnosed take drugs they said, I got into it with a supervisor over a company policy that was adversely effecting customers rates, she was going to write me up I told her I quit. I started my own business landscaping the day I stopped being chained to a desk, my ADHD went away. Now I'm a pipefitter and plumber, make better money than I ever did at the insurance company, better benefits and I'm happy. We have an educational policy of saying everyone that's bright has to go to a 4year college get a B.S degree and then a white collar job. I was a very so-so insurance company employee, a pipefitter I finish a job for one company if they don't have any work, I go on the list and usually get a by name call, within a week to go back to work.
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RedRat
Ignorance is fixable, stupidty is forever
02:00 PM on 01/27/2011
I would suggest that you may still have ADHD but you have a found a niche job that accommodates your ADHD. Nothing wrong with that, it is good that you found something and are taking a positive tack.
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mlaiuppa
Pres. Sarcasm Society. Like we need your approval.
12:37 AM on 01/28/2011
Adult ADHD isn't that common. But he may be bodily kinesthetic, meaning he has trouble sitting still for long periods. And if he's also extrovert, being isolated behind a desk in a cubicle, also not good.

He is spot on in that our current education policy doesn't accommodate those who wish to take a different path than 4 year post graduate degrees.
09:54 AM on 01/27/2011
I would also add that you must believe in the mission of the company you work for. If the corporate mission is contrary to your own personal values, you will be miserable. Mission statements may seem like so much blather; but it's blather about the heart and soul of a company. If you're thinking about going to work for a new company, read their mission statement; if it doesn't match up with your internal compass, move on.
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RedRat
Ignorance is fixable, stupidty is forever
01:58 PM on 01/27/2011
Certainly true but you must also examine your own belief system too. Is it really realistic in this world. Have you set your personal values to such a high bar that basically you are doomed to failure not matter what job is presented to you.

As to Mission Statements, I wouldn't put that much truck in them, honestly, most are for public consumption and nothing more than PR spin. Sounds good so investors buy your stock. It is really superficial. Believe deeds and not words.