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Lynn Toler

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How 'Divorce Court' Saved My Marriage

(8) Comments | Posted September 5, 2012 | 11:24 AM

As the judge on "Divorce Court," I am familiar with, if not inundated by, the thematic mistakes made in marriages. Yes, I know the show is a bit extreme, voyeuristic, and, well, often a little silly, but when my husband and I were staring into the marital abyss, I learned...

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New Year Divorce Spike

(0) Comments | Posted February 28, 2012 | 2:01 PM

The New Year, it appears, is a good time to shed your old spouse. Divorce filings spike in January and February. Divorce attorneys often report that it is their busiest time of year. It is a finding that has held up over time, and as such, makes us wonder why....

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My Thoughts on Common Ashton & Demi Divorce Questions

(10) Comments | Posted November 22, 2011 | 1:35 AM

Yes, I know what it seems like -- another day another celebrity divorce. This time it is Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Here are my thoughts on all of the questions I am being asked on the end of their union:

1. What went wrong? No matter how much they...

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The Inherent Unfairness of No Fault Divorce When You are Married to a Jerk

(49) Comments | Posted August 23, 2011 | 12:07 PM

You have heard the stories. You may have even lived it. A couple divorces and one side gets, not only injured, but insulted as well. No Fault Divorce is a child of the 70's. When people needed to prove fault to obtain a divorce it presented a number of problems....

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The Liz Taylor Lesson: Why Do Women Crave Marriage Even When It Doesn't Always Serve Us Well?

(18) Comments | Posted March 24, 2011 | 11:31 AM

Liz Taylor was an icon. Talented, strong and beautiful, she had it all, including eight husbands. I always found that fascinating. I understand the first few. She was young and in love with extraordinary men. Richard Burton? Please. Not to mention that in the '50s and '60s it was clearly...

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How to Avoid Becoming a Victim of the Gray Divorce

(283) Comments | Posted March 12, 2011 | 2:10 AM

In 2007 the AARP noted a new trend. Divorce among those in long-term marriages was on the rise. The media picked it up, called it an exploding phenomenon and gave it a name: Gray Divorces. Now, we even have poster children for it, Al and Tipper Gore.

Happily, more...

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Why So Many Men Never See Their Divorce Coming

(284) Comments | Posted February 2, 2011 | 9:53 AM

I first heard it from attorneys who typically represent men in a divorce. I then began to see it in the cases that came before me. I remember the attorney who first mentioned it to me some ten years ago, he leaned back in his chair at a conference on...

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How to Deal with Feelings of Lack of Control while Navigating Divorce Court

(10) Comments | Posted November 15, 2010 | 9:16 AM

I suppose it's an occupational hazard. It happens regularly. First, there's a moment of awkwardness. They recognize, but can't place me. Then it hits them: I am the judge on Divorce Court, and that's when it begins. People start telling me about their own divorce.

Of course, all of their...

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