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Lois Tarter
Lois Tarter is a divorce party planner and divorce blogger. She believes that a divorce is a rebirth and is just as important to celebrate, if not more so, than a marriage. This sparked the idea for her first book, The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life. Follow Lois on Twitter: @LoisTarter

Entries by Lois Tarter

10 Ways To Meet Someone New During The Holidays

(1) Comments | Posted December 13, 2013 | 5:32 AM

A really good thing to know about being single during the holidays is that you're not the only one. There are other people who are not in a relationship during this holiday season and are looking to get to know someone new over eggnog.

The holidays are a great...

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15 Things Not To Do After A Breakup

(27) Comments | Posted December 7, 2013 | 9:09 AM

After a breakup, it's so easy to feel depressed and alone. It's important to take matters into your own hands and pull yourself back together as quickly as possible. Realize that while it was traumatic, you can go forward and move into the new life that you want.

You don't...

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Divorce Over 50: Was Your First Marriage Really a Dress Rehearsal?

(43) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 5:37 AM

Almost everybody I've come across who's over 50 and was going through their first divorce said adamantly, "I will never get married again." A few years later, I've been to the weddings of many of those people. After you've been through a divorce, it takes a lot of soul searching...

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What the Movie Enough Said Tells Us About Exes and Relationships

(1) Comments | Posted November 14, 2013 | 1:55 PM

The movie Enough Said is the perfect example of what is right for one person may not be right for someone else.

James Gandolfini plays Albert. His character is a little quirky, but warm and loving. Catherine Keener plays his ex, a poet named Marianne. Her character is more...

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Sprucing Up Your Home After a Divorce Is Totally Cathartic

(2) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 3:32 PM

Moving on after a divorce could mean that your ex is moving out and you're keeping the marital residence. Now, you have your own space again and the freedom to do whatever you want with it.

You don't have to do anything costly like knocking down walls or building...

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'Were You Looking In My Medicine Cabinet?': Dating Don'ts For Women Over 50

(43) Comments | Posted October 25, 2013 | 6:43 AM

Going from a divorce or a long-term relationship to dating again is not a simple lifestyle change. Women over 50 who haven't been single for some time can easily fall into dating no-no's. These can actually prevent them from meeting the kind of people that they're looking for.

With the...

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Dating Over 50: How I Found Love When I Wasn't Looking For It

(15) Comments | Posted October 4, 2013 | 6:21 AM

With grey divorce on the rise, many couples over 50 are looking to leave their disappointing marriages and reinvent themselves. The older you are when you divorce, the more variables there are to consider. However, even though it's difficult and there are many challenges, you can't stay in a situation...

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Can Taking a Timeout Save Your Marriage?

(1) Comments | Posted September 9, 2013 | 2:54 PM

Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones have decided to take some time apart. While a divorce could be in their future, they are apparently taking a moment to themselves to see if that is where they want to go. The majority of celebrities and other's whose marriages are faltering usually go...

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Should You Have Divorced Earlier?

(6) Comments | Posted August 21, 2013 | 2:26 PM

Michael Douglas told the press recently that he should have ended his first marriage sooner than he did. Douglas said, "I know I'm going to get into trouble here. I have nothing against her and in fact I'm very fond of my first wife. But we should have ended that...

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Friends After Divorce

(4) Comments | Posted August 7, 2013 | 12:16 PM

Denise Richards was interviewed on OWN recently and talked about her relationship with ex-husband Charlie Sheen. While their divorce seemed to be a nasty one according to press reports, their lives together now appear calm. The two stars are happy to be spending time together with their children....

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What a Difference a Year After a Divorce Makes

(8) Comments | Posted July 15, 2013 | 3:11 PM

It was recently reported that Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise completed their first year after the divorce was finalized. Many divorced couples don't think that they will survive after the split. The completion of the first year marks an important milestone.

When you're going through the divorce...

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Don't Let Your Kids Divorce the Summer

(0) Comments | Posted July 3, 2013 | 5:17 PM

If you're going through a divorce, it has nothing to do with your kids enjoying their summer. As parents, you both have to rise above your differences when it comes to the children.

Now that school has ended for the summer break, your kids will be around the house...

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Talk Your Way Into Your Next Relationship

(1) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 11:55 AM

Married couples who don't communicate often find themselves in a divorce. Everybody needs a partner that they can talk with or they will begin to drift apart. If you don't communicate with your spouse, your spouse may look elsewhere. So if you got divorced, shouldn't you try to your best...

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Divorce Your Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted May 30, 2013 | 5:06 PM

While everyone hopes for a quick divorce settlement, it can drag on and take over your time, mind and emotions. It's up to you to "divorce your divorce." It's inevitable for it to go on, but you can't let it take over your life. If you have children, you can't...

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Divorced, But Living Together

(5) Comments | Posted May 7, 2013 | 12:24 PM

With the difficult economy, you hear about more and more couples who get divorced and find themselves still living under the same roof. Often, this is due to financial issues and the inability to sell their home (probably their largest single asset) in a bad real estate market.


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Dating During Divorce

(21) Comments | Posted April 16, 2013 | 12:04 PM

People have mixed feelings about dating while going through the divorce process. While dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up, should you wait until the divorce is officially over before seeking out someone new?

Returning to the single life is a major adjustment. However, it also offers...

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When You Know That You're Over Your Ex

(43) Comments | Posted March 16, 2013 | 1:12 PM

After divorce, we turn to the people who are near and dear to us for support (and perhaps drive them crazy). Then, we tell everyone that we are over our ex. However, even though we are showing a brave front, everyone knows that we are not really past the split...

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Divorce 101

(6) Comments | Posted February 25, 2013 | 11:17 AM

How you spend the first few months after divorce will play a vital role in getting things back on track in your life.

Most people don't know where to begin after a divorce. After going through any tough situation, I always find that making a plan of positive action...

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No More Ex Games

(16) Comments | Posted January 26, 2013 | 12:22 PM

While you and your ex-spouse would ideally like to harmoniously co-parent your children, raw emotions from a divorce can often be unpredictable and take over.

If anger exists between you and your ex, it may trickle down to the children. And game playing between you and your former spouse...

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Thirteen Divorce Resolutions for 2013

(1) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 1:45 PM

If you got divorced in 2012, it's time to kick off the New Year with a new you. A new year and a divorce both represent a fresh beginning and a shot at doing things differently from this moment onward.

Divorce can send anyone on an...

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