"I have so much guilt." I hear this all the time from working mothers and it breaks my heart. I am mostly guilt-free when it comes to being a working mother -- a huge accomplishment, considering I was raised Irish Catholic and guilt is part of my DNA. Providing for my family is a privilege, and it's OK that I enjoy it.
Recently, a woman I know posted on Facebook that she was drowning in working mom guilt. Her child really wanted her to chaperone a school trip, but she had no paid time off at her new job. She was clearly distraught about what to do. After a few days and many supportive posts from friends (kids should see their parents as people, you're showing your child women are earners, my mom worked and I'm OK), she shared the good news that work was giving her the flexibility to attend the event. She would make the time up by working longer days later that week. And the way she made it work? She asked! She had assumed she couldn't attend the event before she even explored if it was a possibility.
Here experience made me think about when and why we suffer from guilt, and how we can stop it. Here are seven things to think about when guilt comes knocking:
- If you are the sole or primary breadwinner, focus on what your paycheck buys for your family. You don't feel guilty about providing food, shelter and clothing, do you?
Still can't shake the guilt? A recent study says quality time with your kids is more important than quantity. Read it.
This post is adapted from a post on HelloLadies.
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