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Remarrying Your Ex-Spouse

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Sean Penn's recent appearance at ex-wife Madonna's concert caused many to wonder if they would ever get back together.

Should ex-spouses ever remarry? If you ask a recently divorced person this question, he or she will probably look at you like you have three heads. Ask them five years after a divorce and they still might look at you like you have three heads. However, it's been done before. Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton remarried. Natalie Wood and Robert Wagner also remarried. Sometimes a couple forgets what drove them apart and concentrates on what brought them together in the first place.

Here are six reasons why a divorced couple may become husband and wife all over again:

Time Heals All Wounds: Time can certainly heal a lot of things and, in many cases, it may heal both former spouses' hearts. You may forget all of the things that you disliked about your ex and all you can remember is the good times.

The Grass Wasn't Greener: As time passes, former spouses may realize that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. They then begin to stop dwelling on the negative things about their ex and start reflecting on the positive things. This can draw them closer to each other once again.

Family Connection: Family and children can certainly bring two spouses back together again. They begin to see each other at school functions and at sporting events and start up a dialogue again. Celebrating children's accomplishments together may help bring them closer.

Personal Growth: Sometimes two people feel that they need to grow a bit on their own in order to be fully committed to a marriage. As the saying goes, "If I am not happy with myself, how can I be happy with anyone else?" After spending some time apart and growing a bit more, they may be ready to be in a partnership again.

Forgiveness: Forgiveness comes with time. If the two ex-spouses worked on themselves while apart and they are in a better place, they may be able to forgive their spouse for all that went wrong. Certainly, forgiving and getting back together are very different. However, if you feel that you could give it a go again together as a couple, forgiveness can play a major part in the two of you getting remarried again.

Love Is Strong: While you may dislike your former spouse, deep down you may also still love them. Down the road, the dislike can dissipate and the love you have for them still can come back to the forefront. If you feel that things could work out again with your ex-spouse, don't ignore your feelings. Love can be a powerful thing in bringing two people back together again.

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