Internet trolls and even television hosts have recently body-shamed two amazing female music artists; Kelly Clarkson and Pink. The body shamers may have been taken aback by the Twitter and interview responses they received from Pink and Clarkson; full of grace and wisdom there are a few things we should all take away from what they said. Clarkson has shared her message on The Ellen Degenerous Show, Heat Magazine, Redbook and Twitter but maybe you have not thought about how it could apply to you. In a time when social media has brought body shaming to an all time high we need some reminders. We need to stop being our own worst critics, remember our worth and find our happy, all while setting the example for our kids.
Bravo ladies, not only did you let YOUR voice be heard but you gave some real wisdom in the process:
1. We are so much more than a number on a scale or the tag in our jeans.
"There are just some people who are born skinny and with a great metabolism -- that is not me. I wish I had a better metabolism. But someone else probably wishes they could walk into a room and make friends with everyone like I can."- Kelly Clarkson
Whether you are a size zero or a size 14, do not allow yourself or anyone else to define you by that number. Success and the person you are, are not built on how much you weigh. We are many things in our life and to be of the mindset that we cannot be happy or successful unless we fit into a certain size or get down to a certain number is to do ourselves an injustice and to take away our own ability to LIVE our lives each day, not putting them on hold for a magic number that in all likelihood is not going to be what makes you happy.
2. You cannot care what everyone else thinks. You will never be able to make everyone happy, so make yourself happy whatever that means to you!
"I don't obsess about my weight, which is probably one of the reasons why other people have such a problem with it."- Kelly Clarkson
"So, my good and concerned peoples, please don't worry about me. I'm not worried about me. And I'm not worried about you either." - Pink
"I've just never cared what people think. It's more if I'm happy and I'm confident and feeling good, that's always been my thing. And more so now, since having a family -- I don't seek out any other acceptance." - Kelly Clarkson
Who got to make up the latest standard of beauty and got to decide that one could not be happy if they did not achieve said standard? Seriously, in Roman times, my hips and I would have been rock stars! I have weighed less and I have weighed more but because I was letting my weight dictate my mood I was never truly happy. We need to get beyond these definitions of worth that make us less because of what we weigh or how we look. We will never make everyone happy. Choose to make YOU happy, whatever that means to you!
3. Healthy and strong are beautiful.
"I am perfectly fine, perfectly happy, and my healthy, voluptuous and crazy strong body is having some much deserved time off." - Pink
First and foremost our bodies should be healthy. Beauty can come in the shape of a body that just gave birth to a healthy newborn, or to a woman who has muscle definition, to a woman who was born with a high metabolism and to a woman who has beautiful curves. The only reason we should really worry about our weight is so we can be healthy.
4. There are other things we can fill our hours with, beyond our weight
"I can see that some of you are concerned about me from your comments about my weight. You're referring to the pictures of me from last night's cancer benefit that I attended to support my dear friend Dr. Maggie DiNome. She was given the Duke Award for her tireless efforts and stellar contributions to the eradication of cancer. But unfortunately, my weight seems much more important to some of you." - Pink
If everyone spent all day worrying about their weight as much as some seem to worry even about other peoples weight, where would we be? Aren't there bigger issues to tackle? Curing cancer, ending child abuse, eradicating poverty? Enough already! The fat shaming and thin shaming has got to end -- we don't have time for this, we have important things to do, don't we ladies?