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Marcy Miller
Marcy Miller is a jewelry designer who practiced and taught management labor law for twenty years. She received degrees from the University of Pennsylvania and Georgetown University Law Center. She has served on more than fifteen local and national boards, and is currently dedicating her volunteer efforts to Cedars-Sinai Medical Center and the Museum of Contemporary Art, both in Los Angeles. She resides with her husband in Beverly Hills. Her memoir, Rebooting in Beverly Hills: A Wise and Wild Path for Navigating the Dating World (Bancroft Press) launches June 12.

Entries by Marcy Miller

Passcode Panic

(2) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 8:03 PM

When I downloaded the new operating system for my iPhone, I automatically triggered a locked phone that was password protected. My friend, who just purchased the latest model iPhone, now has a lock with fingerprint entry. When I inquired at the Apple Store as to how to get rid of...

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Etiquette for Dummies

(12) Comments | Posted August 5, 2013 | 2:08 PM

It is so difficult to date online. I have only tried it for a short time, after divorcing my cheating ex-husband, but I find it to be rife with unsolvable mysteries. Here are some of my conundrums:

1. How much should I reveal in my profile?
Part of me...

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Hair Today

(0) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 3:09 PM

After I was cheated upon by my husband of twelve years, my self-esteem was in jeopardy of hitting rock-bottom. I thought of myself as a good wife and perfect partner. I was in good shape and looked ten years younger than my true age, We rarely fought, had a group...

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The Joy Of Nesting

(26) Comments | Posted March 25, 2013 | 12:54 PM

After discovering that my husband was cheating and kicking him out of our home, I was left with a broken heart, anxiety and angst, and a house full of reminders of him. It was very painful to see his clothes in the closet, toiletries in the bathroom, tools in the...

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The Dreaded V.D.

(4) Comments | Posted February 8, 2013 | 5:25 PM

I wonder if there are any adults over 50 who still like Valentine's Day. For me, it has always been a day filled with pain, disappointment or pressure. As a child, I never got as many of those punch-out Valentine cards (remember them?) as the very popular girls. As a...

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Internet Warfare

(295) Comments | Posted November 30, 2012 | 1:25 AM

Being victimized by jealous women on the internet is not limited to generals and celebrities. I have also been the target of a cyber bully, and in my case, it was an ex-wife.

I had been dating a man who had recently begun the divorce process and had...

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Charity Begins At Home

(6) Comments | Posted November 26, 2012 | 1:30 PM

Fundraisers are an ideal venue to meet new people. A charity event attracts people with similar interests who are willing to write a big check for a lousy dinner and boring speeches. Since I wanted to meet eligible men after my traumatic divorce, I put a strategy in place: I...

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I Would Rather Have Chocolates

(464) Comments | Posted October 26, 2012 | 3:05 AM

One of the promises that I made to myself after my 12-year marriage ended in divorce was that I would not say no to new adventures, even if they were outside my comfort zone. When I was offered an invitation to an exclusive event at a mansion in Malibu, I...

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Sex 101

(413) Comments | Posted October 15, 2012 | 3:15 AM

Having re-entered the dating world after a twelve year marriage that ended abruptly and traumatically in divorce, I wanted a new and improved sex life as I moved forward. As with most long-term relationships, sex had become predictable and a bit formulaic. I wanted to be a sex goddess, but...

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Who Counts?

(2864) Comments | Posted September 27, 2012 | 2:00 AM

Including the time spent dating my ex husband and the length of our marriage, I was off the market for almost thirteen years. I never expected to be back in the dating scene, but after catching him cheating and going through a tumultuous divorce, I was thrown back into the...

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It's A Jungle Out There

(220) Comments | Posted September 11, 2012 | 9:46 PM

Are women our own worst enemies? Are men justified in believing that women are insecure and needy?

I reentered the dating world after my 12-year marriage ended amidst my husband's heartbreaking infidelity. I was fixed up by my hair stylist, and he assured me that his handsome client was a...

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Meeting The Kids

(47) Comments | Posted September 5, 2012 | 2:15 PM

After my traumatic divorce from a cheating husband and enduring random dates through internet sites and pick-ups, I finally was fixed up with a great guy. Fix-ups are definitely the best way to meet people. Your friends usually know who you would like, and they presumably would not fix you...

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Harry Connick Jr. Saved My Life

(1) Comments | Posted August 8, 2012 | 2:40 PM

You never know what ray of light will rescue you from the dark days of divorce. During and after the trauma of ending a marriage or long-term relationship, all you really fell like doing is burying yourself under the covers, eating chocolate and watching "Law & Order" re-runs. Maybe you...

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The Little Blue Pill

(1095) Comments | Posted July 26, 2012 | 2:00 AM

Viagra has dramatically altered the entire dating landscape. The sex lives of the young, middle-aged and the old will never be the same.

Take young men. No longer must a young man be worried about his performance or about having a few drinks before "hooking up." He can pop a...

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(194) Comments | Posted July 11, 2012 | 1:45 PM

After I had thrown out my cheating husband and filed for divorce, it was time to dip my toe into the dating pool. I decided to practice flirting and attempt to get picked up. I hoped that this would be an easy way to meet eligible men who were at...

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Make Me A Match

(618) Comments | Posted July 6, 2012 | 3:05 AM

After a self-esteem damaging divorce -- my husband cheated with a young woman and discarded me like day-old sushi -- I needed positive reinforcement that I was still desirable. Being over 40 in our youth-obsessed society also added to my anxiety. I needed professional dating help but I did not...

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The Dreaded "Single Disease"

(159) Comments | Posted June 12, 2012 | 3:05 AM

During and after a divorce, some of the women whom you thought were good friends will abruptly disappear from your life. Of course, if you are constantly negative and depressed, it is only natural that people will avoid you. No one wants to be with a bitter person.

But otherwise,...

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(139) Comments | Posted June 5, 2012 | 2:20 AM

Hope is a four letter word. It is the enemy of the newly broken-hearted.

I had two failed marriages and two broken engagements under my belt, but I was fortunate to sit next to the man of my dreams on a flight to the west coast. After...

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