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Liza Long
Liza Long is a writer, educator, mental health advocate and mother of four children, one of whom has mental illness. Her book The Price of Silence: A Mom's Perspective on Mental Illness from Penguin, was published in September 2014 and will be available in paperback in 2015.

Entries by Liza Long

Family Values

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 3:21 PM

Lessons from two very different flags.

Our family is complicated. Like many other Americans, my second husband Ed and I are both divorced from our first spouses. Ed has no children of his own and thinks that "our" four (plus our very lively...
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It's Time to Talk About Fear and Love

(1) Comments | Posted June 18, 2015 | 11:19 PM

Charleston shooting demands difficult conversations about guns, race, and mental illness

James Holmes was obsessed with Batman. Elliott Rodger thought all women hated him and he needed to exact revenge. Adam Lanza played Dance Dance Revolution and killed innocent first graders, an act that...

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10 Things Single Moms Can Do Just as Well as Dads

(3) Comments | Posted June 10, 2015 | 6:15 PM

And the one thing they can't do.


It's Father's Day again. A few years ago on the third Sunday of June, I posted this snarky comment on Facebook: "Since I'm a single mother, does that mean my kids have to make me...

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What It Means to Be the Daughter of a United States Marine

(21) Comments | Posted May 22, 2015 | 4:53 PM

I am the oldest daughter of a United States Marine. Born in the Pink Doctor Building during the final years of a Cold War conflict we did not win, I learned to walk on Honolulu's sandy beaches, waving to the improbable sky hippopotamus that hovered over the sea behind my...

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This May, Speak Up for Kids Who Have Mental Illness

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 11:28 AM

2015-05-04-1430773079-9763237-Dr.OzShow.jpgIn 2012, in a gut wrenching intersection of a personal tragedy with a very public one in Newtown, Connecticut, I shared a painful story about my own family on my anonymous blog. Then, after a lengthy conversation with a close personal friend,...

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Behind Dr. Oz's Curtain: What's Really 'Nuts or Normal'?

(5) Comments | Posted May 6, 2015 | 10:18 AM

"Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain." --T he Wizard of Oz, 1939

I don't watch much television. In the aftermath of September 11, 2001, when I was shocked to see my then four-year old son crash his toy airplanes into towers built of blocks, I decided we...

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If Only Mother's Day Were Every Day

(4) Comments | Posted May 5, 2015 | 4:54 PM

Every year on Mother's Day weekend for as long as I can remember, my four kids and I have packed the Suzuki full of tents, sleeping bags, sleds and s'mores fixings for our annual camping trip to Bruneau Sand Dunes State Park. The sand dunes are the largest freestanding dunes...

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People With Mental Illness Should Get What They Deserve

(29) Comments | Posted March 19, 2015 | 12:37 PM

And what they -- and their families -- deserve is help and hope.

You're sitting in your family doctor's office with your child, waiting. Your child fidgets, trying not to bite his fingernails. Your stomach is tight with worry, and you can't meet each other's eyes.

"Do you think it's...

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5 Real Ways to Combat Mental Illness

(12) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 9:42 AM

(Hint: One of Them Isn't Calling It "Mental Health")

Every morning, I wake up to an inbox with messages like this (identifying details changed):

"I just read your piece titled 'I am Adam Lanza's mother.' It rang true to me in every way. My son is 10 years old and...

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Pennies for Heaven

(0) Comments | Posted February 19, 2015 | 3:36 PM

Sometimes, we receive unexpected gifts in unexpected change.

One thing about that morning stands out in my mind is the gold Sacajawea dollar on the classroom lectern. Random coins have special meaning to me. When a penny appears on the sidewalk at my feet, something in my lizard brain says...

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Changing Our Tune

(3) Comments | Posted February 19, 2015 | 9:48 AM

Why We Need a Choir of Advocates to Fix Mental Health

In the spring of 2003, I sank into a deep depression. I was near the end of my third pregnancy's second trimester, expecting another boy to join my lively 5- and 3-year-old sons. The psychiatrist who treated me thought...

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Second Chance Love

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2015 | 7:54 AM

Three Questions Every Woman Should Ask a Potential Partner

It was a Saturday night in late summer 2012, and I was waiting in a velvet-roped line with my brand new boyfriend Ed at the hottest spot in Provo, Utah: the BYU Creamery on Ninth Street. Ed was clearly discombobulated; his...

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5 Reasons I Wish We Would Stop Talking About 'Recovery' for Serious Mental Illness And the Word I Wish We Would Use Instead

(138) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 5:10 AM

My heart hurts today. My friend Laura Pogliano has lost her 22-year-old son Zac, who had paranoid schizophrenia. Both Laura and Zac were tireless and passionate advocates for ending the stigma of mental illness. Their story was featured in USA Today's "Cost of Not Caring" series, where Laura...

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Lost in Transition

(0) Comments | Posted January 14, 2015 | 9:02 AM

One rainy evening in early October 2007, on a winding residential street in Budapest, Hungary, I got lost. I pulled out my notebook, squinting at the greying street signs as I tried to decipher something about my location. "Utca," I mumbled, looking at the hastily written glossary I had begun...

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Two Years to Nowhere

(5) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 4:46 PM

Two years after Newtown, mental health still matters, and most people still don't care.

This weekend, on the second anniversary of the Newtown shootings, I took my daughter to see her first performance of The Nutcracker. Unsure of the exact venue, we parked on the street and followed the hordes...

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Dear Claire Dunphy: About Your 'Insane Asylum of Horror'

(107) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 5:12 PM

From one soccer mom to another, here's why your Halloween Insane Asylum of Horror was anything but awesome.

You may remember seeing me at the soccer field, the grocery store, the PTA meetings. Like you, I'm pretty Type A when it comes to raising my kids; for many years, I...

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The Origins -- And the Price -- of My Accidental Manifesto for Children's Mental Health

(2) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 9:56 AM

Liza Long's essay, "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," went viral in the wake of the Newtown tragedy in December, 2012. The following is an excerpt from her new book, The Price of Silence: A Mom's Perspective on Mental Illness.

October 20, 2010. Sitting in a psychiatrist's...

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#YesAllWomen Includes Mothers of Children with Mental Illness

(9) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 1:10 PM

On the third Saturday morning in May, I drove my 14-year-old son to his last soccer game of the season. For me, it's a miracle he is even playing soccer: last May, he was in a psychiatric hospital, where after more than eight years of doctors, therapists, school suspensions, ineffective...

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Je suis la mère d'Adam Lanza: réflexions sur la maladie mentale en Amérique

(16) Comments | Posted December 18, 2012 | 8:47 AM

- L'horrible tragédie de vendredi dernier, qui a coûté la vie à 20 enfants et six adultes de l'École primaire Sandy Hook de Newtown soulève des questions troublantes. Partout à travers les États-Unis, les Américains sont encore une fois contraints de débattre de la violence qui afflige le pays....
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