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My Thoughts on Common Ashton & Demi Divorce Questions

Posted: 11/22/2011 2:35 am

Yes, I know what it seems like -- another day another celebrity divorce. This time it is Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Here are my thoughts on all of the questions I am being asked on the end of their union:

1. What went wrong? No matter how much they tweet, how many blogs they write or how much stuff is written about them we'll never really know why things went wrong and, after all, is it any of our business?

Kind of. They made it their business to share a lot of their personal business on a persistent basis. Fun and lucrative when things are going well but it is a glass house that they built. Having said that we don't need to look too hard or too long; we are all becoming a bit over exposed.

2. Is the age thing an issue?

I don't think the age gap is the problem but I do think being married at 25 is awfully young for any person in the public eye to get married. All of the opportunity and temptation that bombards you constantly is more than I think a 25 year old can truly appreciate nonetheless handle. Not an excuse just the realities celebrities who marry have to deal with.

3. How will Demi re-brand herself in Kutcher's absence?

Re-brand? Really? She is not soda pop.

I suppose my initial reaction to that question shows my age. I always thought of her as a movie star; a woman who is a bit of an icon. I don't know how much they did together business-wise, but I know that for now he is far more "right now" than she is.

My 16 year old only knows her as Kutcher's wife and not a luminary in her own right. My thing is this. She is a beautiful woman, a hell of an actress, has her own money and has kids with an ex with whom she gets along. It may not feel like it at the moment, but she has already beaten the game.

Now she is thrust into the spotlight again by Kutcher. She can use it as an opportunity to reprise what she has already done -- or not -- depending on how she feels. And no, she isn't 25 anymore but guess what? Neither am I. Nor are the rest us baby boomers who have shown up in late middle age in such numbers that I think we change the game.

4. Who is to blame?

Some say she should have known better than to marry a guy that is much younger than her. Others say he is just a jerk because he cheated.

Moore said that she had a whole lot of other people to consider when she made the decision to divorce. Kutcher said marriage is one of the hardest things in the world to do. I don't know about the rest of it but on those counts, they both got it right.

 
Yes, I know what it seems like -- another day another celebrity divorce. This time it is Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Here are my thoughts on all of the questions I am being asked on the end of the...
Yes, I know what it seems like -- another day another celebrity divorce. This time it is Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Here are my thoughts on all of the questions I am being asked on the end of the...
 
 
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11:15 AM on 11/27/2011
I remeber when Anne Herche was going with Ellen I told my wife I didn't think she was gay and thought it was just to boost her career. This is a similiar case were Asthon had a medicore career, he visibilty went way up with his marriage to Demi. Now that his career is on a upward swing, he can ditch her, in fact it might be better for his career to be single. Of course thios what Demi did when she marrried bruce willis. and so it goes
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11:36 AM on 11/23/2011
Kind of. They made it their business to share a lot of their personal business on a persistent basis. Fun and lucrative when things are going well but it is a glass house that they built. Having said that we don't need to look too hard or too long; we are all becoming a bit over exposed.

Amen, this a hard lesson, keep your business, YOUR BUSINESS.
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Redhunteur
If I damn yer POV will u turn the other cheek?
04:31 AM on 11/23/2011
The easy answer to all of those questions should be; Why on earth do you care? Pay attention to your own life and don't worry about it.
12:13 AM on 11/23/2011
I totally admire this couple. They defied convention in their "public life" of their age difference and got married. They were not afraid to make a commitment to each other and take a chance on their love for each other. I admire that!
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girlwild
Corporations aren't people until Texas executes 1
12:48 PM on 11/26/2011
We live so much longer these days, having only 1 partner for life is unrealistic. We change as we age and if our partners don't change in a compatible manner, the relationship may not last.
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jonathan6773
The countdown to Summer 2012 begins
05:31 PM on 11/22/2011
Where do these judges get their robes? I wanted one for Halloween. The professional kind, not the bad one.
11:01 AM on 11/22/2011
demi.........PLEASE DO NOT SEND ANYMORE BATHROOM PICTURES OF YOUR UNDERWEAR SELF!!!

ASHTON.....get over yourself, your not that hot anymore, cut your hair and shave. Try to act mature, now
03:06 AM on 11/22/2011
Marriage requires maturity which both of them didn't have I mean she really acted like a starry eyed teenager. I think Demi deserves a chunk of the blame, I mean look at her track record, this is her third divorce. Maybe she just isn't geared for marriage, maybe her 7th time could be a charm!
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girlwild
Corporations aren't people until Texas executes 1
12:50 PM on 11/26/2011
We love who we love. Apparently Demi isn't the one who broke their vows, whatever those were, so don't blame here. And age doesn't have anything to do with it.

And BTW, didn't you act like a starry eyed teenager when you fell in love?
03:10 PM on 11/26/2011
Ever heard of the term 'love is a decision not an emotion'.