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M. Gary Neuman
M. Gary Neuman is a New York Times best-selling author, rabbi, and creator of Neuman MethodPrograms. He was on the Oprah show 11 times as well as having made multiple appearances on Today, Dateline, The View, NPR and others. Oprah has referred to Gary as "One of the best psychotherapists in the world." To receive discounts on Gary's Creating Your Best Marriage Program 11 DVD set program, go and use coupon code HUFFINGTON.

Entries by M. Gary Neuman

The Good & Bad Lies In Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted February 17, 2015 | 11:21 PM

You better lie if you want to have a happy marriage. Strangers lie to each other an average of three times in the first 10 minutes of meeting each other. We are taught that lying is bad, end of story, and yet we all do it. Add lies by omission...

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Sacrifice Is Not a Dirty Word

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 11:48 AM

Sacrifice is the dirty word of marriage. Recently, a client who was frustrated with the sexuality in his marriage posed this question to me, "Gary, do you ever sacrifice?"

The question itself was revealing. No one likes the word or concept of sacrifice. It means that I'm not getting what...

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Where Does the Spark Go After Saying "I Do?"

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 4:13 PM

In an age where reality TV shows are becoming more prevalent, and are portraying extravagance and decadence, simpler weddings are making a comeback for some people -- including celebrities. Private and quiet affairs are chosen by those who don't want the pressure and expense of a big wedding.

Whatever your...

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Saving Mr. Banks: Is This Possible?

(0) Comments | Posted December 27, 2013 | 2:57 PM

Spoiler Alert: Going to see the movie Saving Mr. Banks, starring Tom Hanks as Walt Disney, is not like going to Disney World. Well, it is like going to Disney World if you go mid-August with your triplet toddlers, feed them all Mickey cotton candy and lose your car because...

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Why Do Women Prefer Sleep Over Sex?

(14) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 4:46 PM

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The Better Sleep Council reports that 79 percent of women would rather get a good night's sleep than have sex. Why is this? One reason may be that it's not so much that women...

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Stop Beating Yourself Up

(0) Comments | Posted June 4, 2013 | 6:53 AM

Cindy is 43, successful, attractive, dedicated mom, extremely caring... and she hates herself. She doesn't readily admit this. You'd have to spend but a minute inside her head to discover that the resounding messages revolve around negative rants; anywhere from "I failed" to "I should've done better." You wouldn't know...

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The Long Way Home For Adults Who Were Children Of Divorce

(36) Comments | Posted March 25, 2013 | 12:07 PM

There are millions of adults who experienced the trauma of their parents' divorce 20, 30 or 40 plus years ago. Some have found closure, but many more have not. Regrettably, it is a time in a child's life that is never forgotten; it sticks with them. For anyone who's experienced...

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Adults Who Were Children of Divorce: Meeting With Your Parents Today

(7) Comments | Posted March 20, 2013 | 12:11 PM

As adults who were children of divorce know, healing does not occur through time alone. In fact, my recent study of 379 adults -- the subject of my just released book, The Long Way Home -- found that only 46 percent of those surveyed said they had a...

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"We" vs. "Me" Couples

(69) Comments | Posted February 4, 2013 | 5:25 PM

My father-in-law spent over 35 years as a circuit court judge. He noticed that some clients paid teams of lawyers only to be poorly represented. He noted in these cases that, "the lawyers are so busy arguing with each other that nobody's arguing the case." There was an absence of...

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Keeping It New In Marriage

(42) Comments | Posted January 19, 2013 | 12:13 PM

From the moment they say "I Do," newlyweds have two years to enjoy the special bliss that new love brings. This new finding, reported by the New York Times last month, is based on a study undertaken by American and European researchers who tracked 1,761 people who got...

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New Year's Resolutions For Your Marriage

(14) Comments | Posted December 31, 2012 | 2:20 PM

What will be your New Year's resolution? I bet I know what it won't be: "Make my marriage great." Isn't it fascinating that although we know how important our marriages are to our lives, it's never the top resolution? Resolutions are about losing weight and getting into shape, breaking the...

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Help! I Have No Time For My Marriage

(2) Comments | Posted July 18, 2012 | 1:14 PM

Question: My husband and I have been married 14 years, have three children, each one in school, and are so overwhelmed. Between shuttling the kids around and homework, I feel like my marriage is nonexistent. My husband tells me it's normal at this stage in our life, but my mother...

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Why Do Celeb Marriages Fail?

(33) Comments | Posted July 11, 2012 | 12:20 PM

Not long ago, Tom Cruise was jumping on Oprah's couch like a lovesick teen. Now he faces a bitter divorce with Katie Holmes. Why is it that when a couple seems to have everything -- fame, fortune, health, and an adorable child -- it doesn't work? It's enough...

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Dating After Divorce: When To Tell The Kids

(1) Comments | Posted June 29, 2012 | 7:00 PM

I have been divorced for about three years. I have two teenagers, 13 (a son) and 15 (a daughter). They both live with me, although their father lives in the next town and my son often stays with him. I have just started to date someone. When should I tell...

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How Is Christie Brinkley's Divorce Affecting Her Kids?

(26) Comments | Posted March 31, 2012 | 9:00 AM

The recent public display of acrimony between Christie Brinkley and her ex husband Peter Cook reminds us of what goes wrong with divorce.

How does it affect their two teenage children?

1. When you criticize your child's parent, you criticize your child's DNA. Our children rightfully feel that...

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Parenting Post-Divorce: What's Coming Between Me And My Son?

(7) Comments | Posted March 6, 2012 | 2:57 PM

Question: My son is three years old and we have a great relationship. But his mother and I are divorced, and every time I go to pick him up he runs around and sort of avoids me. It seems more like a game than anything else. Once I chase him...

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Should You Reconcile With Your Ex?

(64) Comments | Posted February 28, 2012 | 5:51 PM

Question: I've been married for only a year to a wonderful woman and I'm in a ridiculous bind that I brought on myself. I've fallen in love with another woman. Problem is that the woman is my ex wife. My ex and I have now discussed getting back together. This...

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Saving Your Marriage After Financial Hardship

(9) Comments | Posted February 28, 2012 | 12:33 PM

During these difficult financial times, many couples, usually without ever noticing it, start dealing with life as individuals. They begin to recede from each other and allow a distance to develop. They stop talking. They find their feelings to be too intense and too difficult to face, so they don't...

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One Cheating Woman's Story: Part 1

(8) Comments | Posted February 15, 2011 | 3:50 PM

The following is the first of my Connect to Love webisodes -- a series of interviews with people who share their relationship struggles and triumphs. For more information, click here.

Cathy was unfaithful to her husband and is now divorced. She shares her deepest thoughts and feelings about...

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