On Friday's episode of Real Time, Bill Maher introduced one of his "new rules," "Lactate Intolerant," in which he argues against breastfeeding in public. As he explained, he doesn't want women showing their tits in public unless they are appropriately packaged for heterosexual male consumption. (Revealing what he thinks is appropriate, he made a snide reference to Britney Spears' body in one of the other new rules, drawing a good laugh. My goal here is not to defend her, but only to point out that Bill Maher's idea of an acceptable female body, along with many members of his audience, is incredibly narrow.)
For someone who claims to believe in science, Bill's queasiness around breastfeeding seems more than a little bit irrational. A huge body of evidence suggests that breastfeeding provides incredible health benefits to both infants and mothers. (For the FDA statement on this, click here.) It not only provides babies with antibodies that help them avoid illness, it also may protect mothers against breast and ovarian cancers later in life. There is evidence that breastfeeding provides psychological benefits to infants and that breastfed infants develop higher IQs. There's even evidence that breast-fed babies are less prone to obesity later in life -- and obesity is something that Bill Maher is clearly against. Breastfeeding saves on healthcare costs, and it is clear that advocating in favor of breastfeeding is in the interest of public health. And yet the vast majority of mothers do not breastfeed for the full 12 months recommended by Health and Human Services. In fact, less than 30 percent of mothers are breastfeeding when their babies reach six months of age.
Given that it's so good for their babies and themselves, why don't more mothers breastfeed? One reason is that there is inadequate maternity leave for most women, making it hard for women who want or need to work outside the home to establish breastfeeding. Another reason is that many employed women don't have enough privacy at work to pump milk. But we shouldn't underestimate the impact of people like Bill Maher who are squeamish about the fact that humans are mammals. Coworkers who don't want women leaving icky breast milk in the office refrigerator because it grosses them out. Those who can't handle the idea that babies should also get to eat when the family is at Applebees, even if they are having something healthier than what's on the menu. So Bill Maher says that breastfeeding mother's are too lazy to plan ahead, presumably because they can arrange it so that their babies don't need to eat while they're out. Obviously he has never had to manage life within small windows of opportunity between feedings or he would know that timing a baby's hunger is just not possible. Perhaps he would prefer that breastfeeding mothers never leave the house -- another recipe for reducing breastfeeding rates. Sometimes people, especially those without children, seem to forget that mothers are people too -- we need to have friends, social lives, and activities beyond the confinement of our living rooms.
Bill Maher obviously doesn't understand the benefits of breastfeeding to public health, since he claims that breastfeeding is not worthy of activism. He says that it's "petty and parochial." Apparently he also doesn't understand that supporting breastfeeding is not only good for public health, it's also part of reproductive justice -- along with the availability of contraception, the legality of abortion, the right to informed consent or refusal of medical procedures when giving birth -- all rights that many women currently do not have. When he claims that women's reproductive activities are yucky and should go underground, he is colluding with the people who want to control reproduction and sexuality -- not normally the folks he counts among his friends (with the possible exception of Ann Coulter). He may be in favor of the kind of sex he wants to have with the kind of bodies he wants to have it with, but his attitudes toward women are stuck in the Dark Ages.
Of course, so are his attitudes about babies, which he says are not special because creating a baby is "something a dog could do." First, Bill, dogs don't make human babies. But all babies, including puppies, are adorable -- they have to be so that we want to protect them. It's a survival thing. Beyond that, we can all respect that Bill Maher doesn't want to have children and perhaps we're all better off for that. But Bill needs to respect the fact that other people's children are the ones who will be paying into Social Security when he reaches retirement age. If anyone is going to make the scientific discoveries that help to resolve the problems that Bill cares about, like global warming, it will be other people's children. Parents, and especially mothers, are providing a public good by taking care of their children's health and development. So instead of criticizing them for making you queasy, maybe you should cheer them on.
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Heck, I'd pay EXTRA to watch Susan Sarandon breatsfeeding her child in a restaurant.
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OK...time for a head-check.
Are we all good on the fact that dogs don't make human babies?
Bueller? Bueller? Bueller?
How about the idea that human babies and dog babies are cute? All on the same page here?
Bueller? Anyone?
For someone that I previously believed was relatively thoughtful and intelligent, Bill's a huge disappointment.
The fact that he's unable to deal with breasts having a 'competing' function (as sustenance for babies) rather than for the visual and tactile pleasure of persons of the male persuasion, speaks volumes of current society's loathsome and absurd objectification of women by men.
Time to grow up boys! And stop being so self absorbed. The world does not revolve around your needs and desires!
I'm not sure it's appropriate for a mother to leave hear baby in child care and then blame her employer for difficulty with nursing. My wife and I have never had enough money on one income, but my wife stays home because our kids are more important to us than money.
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that is your choice but you may not choose for others.You also have not addressed single mothers -got any ideas for them?
My wife stays home with the kids and has no problem breastfeeding. She doesn't go out that much, but does the feeding on demand.
I'm not sure it's appropriate for a mother to leave hear baby in child care and then blame her employer for difficulty with nursing. My wife and I have never had enough money on one income, but my wife stays home because our kids are more important to us than money.
Most people feel awkward when they see a woman breastfeeding her child at a restaurant or party, unless she's covered up. It's embarrassing to those who don't expect to see it, like seeing an elderly relative in their pajamas, or sitting behind a couple making out in a movie theater. A private moment made public.
It makes a lot of people feel like they're intruding, and eventually they'll get bugged about it.
Many women, my wife included, succeed in breastfeeding at home, and expressing during work, without freaking anybody out. It's not that hard to be discreet, or polite.
Now, I have to look at the mom's tittie? I do not f-cking think so.
Take the kid home. Pull your boob out in the privacy of your own home. At least put a towel over the damn thing.
Not everyone thinks the entity that you pushed out of your cavern is the be-all and end-all. Only you, your husband and your parents think so. To me, it's another screaming brat that should have stayed home.
Later, the wife called to say that her husband remarked at how sweetly my son was gazing at me as I held him. That's when she told him I was nursing; believe me, like most lactating moms, I was very well-endowed (at the time anyway), and this normal hetero male did not see my breast.
Some men, Mr. Maher, especially, really need to grow up.
As difficult as it may be for him to accept it, women's bodies are NOT about him or his desires.
What would Mr. Maher and the anti-nursing crowd have women do - stay at home until the baby was weaned?
In my case, I would have been confined for a year.
Whose behavior caused quite a big snit,
Which is baffling to me,
Any cup size to see,
When the alternative is: KID THROWS FIT!