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Majida Abu Rahmah

Majida Abu Rahmah

Posted: November 24, 2010 11:05 AM

Al Eid is a holy time of the year for Muslims. Families gather and visit each other over the four-day holiday, which are for most a time for families to be together. When one member of the family is missing, it makes it hard to enjoy Al Eid in the same way. Thousands of families of Palestinian political prisoners are suffering because a family member is in prison. For me as the wife of Abdallah Abu Rahmah, who has now been held for one year in Israeli jail under the accusation of "incitement," every day without a husband is difficult. It's painful to see my children missing their dad not only during Eid, but every day. Our daughters Louma (8) and Layam (7) used to go with Abdallah on family holiday visits, and now cry when talking about their dad. His one-and-a-half-year-old son Layath does not even remember his dad as he was only 7 months old the night Abdallah was arrested. He says Baba when he sees Abdallah's picture, but of course he does not know him, since he was just a baby. Also, for Adeeb Abu Rahmah's children, Eid is not the same without their father. Both our families were hoping to have the children's father home for Eid, but the military prosecution managed to postpone the release in both cases.

Arrested in front of the children

I recall the night when our family was brutally woken up by the Israeli Army breaking into the house. I woke up by someone knocking the door 1:30am on the 10th of December (2009). Abdallah said it might be soldiers -- because who else would come to pay a visit at that time? Suddenly the door was broken down, and armed soldiers stormed the house. Abdallah was taken out in the stairway, with four soldiers blocking him from seeing me and the children. He was not allowed to go back to say goodbye or to change his clothes, only our two daughters could pass the soldiers to see him one last time. He had to change from night clothes in the stairway. Nine army jeeps, with dogs, were waiting outside the house. Our daughters asked: "Am I dreaming? Did soldiers take my dad?" They both thought it was a nightmare.

Missing their father

In the months leading up to Abdallah's arrest almost one year ago, the army was carrying out frequent raids to look for him. Our children were used to being woken up by masked soldiers entering the house at night, and were traumatized. After their father was arrested in the last night raid, 7 year old Layam told me that she was happy that the soldiers would not come back now. Imagine how sad it is for a mother to hear that! But now, when we speak about Abdallah, Layam cries. They both laugh and cry in the same time, because they miss him and love him, and remember him as a caring father and a friend. And I miss him too.

Our one-and-a-half-year-old son's name is Layath. The name means 'Lion'. He is small, but he is strong. He has to be strong. He does not know what happened to his father, but he will when he gets older. The families of the people involved in Bil'in's non-violent struggle against the Wall and settlements cannot sleep safely at night. Dozens of houses have been raided at night, and children are suffering from trauma after seeing fathers and brothers brutally taken away by masked soldiers. Sleep disorders and bedwetting are common consequences among children who have experienced Israeli soldiers storming their homes at night. Many, like our children, have also seen soldiers beat someone up during a raid.

Eid is not Eid

Five months before Abdallah was taken from his home, his cousin Adeeb Abu Rahmah was arrested in a demonstration in Bil'in. His wife has only been allowed to visit him once at Ofer Military Prison where both Adeeb and Abdallah are held. Adeeb's daughter Radja (20) has not been able to see him at all, on account of what Israel calls "security reasons". This Eid has not been the same as before neither for us nor Adeeb's family that consists of Adeeb's wife and 9 children, aged from 4 to 20. Radja says, "This Eid there is not happiness like there used to be in this family. In Eid our family used to be together, visiting and having guests. Our father is not here, and we all miss him. Eid is not Eid without him."

After Adeeb' arrest, the family hoped he would be released shortly. However, after weeks and then months of waiting, the Israeli Military Court sentenced him to 1 year, and his family hoped that they would see him soon since he had almost served his sentence. But the military prosecution appealed and now Adeeb is to be released the 12th December. Exactly 1.5 years will have passed since Radja saw her father the last time.

Struggling financially

The financial situation has been hard the last 1.5 years. There is no big brother to help support the family financially. The eldest son Mohammed is 16 years old and still in school. Two daughters are in university, and are now struggling to pay the fees. The family's income is from their small market, but their household is suffering from the absence of Adeeb's income as a taxi driver. Umm Mohammed is also alone in her responsibility to raise the children; though they are all helping out as best they can, most of the children are not old enough to have responsibility. She also misses Adeeb, and has attended each of his court hearings so that she can at least see her husband. But she has not been allowed to talk to him except for the one time she was allowed to visit. Radja explains how Batoul (4) reacted when she visited her father in prison: "She did not understand why he could not be home. At home she cried and was constantly nervous. She asked: Why did they take him? When she saw him in prison she was in shock, she would not speak. After a while, when she realized that he is not coming home, she started to talk. But what can we answer to her question? It's clear that they took him and still are keeping him because they are afraid of the success of the non-violent demonstrations. It scares them that through the demonstrations the world can see what Israel is doing to us, so they fabricate evidence against the leaders and put them in prison. All Batoul knows is that her father is taken away from her and she does not understand why."

Success in spite of suffering

As families who have our loved ones imprisoned and face no choice but to manage without our husband and father, we have to remain strong. We have been waiting in uncertainty for months before the trials, and suffering severe disappointment since the appeal, which deprived the children of their fathers for another half a year. In July Adeeb Abu Rahmah was sentenced to 1 year for "encouraging violence", and another 3 months added when the prosecution appealed his sentence. My husband Abdallah Abu Rahmah was, according to the first court decision, supposed to be released Thursday 18th of November, but his release is now postponed. We have been waiting so long, first for his release and when that did not happen, for the decision about what will happen to Abdallah now. We were supposed to know by now, but the decision is postponed and we still don't know anything about the future. Will he be in prison for another 6 months, as the procecution has asked for?

Despite the frustrations and constant ache, we maintain hope -- because we know why exactly they were arrested. My husband was visible. He went to every demonstration, and spoke up against the Wall and the settlement. In spite of our suffering, and his son now growing up without knowing his father, we know that his actions were successful. Israel was so threatened by the demonstrations that they had to remove strong characters like my husband and Adeeb.

 
Al Eid is a holy time of the year for Muslims. Families gather and visit each other over the four-day holiday, which are for most a time for families to be together. When one member of the family is m...
Al Eid is a holy time of the year for Muslims. Families gather and visit each other over the four-day holiday, which are for most a time for families to be together. When one member of the family is m...
 
 
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11:15 AM on 11/26/2010
Miss Abu Rahmah - I'm sorry to hear about your husband and your family's suffering. There needs to be more people like your husband organizing peaceful demonstrations against injustices carried out by Israel (or any other government). Violence is only going to beget more violence. God willing, he will be returned to you soon.
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Majida Abu Rahmah
02:32 PM on 11/25/2010
What threat is my husband to Israel? Abdallah is sentenced for "incitement" - after organizing non-violent demonstrations against Israel's illegal Wall and settlements. Every week he used to march up to the route of the Wall together with other villagers, Israelis and internationals to give a message to the soldiers on the other side. Every time he and others spoke to the soldiers, or waving a Palestinian flag they got heavily attacked with tear gas, rubber covered steel bullets and live ammunition.

One of the first (now removed) charges against my husband was "arms possesion", referring to Abdallah's collection of used tear gas canisters, shot towards us by the Israeli Army. He used to show these to internationals visiting our village. I think this illustrates what threat my husband and other activists are. Creativity and non-violence are obviosly not a physical threat to Israel, but actions such as showing the world Israel's repression of peaceful protesters - expressing disagreement with the land theft and oppression, is seen as so dangerous that Israel must remove the leaders.

I am proud of my husband and what he and the popular struggle movement have achieved. He wanted to show the world what we are going through here, and thousands of people around the world are now witnessing Israel's response to our peaceful resistance. Military violence, house raids, movement resitrictions and imprisonments are the consequenses for those speaking up against the occupation, in an attempt to silence them.
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03:37 PM on 11/25/2010
Majida Abu Rahmah, we know the names of Abdalla and Adeeb Abu Rama because of your column here and also because people of conscience (of all faiths and of none) care about the tragic predicament of the Palestinians. We know there many others like them, including legislators, held for no reason or fabricated reason.
We care about ordinary Palestinians (and ordinary Israelis) who should be able to live without fear and in peace. Since there has been a call from Palestinians for Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions against Israel until there is justice, we will answer that call. We will gather here in North America and we will speak and write about Gaza and the West Bank. We will continue to send whatever small aid and whatever ships we can. We know that we alone cannot change the way things are--it took 20 years in South Africa.
We know about Bil'in and we know about the murder of the gentle giant Bassem Ibrahim Abu Rahma, who spoke out and stood up for peace. The image of him flying kites with village children remains in our memories. Once a person knows these things, they are unforgettable.
I know it is small comfort, but we are watching and our numbers are growing. Over a thousand people came to hear George Galloway speak the other night in our city.
I admire your steadfastness and clarity.
06:37 PM on 11/25/2010
Which city were you in YankeeCanuck?  I was in Vancouver.
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persianadvocate
01:35 AM on 11/26/2010
Miss Abu Rahmah,

Thank you for sharing your story here. I am ashamed to be living on an Earth with some of the, dare I call them, human beings that responded to your blog here. However, I will not be the one who ultimately judges their actions, of this I am sure you are aware. I have let many important people know of your story and reminded others that they need to be vigilant for your husband. I would like to know a way to get in touch with you or your representative. Do you have an e-mail at HuffingtonPost? In this way, I can send your way some of my colleagues who can help your efforts.

Our thoughts are with you, your husband and your children. You deserve more ! So much more !
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We do not live in a 2 story universe
04:02 AM on 11/26/2010
Perhaps Ms. Abu Rahmah could contact you through your twitter account which I see is next to the fan link by your name. I hope something can be done to help her family.
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07:54 AM on 11/25/2010
Dear Majida . . . I really wish I could take your pain away and end the brutal occupation by the israeli's . . . I keep working for peace and justice for Palestine and will keep on doing so . . .

thank you for posting I salut your courage and that of your husband and all Palestinians
08:33 AM on 11/25/2010
Even the Palestinian,Ariel Sharon,who was born in British Mandatory Palestine??
08:44 AM on 11/25/2010
No one is denying he betrayed his own people....
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RubalKhali
Philosophy is the stray camel of the faithful
07:14 AM on 11/26/2010
Rather than spew hate Cohen, you should learn what Islam realy is.Take this for example,
Pictures of the Albanian Muslims in the exhibit tell a lifetime of stories. As a young mother, one woman did not have enough breast milk to feed her son. A Jewish woman she hid nursed him instead. She was asked if she minded that a Jewish mother had fed her baby.

"Jews are God's people like us," the woman said.

Another man who also hid Jewish families said, "I did nothing special. All Jews are our brothers."

And the head of the Bektashi sect, with more than seven million followers, tells the story of Albania's prime minister, who gave a secret order during the Nazi occupation.

"All Jewish children will sleep with your children, all will eat the same food, and all will live as one family," the order read.

In post-war Europe, it is said Albania was the only Nazi-occupied country to boast a greater number of Jews than before the Holocaust.


"They were among the people who at great personal risk sheltered Jews and protected them in their homes and did so out of a religious obligation," said Rabbi Justin Kerber, Temple Emanuel.

.

"At this time of tension over Islam in America, there is so much more to understanding Islam," Rabbi Kerber said.

http://www.ksdk.com/news/local/story.aspx?storyid=222601&catid=3
07:43 AM on 11/25/2010
Peaceful protests scare |$rael more than armed ones.....
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persianadvocate
12:44 AM on 11/25/2010
Need we invoke of Rachel Corrie, Furkan Doğan, and countless others to remind people what TERROR actually looks like? Miss Abu Rahmah, you and your family are in our thoughts and you are not alone. We will take action on your behalf.

I would like to see a concerted effort put on our State Department to press a demand for this innocent man's release. Indeed, I think the Palestinian Authority should be taking up your cause as Israel takes up Gilad Schalit's, and Gilad was a soldier on patrol when he was captured.

Your husband was a peaceful protester. Let Israel see how far it will continue to get flouting international laws and norms.

I ask the naysayers, is this Tikun O'lam? To take prisoner someone who protested without arms? To take prisoner a Carl Von Ossietzky Medal recipient for outstanding service in the realization of basic and human rights, awarded by the International League for Human Rights? A man who was standing shoulder to shoulder with Nobel Laureates weeks before his arrest?

What message do you send when you damage the lives of this woman, her children, the man that led a PEACEFUL protest rather a violent one?
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persianadvocate
01:32 AM on 11/25/2010
Fellow Americans, what thanks does this woman give?
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11:40 PM on 11/24/2010
very sad...
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αω vs military might
11:16 PM on 11/24/2010
You are not alone. There are organizations aware of your plight and the injustice you, your husband and family and Adeeb and his family and so many other families are being subjected to by Israelis. This is directed specifically at those who dared to express callous ignorance here.:

"EU foreign policy chief, Catherine Ashton, expressed her deep concern "that the possible imprisonment of Mr Abu Rahma is intended to prevent him and other Palestinians from exercising their legitimate right to protest[...]", after EU diplomats attended all hearings in Abu Rahmah's case. Ashton's statement was followed by one from the Spanish Parliament."

Renowned South African human right activist, Archbishop Desmond Tutu, called on Israel to overturn Abu Rahmah's conviction on behalf of the Elders, a group of international public figures noted as elder statesmen, peace activists, and human rights advocates, brought together by Nelson Mandela.

Amnesty International condemned Abu Rahmah's conviction as an assault on the right to freedom of expression. Human Rights Watch denounced the conviction, pronouncing the whole process "an unfair trial"."

http://mondoweiss.net/2010/10/bilin-leader-abdallah-abu-rahmah-sentenced-to-a-year-in-prison-for-organizing-protests-against-the-wall.html

I have no words at this moment to express how I feel about the savagery you have been subjected to. But rest assured that I and others in the West, will not rest until there is justice for you, your family and all Palestinians.

God bless.
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With Liberty and Justice for All
06:23 PM on 11/24/2010
Your story is heartbreaking, Majida. As an American, I am appalled at the imprisonment of those, like your husband, who use the non-violent practices of Ghandi and Martin Luther King, Jr. to confront Israel's abuse of the Palestinian people and its ongoing occupation of Palestinian territory.

These political imprisonments and human rights abuses by Israel are an affront to everything the United States stands for. This Thanksgiving, my heart will be with you and your family. Keep peace and hope in your heart. May your husband be released - and may your family's horrific ordeal end – as soon as possible.
07:38 PM on 11/24/2010
What "Palestinian Territory"? Israel won that land from Jordan,Egypt and Syria! There was no Palestinian entity involved!
Tony Andrews
Ὁ βίος βραχύς, ἡ δὲ τέχν
12:08 PM on 11/25/2010
Mahmoodcohen,

You say, below, that you have read American law.

What a shame that you have not learned anything.

Obviously, you learned nothing from your reading.
01:16 PM on 11/25/2010
Dee plane! Dee plane!

Welcome to Fantasy Island!
07:55 AM on 11/25/2010
fanned Manchurian
05:50 PM on 11/24/2010
I grieve with you.
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Sharmine Narwani
05:43 PM on 11/24/2010
There was no cause to arrest this man. Israelis fear peaceful protest and meaningful actions much, much more than they fear Palestinian rage. When Palestinians react to Israeli terror, they get called "terrorists" which serves Israel's political narrative.

But when Palestinians like Abdallah abound, the Jewish state worries. Even the right-wing Jerusalem Post has done a piece on Abdallah: http://www.jpost.com/Opinion/Columnists/Article.aspx?id=196367

It notes that this is what Jewish democracy looks like for Palestinians. Basically nonexistent. I am grateful that more and more young American Jews are standing up and refusing to accept these actions in their name.
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01:18 PM on 11/24/2010
Majida, my prayers and best wishes to your family.  May you find comfort in knowing that nothing Israel says or does can lessen the righteousness of your husband's actions, no matter how hard they attempt to force their "opinions" on the rest of the world.

I find it funny that the world insists that the Palestinians use non-violent resistance, and when Palestinians are arrested while protesting non-violently the world does nothing more than say "Tsk tsk, bad Israel."
01:18 PM on 11/24/2010
It is a sad story, and I hope she is relieved of her suffering. But if the Israeli forces had good cause to arrest him -- which neither side can know -- it is a tragedy of his making.
01:59 PM on 11/24/2010
Display of used tear gas canisters shot by the army earns Bil'in activist an arms charge in Israeli military court
http://www.scoop.co.nz/stories/WO0912/S00635.htm

On December 10, Abdallah Abu Rahmah, coordinator of Bil'in's Popular Committee Against the Wall, was arrested after nine military vehicles surrounded his home, broke down his door at 2AM, then blindfolded and seized him from bed in the presence of his wife and children as part of the effort to break the spirit of Bil'in's residents and their popular struggle against the Wall. Since June, Abu Rahmah is the thirty-first Bil'in activist arrested.
On December 22, an Ofer Prison Military Court indicted him on "incitement, stone-throwing, and possession of arms," pertaining to tear gas canisters fired at demonstrators that he collected to display in his home.
http://www.opednews.com/articles/Arresting-Peaceful-Protest-by-Stephen-Lendman-091230-192.html
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LaFemmeSASE
09:44 AM on 11/26/2010
Thank you for your post because while reading the woman's story, I thought she was deliberately leaving out information. In my understanding of justice I could not comprehend someone being prosecuted for incitement by just protesting in front of a wall. Your post of the newspaper articles provided me with the information I needed to understand her case and to say SHAME ON YOU (You refers to anyone who thinks the Israeli response was in any way acceptable)
02:45 PM on 11/24/2010
The point is that what they consider good cause-non violent oppposition- would not be enough in any democracy.

peace soon.
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persianadvocate
02:10 AM on 11/25/2010
Right, that they chose to arrest an unarmed protester sends the wrong message in a democracy...such that you're not a democracy at all.