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Thirteen Divorce Resolutions for 2013

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If you got divorced in 2012, it's time to kick off the New Year with a new you. A new year and a divorce both represent a fresh beginning and a shot at doing things differently from this moment onward.

Divorce can send anyone on an emotional ride. You may feel like you're heading off into the unknown, and nobody likes to feel lost with no direction. It's time to get back on track! The good news is that if you made it through the divorce and the last few holidays, the worst is behind you. 2013 should be about keeping busy and trying out new things. Let's head into the New Year with these thirteen divorce resolutions.

1) Dream Board: Start off 2013 with a "dream board." Put a corkboard up on your wall and cut out pictures from magazines of things you want and tack them on the board. Do you want a beach vacation sometime this year? Cut out a picture of a palm tree. Have you wanted a new car for a while? Put up a photo of what you want to be driving come spring.

2) It's all Roses: The Rose Parade kicks off every New Year in Pasadena, California. Kick off your New Year by buying yourself some roses. They are sure to make you smile.

3) Post-Divorce Body: You been talking about working out and now is the time to do it. No more wasting a moment, so go to the gym or take a yoga class and get your body where you want it to be.

4) Travel More: So much to see, so little time. 2013 should be about traveling more. If you have children, take day trips together. A change of scenery is one of the best tonics during the post-divorce process.

5) Accept all Invitations: This year is about putting yourself out there more, so accept all invitations that come your way! It doesn't matter if it's a big event or a small get together -- you never know who you might meet and connect with.

6) Online Social Butterfly: Be more social on the Internet, as well. It can be a great place to meet people. Make it a point to send 13 new friend requests on Facebook to kick off 2013!

7) Don't Sweat the Small Stuff: The New Year should be about concentrating on things that are positive to make you soar in your new life. The small issues can hold you down, so forget them.

8) Quality Family Time: Make it a point this year to stay in touch with your family more. I'm sure they were there for you during the divorce, so show your appreciation by calling or texting them an "I love you" often.

9) Don't Harbor Divorce Anger: Make sure to leave the anger from 2012 behind you. It will only bring you into a negative state of mind.

10) De-clutter Your Life: Even though it's winter, do a spring cleaning of your home. Cleaning up your space of unwanted things will help you feel freer in 2013.

11) Let the Baggage Go: Even if your ex did things to you that left you feeling upset, it doesn't mean that you should head into your next relationship with baggage. Be open to new love and new people.

12) Think Outside the Box: Try things that are new and different. Whether it's a new career endeavor or a hobby you always wanted to take up, think outside the box and keep trying different things.

13) Trust Yourself: We often don't listen to our own advice. Be more trusting of yourself as you move along in your new life and the New Year.

For tips on how to heal after a divorce, read Lois Tarter's new book "The Divorce Ritual" by clicking here.