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The Personal Branding Paradox: Being Nobody

Posted: 10/20/10 07:46 PM ET

Personal branding is a hot topic these days. Perhaps it all began with the article "The Brand Called You," by Tom Peters, published in Fast Company Magazine back in August 1997. And there have been numerous other articles on this topic, before and after this one. Peters wrote:

Regardless of age, regardless of position, regardless of the business we happen to be in, all of us need to understand the importance of branding. We are CEOs of our own companies: Me Inc. To be in business today, our most important job is to be head marketer for the brand called You.

I agree with Peters. We ignore our brand at our own peril, whether we are in business, a non-profit, or working as a teacher or therapist. Our brand is how we are perceived by others. How we are perceived determines whether others believe that what we do meets their needs or wants, whether we can help them develop or find solutions, or whether others trust and respect us. In business -- in a way we are all in business -- it is important to pay attention to your brand.

We all have a brand, whether wanted or not, consciously constructed or not. Even Buddha has a brand, as well as the Dalai Lama, President Obama, and even those claiming to not have a brand -- no brand is also a brand. When used with integrity, a brand can be a way to express who we are and what we stand for as a person, or whatever our particular product, service, or offering may be. A brand can express our values and what we stand for.

Like anything, a brand can be misused. The word itself conjures images of fraud, sham artists, and charlatans. In some sense, perhaps we are all frauds. There is always a gap between our values, intentions, actions, and how we are perceived. We cannot control how others perceive us. Our brand with one person or one set of people can be completely different with another. Many people in the west think of the Dalai Lama as a representation of wisdom and humility. The Chinese government has a different perception.

What is President Obama's brand? It depends on whom you ask, when you ask, and how you ask. Perhaps the issue isn't the brand but how people relate to the brand, or both? We humans are complicated.

You Don't Exist -- Now What?

It is likely that what we take for granted as a "self" does not exist. And since your brand is intertwined with other people's perception, there is no one perception that defines you. It may be difficult to fathom that you don't exist in the way you think you do, but this is good news! How freeing. Your effort to create a solid, clearly identifiable self and a solid unchanging brand may be a worthy effort, but is essentially impossible. Even if you do establish a clear brand, you will change, others will change -- your brand will change.

So what do you do?

  • Be as clear as possible as to what your values are and create a brand that is as closely aligned with your values as possible.
  • Communicate your brand, your authentic offering, the best you can. Listen for feedback. Ask for feedback. Be open to listening beyond your own limited views, ideas, and perceptions. Be open to change your brand in response to your own changes and the changes around you.
  • Notice and be honest about gaps in your brand and in how others see you and your brand.

At the same time, understand that we live on multiple tracks. On one track, we need to pay attention to our brand. At the same time it is important to develop your life outside of the realm of brands -- Practice the art of "being nobody." This is a terrific practice. What it means is to let go of trying to be anyone special, of trying to control, of trying to hold onto anything solid, especially yourself. Let yourself just be yourself, brand-less, a happy, compassionate nobody. A paradox: The more you can let yourself be nobody, the more resilient and skillful you may be in developing your brand.

 
 
 

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Personal branding is a hot topic these days. Perhaps it all began with the article "The Brand Called You," by Tom Peters, published in Fast Company Magazine back in August 1997. And there have been n...
Personal branding is a hot topic these days. Perhaps it all began with the article "The Brand Called You," by Tom Peters, published in Fast Company Magazine back in August 1997. And there have been n...
 
 
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PJsThreeDogLife
"A large lady given to speaking her mind."
12:33 PM on 10/22/2010
I have long lived by this maxim: "Your opinion of me is none of my business." In other words - you are perceiving and experiencing me through your own set of filters...values, biases, etc. So essentially what I'm saying is that your opinion of me is more about you than it is about me.
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Nicole Dixson
09:43 AM on 10/24/2010
That is a good way to live. It most certainly saves you from stress and hand-wringing that those who care what everyone (including strangers) think of them go through.
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Diogenis
07:50 AM on 10/22/2010
Is not "brand" and "label" interchangeable ?
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
08:56 PM on 10/21/2010
Evaluating human beings as "brands" adds an unnecessary and distorting step to the process of thinking about the world--unless one is a professional pollster or marketer. We need to understand people on the basis of various criteria, and we're able to make those assessments differently for different actions. But viewing others through the metaphorical shortcut of "branding" encourages generalization and hasty judgment, up or down binary thinking--which sounds a lot like what psychologists call "splitting."

Thinking about what others think about something might be important when one's goal is to move cola or hamburgers or cigarettes, but for individuals there is a danger of becoming enthralled to the idea of consensus. The sheep model is good for corporations or for individuals who prize business success above all else, but it also sounds like a recipe for losing one's way.
11:22 PM on 10/21/2010
Yes. And the application of traditional ways of being human (such as Zen practice) to contemporary corporate capitalism is, well, predictable. But business has found much use of Zen as it has found much use for Emerson whose self-reliance was based upon spiritual integrity, nonconformity and material simplicity. Please, somebody, a koan....
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Linda Williams
06:18 PM on 10/21/2010
The author is the CEO of the Limited Liability Corporation ZBA. It offers Zen meditative sessions.
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Linda Williams
06:10 PM on 10/21/2010
This is not only offensive it is inhuman. Superimposing artificial and limited paradigms on and into one's character and fiber is revolting. Before anyone thinks I "didn't get it", well soak this up Sponge Bob, we are at the cusp of a cultural maturity that recognizes the restrictions and limitations of Label/brand thinking. That's in and of our material world. Maybe I'll read this tomorrow and see that it is a joke. I blow my nose into facial tissue, not Kleenex. The logical extension of this is to consciously surround oneself with BRAND. Brand that enhances MY brand! Ha! I can't eat at a table that has print anywhere. No mustard bottles on the table. No cereal boxes on the table. It is food. Sustenance, not brand. My tangent is not simplist and off the mark. I would wonder what box the author has been thinking inside of?!? Organic is not a brand. This is inorganic thinking.
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littlepuffycloud
I propose a toast to my self control...
05:14 PM on 10/21/2010
Guess my brand is not-smart because I have no idea of the meaning of what I just read.
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BlackYowe
I am a classical- liberal woman and a Jeweler.
01:46 PM on 10/21/2010
The Personal Branding Paradox is that branding is corporate and distasteful and dehumanizing.
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Linda Williams
06:11 PM on 10/21/2010
Thank you, BlackYowe.
11:24 PM on 10/21/2010
The first time I heard someone talk about branding, all I could think of was what is done with hot iron. Why would one do that to one's self?
12:11 PM on 10/21/2010
"Practice the art of "being nobody." This is a terrific practice. What it means is to let go of trying to be anyone special, of trying to control, of trying to hold onto anything solid, especially yourself. Let yourself just be yourself, brand-less, a happy, compassionate nobody."

I think people have a hard time doing this. Just look at how many us are into Facebook, Twitter, etc. Everyone wants to feel special and control how they're perceived. Facebook is a tool that allows them to do that.
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07:04 PM on 10/23/2010
Great advice,,,,Denny Crane.
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Marcus01
It all just seems like it's real
11:31 AM on 10/21/2010
It all comes down to ego, doesn't it? Who we think we are, and how we think others perceive us, is purely a product of our ego, and "real" only because we think it is. How can we possibly know what others think of us? And from the perspective of never knowing, why should we care? Only the ego-mind would find it important enough to have us running around in circles over it. Trying to create something authentic where nothing is real. And the point of it is? The point is there is no point. Ah... but we're still driven to do it, because it's so hard to silence the voice of the ego that controls and compels us, and even seeks to control the perceptions of those around us. lol

In order to reach our authentic selves - the true self - we have to expand our consciousness to reach beyond the false constructs of ego. The Great Work, as it's been called, is the most difficult work we can do. With every thought and every action rooted in and driven by a false sense of self it can literally take lifetimes to accomplish.

Have we made progress when we realize that everything is in Unity? That in a larger sense there is only really one of us here - with no false sense of separation between us? That the All really is a Oneness?

Both these "I"s wish everyone, everywhere, the greatest success on that journey.
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Linda Williams
06:12 PM on 10/21/2010
I am stunned by this blog. I reread it and still think it must be a joke.
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Diogenis
07:52 AM on 10/22/2010
You can say that about all blogs. It's all about opinions, eh?
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Shaun Hensley
The American Experiment has failed
05:22 PM on 10/24/2010
It's really truly revolting piece and I can't quite put my finger on it.
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vampbella09
11:11 AM on 10/21/2010
How wonderful the way the universe works. This post has come at the perfect moment. That's all I'll say, except for.....Thank you.
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onlyThis
All I Am is You
11:03 AM on 10/21/2010
If you have no thoughts about yourself and nobody else has any thoughts about you then who are you? Who are you apart from thoughts about you? The whole ego/self is nothing more than a thought construct. Are you only an ego/self or are you also something else?
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Marcus01
It all just seems like it's real
11:52 AM on 10/21/2010
Could be you're nothing. Could be you're everything. Nothing and everything, all rolled into One.
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khanti
Cultivator
10:28 AM on 10/21/2010
Heart Sutra
'....... Form Does not Differ From the Void,
And the Void Does Not Differ From Form.
Form is Void and Void is Form;
The Same is True For Feelings,
Perceptions, Volitions and Consciousness."

"Sariputra, the Characteristics of the
Voidness of All Dharmas
Are Non-Arising, Non-Ceasing, Non-Defiled,
Non-Pure, Non-Increasing, Non-Decreasing."

"Therefore, in the Void There Are No Forms,
No Feelings, Perceptions, Volitions or Consciousness."

"No Eye, Ear, Nose, Tongue, Body or Mind;
No Form, Sound, Smell, Taste, Touch or Mind Object;
No Realm of the Eye,
Until We Come to No realm of Consciousness."


"No ignorance and Also No Ending of Ignorance,
Until We Come to No Old Age and Death and
No Ending of Old Age and Death."
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khanti
Cultivator
10:23 AM on 10/21/2010
Excellent post! When there is no ego knowing flows spontaneously. 'I know' everything stops.
10:17 AM on 10/21/2010
" A paradox: The more you can let yourself be nobody, the more resilient and skillful you may be in developing your brand. "

Andy Warhol seems to me to have been the quintessential case of that.
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
10:08 AM on 10/21/2010
yep, i discovered the joys of being nobody at around age 7 or 8. i was ironicall around halloween and i was asked who i wanted to be, and i said me, and i already had my costume. the lack of solid self is indeed freedom, and really a powerful position, you as emporor can allow "others" to judge how they will, all you can do is be the best emporor, if others see no clothes that is their deal, but again feedback is good, just remember the feedback is never, ever, ever about "you", it about their perception of "you", so is both your ersponsability and not, just deal with what is yours and let the ignorant deal with the rest.
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Diogenis
07:55 AM on 10/22/2010
On Halloween, I shall go as Adam, before he was expelled from the Garden.