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Lisa Solod
Lisa Solod is the creator and editor of Desire: Women Write About Wanting (Seal Press). Her fiction and non-fiction has been widely published. She is currently working on a memoir entitled A Change of Life: Confessions of a Middle-Aged Feminist.

Entries by Lisa Solod

Use Your Power October 1 and Then Every Day in Some Small Way

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2015 | 5:25 PM

A younger woman of my acquaintance recently asked me to answer some questions for a class she is taking. She wanted an "authority on women's issues." I am no authority but as a longtime feminist who is always writing about women's issues, I was happy to answer her questions.

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8 Things Middle-Aged Women Think About Far More Than Whether They're Still F*ckable by Middle-Aged Men

(217) Comments | Posted July 11, 2014 | 4:58 PM

Tom Junod's recent Esquire article on the sexual viability of 42-year-old women would be just silly if it weren't for it being part and parcel of the "new" misogyny taking hold in both American culture and American politics. When white men still make the rules, get pissed off...

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Why Talking About Birth Control and Abortion Doesn't Make You a Slut

(17) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 1:10 PM

For some reason, and no one intelligent knows why, far too many conservative men think that women talking about insured and covered birth control and available abortion means we are whores. Sluts. Loose women who cannot control our libidos.

The most obvious question is just who IS it all these...

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I Am Doing Nothing!

(3) Comments | Posted October 3, 2013 | 4:50 PM

I am doing nothing. I am doing so much nothing that I have wrapped a cocoon of nothing around myself so as to make the doing of nothing easier and less stressful. I am at a writers' and artists' colony and have two weeks in which to do nothing --...

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Why the Paula Deen Controversy Is About Far More Than Words

(10) Comments | Posted June 26, 2013 | 11:27 AM

I live in Savannah, which is one of the most beautiful cities in the world, and to which I willingly and gratefully moved when my last child left the nest.

I live in Savannah, where the lines for Paula Deen's restaurant, Lady and Sons, stretch around the block most...

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I Want My Mother Back

(21) Comments | Posted May 13, 2013 | 11:57 AM

I want my mean, bitchy, drunk mother back. The mother who was depressed and melancholy, who said cruel things about my work and criticized my parenting, who undermined instructions to my kids by saying "You really don't have to pay attention to her." I want the mother back who invited...

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Why We Cannot Be Part of the 54 Percent of Women Who Do Not Report Sexual Assault

(16) Comments | Posted April 23, 2013 | 4:41 PM

Before the bombings in Boston and the explosion in Texas and the ricin-laced letters to the president and congressmen, two women quietly committed suicide, not I think so much because they had been raped -- a traumatic enough event in itself -- but because the crime had been...

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The Rise (Again) of the Celebrity Feminist

(5) Comments | Posted March 15, 2013 | 2:17 PM

Someone recently said to me that the reason something is in the news, what makes it newsworthy, is the huge chance that it won't happen to you. For example, most people, thank God, will not be shot in a shopping mall or a school, will not die when a sinkhole...

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Marissa Mayer and the Great Class Divide

(23) Comments | Posted February 27, 2013 | 1:54 PM

A few women I know were discussing, lamenting, the state of women and the women's movement a couple of days ago, wondering why it seems that for every step we take forward we take two steps back. They were wondering, much like the Republicans seem to be, whether feminism's messaging...

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Black Boots for the End of the World

(3) Comments | Posted November 28, 2012 | 10:49 AM

I was in Paris recently, walking and walking as I do, when I realized that the black boots I had worn for several years were on their last legs. What better place to purchase a new pair than in Paris? I allowed myself to consider the splurge as I wandered...

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Interpreting 'The Language of Men'

(2) Comments | Posted October 25, 2012 | 7:11 PM

I have known a father, two husbands, and a number of lovers. I have a 25-year-old son. And still, much of the time, I don't understand the language of men. In an epic, more than 50-year struggle, I tried to talk to my father; I tried to listen to him....

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Vote as If Your Very Life Depended on It: It Does

(8) Comments | Posted August 29, 2012 | 10:06 AM

I freely admit that before I lost my health insurance coverage I barely thought about it: I paid the bills, had my babies, had surgery, went to the doctor, and most of what I needed was covered by a very good policy. Until I lost it and found it nearly...

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Why Feminism Still Matters

(22) Comments | Posted July 25, 2012 | 11:56 AM

In yoga class a few days ago, the teacher, a woman, began the class by saying that originally, yoga was a practice that only men were allowed to participate in. The young women in the class seemed baffled, especially a teenager whose father, the only man in the class, went...

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Fifty Shades of Grey: My Version

(10) Comments | Posted June 19, 2012 | 5:02 PM

I have fantasies. Oh, do I have fantasies. They wake me up in the middle of the night; they keep me from work; they interfere with my relationships. My longing is unending. It consumes me. Sometimes I stand, immobilized by my desires: So strong and overwhelming are they that I...

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Boomeranging into an Empty Nest

(7) Comments | Posted May 31, 2012 | 2:43 PM

I was extremely heartened to read in the New York Times that having a good and open relationship with your kids, one in which you speak frequently and they solicit your advice, is a positive thing. Not that I ever doubted that. The proof, as they say, is...

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The Fake Fight Between Women and How It Will Hurt Us All

(4) Comments | Posted May 2, 2012 | 1:55 PM

Motherhood vs. Feminism? Give me a break. The New York Times' recent forum with that title is just another example of the mainstream media ginning up a false dichotomy and presenting two ideas as opposing when they aren't even mutually exclusive. And for the writers in this...

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Pay Close Attention to Those Behind the Curtain

(0) Comments | Posted April 19, 2012 | 11:17 AM

In the "this isn't really news" department we have had, this week, Katie Rophe's ridiculous article about how female sexual fantasies of bondage spell the end of feminism (a Newsweek cover story no less), a fake war between mothers who work outside the home and mothers who don't: a war...

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What We Need to Talk About When We Talk About Sex and Feminism

(58) Comments | Posted April 2, 2012 | 1:36 PM

My mother married my father because, she told me in a rare moment of candor, she wanted to have sex with him. She was 25 and tired of pre-sex fumbling and stolen kisses. My father was, of course, far more experienced, having been in the Pacific Theater during World War...

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Where is My Flying Car? And Other Questions to Ask About the 21st Century

(5) Comments | Posted March 28, 2012 | 10:24 AM

When I was in my twenties and could not even imagine middle age, I realized I would be 44 in the year 2000. That seemed impossibly old. But as I neared that age and the century neared its end, I was in a different place than I had been twenty...

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The South Can Rise Again But Not Like You Think

(10) Comments | Posted March 15, 2012 | 1:30 PM

A video depicting residents of Mississippi and Alabama as toothless, ignorant bigots is making its way around the country and, perhaps, the world. That video and the fact that several southern states have gone for Santorum and Gingrich in the Republican primaries has, it seems, confirmed the notion...

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