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Lois Tarter
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Lois Tarter is a divorce party planner and divorce blogger. She believes that a divorce is a rebirth and is just as important to celebrate, if not more so, than a marriage. This sparked the idea for her first book, The Divorce Ritual: Get Up, Get Out and Get On With Your Life. Follow Lois on Twitter: @LoisTarter

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Talk Your Way Into Your Next Relationship

(1) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 11:55 AM

Married couples who don't communicate often find themselves in a divorce. Everybody needs a partner that they can talk with or they will begin to drift apart. If you don't communicate with your spouse, your spouse may look elsewhere. So if you got divorced, shouldn't you try to your best...

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Divorce Your Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted May 30, 2013 | 5:06 PM

While everyone hopes for a quick divorce settlement, it can drag on and take over your time, mind and emotions. It's up to you to "divorce your divorce." It's inevitable for it to go on, but you can't let it take over your life. If you have children, you can't...

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Divorced, But Living Together

(5) Comments | Posted May 7, 2013 | 12:24 PM

With the difficult economy, you hear about more and more couples who get divorced and find themselves still living under the same roof. Often, this is due to financial issues and the inability to sell their home (probably their largest single asset) in a bad real estate market.

With...

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Dating During Divorce

(21) Comments | Posted April 16, 2013 | 12:04 PM

People have mixed feelings about dating while going through the divorce process. While dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up, should you wait until the divorce is officially over before seeking out someone new?

Returning to the single life is a major adjustment. However, it also offers...

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When You Know That You're Over Your Ex

(43) Comments | Posted March 16, 2013 | 1:12 PM

After divorce, we turn to the people who are near and dear to us for support (and perhaps drive them crazy). Then, we tell everyone that we are over our ex. However, even though we are showing a brave front, everyone knows that we are not really past the split...

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Divorce 101

(6) Comments | Posted February 25, 2013 | 11:17 AM

How you spend the first few months after divorce will play a vital role in getting things back on track in your life.

Most people don't know where to begin after a divorce. After going through any tough situation, I always find that making a plan of positive action...

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No More Ex Games

(16) Comments | Posted January 26, 2013 | 12:22 PM

While you and your ex-spouse would ideally like to harmoniously co-parent your children, raw emotions from a divorce can often be unpredictable and take over.

If anger exists between you and your ex, it may trickle down to the children. And game playing between you and your former spouse...

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Thirteen Divorce Resolutions for 2013

(1) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 1:45 PM

If you got divorced in 2012, it's time to kick off the New Year with a new you. A new year and a divorce both represent a fresh beginning and a shot at doing things differently from this moment onward.

Divorce can send anyone on an...

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The Twelve Days Of Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted December 21, 2012 | 11:30 AM

Christmas is one of the most magical times of year, but if you're newly divorced, it can be a difficult holiday as well. Nobody likes to be alone during the holidays, but it doesn't have to be a downer. There are many things that you can do to make it...

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Seven Steps To Purge An Ex

(32) Comments | Posted December 13, 2012 | 11:55 AM

When you break-up with someone, it's never easy to get over them. Bring marriage and kids into the picture and it's an even more tangled emotional web. You could dislike everything about your ex, and yet, right after you part ways they're on your mind 24/7. This is usually the...

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Thankfully No Ex At Your Thanksgiving Dinner

(3) Comments | Posted November 21, 2012 | 11:10 AM

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, it's time to start thinking about what you're thankful for this year. If you're newly divorced, you're probably thankful to be free and moving on. However, the holidays can still be a difficult time for anybody who has been recently divorced. In fact, Thanksgiving...

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Remarrying Your Ex-Spouse

(83) Comments | Posted November 14, 2012 | 11:20 AM

Sean Penn's recent appearance at ex-wife Madonna's concert caused many to wonder if they would ever get back together.

Should ex-spouses ever remarry? If you ask a recently divorced person this question, he or she will probably look at you like you have three heads. Ask them...

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Divorced After Decades

(32) Comments | Posted October 12, 2012 | 2:40 PM

Many people were stunned when Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman announced their separation after 30 years of marriage. It seems that the more years a couple has been married, the more shocked the public is when it's over. That certainly was also the case when Al...

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Memories Light The Corners Of Your Child's Mind

(0) Comments | Posted September 18, 2012 | 2:33 AM

As adults, we tend to look back on our childhood with fond memories. The first moment you rode your bike on your own. The time the whole family took a road trip across country. The holidays spent at Grandma's house. You should strive to create equally great memories for your...

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A Starter Marriage

(69) Comments | Posted August 22, 2012 | 12:26 PM

A "starter marriage" is often defined as one that ends in divorce before age 30 with no children and little joint property. While the term starter marriage has become a mainstay in popular culture, I feel there really is no precise definition for it. It means different things...

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Start A Divorce Support Group

(11) Comments | Posted August 1, 2012 | 12:25 PM

"Help, I need somebody. Help, not just anybody," sang The Beatles. Anyone going through a divorce needs a lot of support. No matter your resources or your situation, divorce isn't an easy transition for anyone. You are faced with a whole new way of living and when someone extends a...

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Make Divorce Settlement Not War

(8) Comments | Posted July 18, 2012 | 12:20 PM

In the world of celebrity divorces, Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise reached a divorce settlement in a blink of an eye. While settling a divorce that quickly in Hollywood -- or anywhere for that matter -- would normally be a "mission impossible," Holmes and Cruise did it in...

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Ritualize Your Divorce

(57) Comments | Posted June 28, 2012 | 2:30 AM

My divorce marked one of the most difficult and confusing times in my life. After the papers were signed and the break-up was officially final, I had no idea what to do next. I wanted to move forward but didn't know how; I just wanted to laugh, have fun and...

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Divorced, But Dating Your Ex

(154) Comments | Posted May 22, 2012 | 3:00 AM

A friend of mine had gotten divorced about a year ago. We spoke often during the divorce process and I tried to give her a lot of support. We hadn't been in contact for about six months after her divorce and recently met for coffee. It was great to see...

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Divorced, But Loving Valentine's Day

(6) Comments | Posted February 14, 2012 | 11:10 AM

When February 14 hits, you shouldn't feel like cupid has thrown you under the bus. The heart of the matter is that there are actually many pluses to being divorced and single on this holiday and you should embrace them all.

Forget trying to make a dinner reservation at...

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