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Should You Have Divorced Earlier?

08/21/2013 02:26 pm ET | Updated Oct 21, 2013

Michael Douglas told the press recently that he should have ended his first marriage sooner than he did. Douglas said, "I know I'm going to get into trouble here. I have nothing against her and in fact I'm very fond of my first wife. But we should have ended that marriage eight or 10 years earlier." He was married to Diandra for 23 years.

If you recently got divorced, you may be wondering, Should I have ended my marriage earlier? Couples sometimes stay married even though they are not happy. If they have children, the spouses often remain together for the sake of their kids. However, sometimes it's just better to end it and have closure. You can still be great parents to your children even though you are not married. And you can build a new life for yourself. Usually, there is no benefit to delaying a divorce. Here are some ways that you and your spouse can tell if it might be time to end your marriage and agree to move on.

You Went to Therapy: If you have tried therapy and went together for a while and it didn't help resolve your problems, it is a sign that this marriage probably should not continue.

You Hope Your Spouse is Not Home: If you head home after work, drive down your street and hope that your spouse's car is not in the driveway, then you should think about wrapping up the marriage.

You Don't Communicate: When you don't talk anymore and just yell at each other, things will not get better. If there is no communication it is hopeless between you two.

You Make Excuses: When you stay at the office late when you don't need to instead of going home, it's an excuse to avoid your marriage.

You Haven't Been on a Vacation Together in Years: If you haven't been on a vacation with your spouse in years and don't want to go on one together, things won't improve.

You Have Nothing in Common: When you got married, you both had things in common. Two people in a marriage can change their interests as the years pass. But if you don't have anything in common, it's hard to have fun together anymore.

You Forget Important Dates: If you forget your anniversary that is a definite indication that you are very far away from the romance of your relationship.

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