My Response to Negative Comments

07/26/2010 03:49 pm ET | Updated May 25, 2011

Many of my colleagues and friends have often suggested that I read the responses to my blogs. I have always said that I choose not to because I don't want to be swayed by the opinions of others. Recently, I was on a plane to L.A. that was equipped with WiFi. I had just bought an iPad and thought it would be the perfect time to become familiar with my new toy. Stumbling through the apps, I made the fatal error of reading some of the responses to my blogs. The positive ones were great to read and very rewarding. The negative responses were brutal.

I never expected such an outburst of venom and I instantly regretted having read them. Who knew that some people would have such adverse reactions to general beauty tips? Please don't get me wrong. I do think beauty is important but we are not talking about the solution to peace in the Middle East or the oil crisis in the Gulf of Mexico. I am only giving suggestions to help you look good based on the 25-plus years I have spent working behind the chair. These are my opinions. I firmly believe in them. I think following them will keep you looking your best, but they are not rules written in stone. I am not crying "poor me" because of the negative comments. I am only surprised by such strong, emotional reactions.

Beauty is subjective; it is in the eye of the beholder. In this situation, you are the beholder. I am a firm believer that you should always do what makes you feel your best. To do the "right" thing and feel less than attractive is a huge error. Look the way you feel your most attractive. I do think that most of us agree that when we feel good about our appearance, we feel good about ourselves. This is the goal of all of our primping. Feeling good about our looks is an easy way to maintain and boost self-esteem. It is our own personal expression of how we want the world to view us.

There is nothing more important to leading a happy and successful life than a strong sense of self esteem. It can change one's core thinking from feeling like a loser to feeling like a winner. I believe looking and feeling one's personal best is a sure-fire way to help think like -- and be -- a winner.

I know that plenty of you are wondering if the comments made about my blog will influence what I write in the future. The answer is no. Of course I welcome all comments and will be interested in reading them. However, when it comes to beauty advice, I will continue to call it as I see it. I will proceed to report on the newest tips and trends in the beauty world. It's my job and I love helping people look their best. But I am only offering my opinions. As I have said many times before, ultimately the way you look is entirely up to you.