I'm not afraid of aging. I've been looking forward to my retirement years since I was in my thirties juggling four children and working two, part-time jobs. While others bemoan the toll that aging takes on their bodies and their lifestyle, I'm pouring over travel sites and counting down the days until I can pull out of the driveway in a brand spanking new RV.
Rather than focusing on the negative aspects of aging, consider the benefits of the midlife years:
1. Selective Hearing: This is a totally acceptable symptom of aging. You remain blissfully ignorant of your spouse's complaints over a dry meatloaf and the rap music blasting from your teenager's room. The only thing you can hear clearly is the ice cream truck.
2. Weight Gain: You're okay with a new wardrobe of elastic waistband clothing, even if it comes from the maternity department.... and you know how to rock an animal print muumuu.
3. Free Time: You no longer have young children to shuttle from school to football to band practice. This allows you free time to explore using the Bedazzler on all your furniture now that you've discovered a passion for rhinestone studded sofa covers.
4. Selective Memory: You might struggle to remember certain things, but luckily you've forgotten the time you twerked at your cousin's wedding and blew out your knee.
5. Bone Health: Your bones might be a little more brittle, but that's okay.... as long as you're not planning on scaling Mount Everest on a Vespa. Just remember to take your calcium supplements.
6. Fatigue: Reverting to your kindergarten days by carrying a napping mat to work is completely acceptable at your age. No one will question your need for a midday siesta.
7. Decreased Vision: Everything is a little blurrier, which is a blessing since your reflection in the mirror resembles a Photoshopped selfie with nary a wrinkle in sight.
8. Flatulence: The fiber supplements you've been taking finally kick in. If a little gas escapes in a public place, nobody thinks you're rude....especially if you're pushing a walker with tennis balls attached to the bottom.
9. Car Upgrade: Goodbye, mommy minivan. Hello, Lexus coupe.
10. Better Sex: Sex is stress free. You no longer have to worry about birth control or unexpected pregnancies, especially if you're a menopausal female or a man who has had a vasectomy. There's nothing more fun than sharing seats on the neuter mobile.
The best part of being a midlifer is that retirement is just around the corner. Gas up the RV, slip into your animal print muumuu and enjoy the ride!
1. A growing sense of regret over unattained goals.
2. New feelings of self-consciousness around more successful colleagues.
3. A new emphasis on remaining youthful when the effort previously seemed unimportant.
4. A desire to spend more time alone or with certain peers who could be characterized as "youthful" or "comfortable in their own skin."
5. A new-found tendency to abuse alcohol.
6. Placing import on acquiring unusual or expensive items when such purchases could previously have been described as frivolous or impulsive.
7. A sharp increase in self-criticism with a correlating decline in self-compassion.
8. Obsessing over one's physical appearance when similar attention was previously unpaid.
9. Placing unusual amounts of pressure and stress on one's children to excel in a variety of fields.
10. Entering relationships with younger partners.
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