She was a bombshell, the best looking mother on the block. Slim, curves in all the right places, a kick-ass smart blonde beauty with a sense of humor. She divorced early. When I was in my late 20s, I heard little stories seep out of all the fun she was...

Have you listened? Are you listening? Do you push everything away that doesn't make sense to you? Everything that scares you, you drown with obsession and addiction to some other behavior that takes all your time and leaves you feeling ripped off.

Maybe you are functioning perfectly well. You've...

Oprah interviewed Beyonce hours before she revealed her documentary to the world. Life is But a Dream is a fabulous film piecing together intimate moments with performance clips as she experienced a huge transformation: releasing her father's management both personally and professionally in her life. Needing...

Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, Super Bowl, Valentine's Day, then nothing unites us or separates us in the same way until fireworks blaze on Independence Day. After that, months meander until costumes come out of the closet again. Life and advertising in America. What's the common thread in all these...

I experienced an interaction this week that I believe many of you might be experiencing. I woke again with the feeling of delicious relief that we have our country back after such a derisive election. Unfortunately, I immediately lost that yummy feeling remembering a conflict I got into yesterday on...

Most of my blogs here deal with the deeper emotions of my life, how I handle conflict, chaos and cancer. Yet often during my three years of blogging and especially now as my book, Courting Me(n) is about to be born, I'm interested in sharing how I cope with love...

I didn't relocate, or even change the direction of my chair to face another view.

I'm moved for many reasons because Channel 4 had such a touching remembrance of Nora Ephron. I don't usually watch Channel 4. I don't subscribe to cable at home, so I only had so many...

Today I received a call out of the blue: would I be at home to have an Edison Energy Savings contractor show up? I was sick, under the covers, but I could answer the door. Frank showed up to inspect my weather stripping, water heater, faucets, shower head, and light...

We all want a good life. Many of us are more externally driven, looking outside of ourselves for satisfaction. Some of us are more internally driven, knowing what our pattern is regardless whether it makes sense to others. This is the major simplistic difference, as I see it, between extroverts...

I've been told I over-analyze things too much. I've been told I'm too sensitive about little things. I've been told I should grow a thicker skin. I like my skin thin. It feels the delicious feelings of touch, of care, of erotic delight. Why should I harden against a world...

As the first edit of my Courting Me(n) book is nearly complete, I've had only a few issues with my brilliant editor. There is a piece on farting, a delicious man and my mother that she hated. She edited it out. I asked why. She had definite reasons why she...

In 1991, a friend introduced me to Anaïs Nin's second husband. Rupert Pole employed me for five years to work with Nin's manuscripts for A Journal of Love. The friend who made the introduction was also a writer. He told me then when I was just 31, "Don't...

You'll remember last time we talked I said I have cancer, and it's in remission. I'm finishing my book and so many different feelings and emotions are flooding my center. On Easter-Passover I was particularly vexed. I wasn't having a panic attack, but it sure felt like I was creeping...

Isn't there a saying that if one waits long enough, good things come to pass? When the timing is right, things fall into place? Or of course that real cute one, when the student is ready the teacher appears.

There is a kind of living that is dead. The days...

This morning as I lay in bed, anxious about getting up to face the day ahead of me I snarled with how easy it must be for others to be happy and satisfied about life.

Yesterday I took the red bus to get downtown to the convention center for the...

Last night I was on the phone with a friend around 11 when she told me about the 8.9 earthquake in Japan. "There are tsunami warnings for the West Coast. You better get out of there and head inland." She couldn't find any further information, so I got out of...

There is no other activity that encompasses all aspects of living, of effort, of being, as much as this morning's activity. In the space of two hours, I was not only hovering at the break between the top of the sky and the bottom of outer space, but I then...

When I was a kid I liked sparklers. I knew they could burn or sting if you didn't swirl them fast enough, but they were pretty, exciting, and in my own hands. After seeing the big extravaganzas in the sky to have something my size that I could control was...

The truth, or my truth? What's perspective? What's fact?

I try to slow my life down enough to truly appreciate the flow of it, the juice when available, the pain when delivered, the moments of recognition. I found these quotes about truth and reflected on them for close to an...

There was an article in the New York Times yesterday entitled "What Broke My Father's Heart." It was written very personally and yet very professionally at the same time by Katy Butler.

This daughter explains, "At a point hard to precisely define, they (her parents) stopped being beneficiaries...