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Entries by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Beyond Reactivity: Discover an Underlying Source of Anger

(0) Comments | Posted May 16, 2016 | 9:27 AM

Do you find yourself getting angry and irritated, no matter how often you try to stay calm and accepting? Discover an underlying source of anger that, when addressed, will move you beyond reactivity.

Gretta is very devoted to her spiritual path. It is extremely important to her to move...

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Your Sexual Truth

(0) Comments | Posted May 2, 2016 | 8:57 AM

Are you experiencing confusion about your sexual identity? This article might help you to discover where you are on the continuum between heterosexuality and homosexuality.

"I'm feeling confused," stated Aaron in our first session. "I've always known myself to be straight, but now, at 22, I'm feeling attracted to...

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Which Part of You Is in Charge of Your Life?

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2016 | 2:06 PM

Which part of you makes your day-to-day decisions, as well as your major decisions -- your ego wounded self or your loving adult self?

Which part of you makes the decision to move back into a relationship with someone who has consistently backed out whenever the subject...

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Want to Feel Safe in Your Relationships? Take Risks!

(2) Comments | Posted April 11, 2016 | 8:44 AM

The ways that our ego wounded self goes about trying to create safety in relationships generally have the opposite result. Discover what really creates an inner sense of safety.

One of the main purposes of our wounded self is to create a sense of safety. The wounded self goes...

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Being a Loving Advocate for Yourself

(0) Comments | Posted April 4, 2016 | 2:31 PM

What does loving self-care really mean?

Our ego wounded self and our loving adult self have totally different concepts of what self-care really means.

The wounded self might say, "I'm taking loving care of myself when:

  • "I reward myself with chocolate cake after a really hard day."
  • ...
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Your Source of Truth -- Your Mind or Your Inner GPS?

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2016 | 2:43 PM

Have you ever tried to reassure yourself about something that you are stressed over but the stress didn't go away? Have you ever practiced affirmations over and over, only to find yourself still feeling badly? Have you wondered why the affirmations and self-reassurance often don't work?

In a session I...

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How Do You Abandon Yourself?

(2) Comments | Posted March 14, 2016 | 8:27 AM

How often do you feel sad, alone and empty inside? How often do you feel anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry or hurt? These are the feelings we experience when we have abandoned ourselves in some way.

There are many ways of abandoning ourselves. We abandon ourselves when we:

  • Do...
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I'm So in Love, So Why Am I Depressed?

(0) Comments | Posted March 7, 2016 | 6:44 AM

Have you finally met the love of your life, only to find yourself depressed? There is a very good reason for this!

"I've waited so long for love to come into my life, yet now that it's here, I'm depressed. I can't figure this out," complained Elayne in one...

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Are You Often Seen as 'The Bad Guy'?

(0) Comments | Posted February 29, 2016 | 2:59 PM

Do you or others often see you as "the bad guy"? Are you tired of being seen as the wrong or inadequate one? Discover how core shame may be causing you much pain in your relationships, and how to heal this.

Tamara and Douglas had been married for 6...

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Kid Time and Couple Time

(0) Comments | Posted February 22, 2016 | 2:45 PM

Are you having trouble finding time to be with your children and to be with each other? Discover how important this balance is, and what may be the underlying issue in the way of couple time.
A reader emailed me the following question:
Many dads and moms, especially those...
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How Do You Know When You Are in Love?

(2) Comments | Posted February 15, 2016 | 4:35 PM

The answer to whether or not you are really in love depends upon which part of you feels in love and which part of the other person you are in love with.

"How can I know when I'm really in love?" asked Ruby, a client of mine. "How can...

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Trusting Your Inner Authority

(0) Comments | Posted February 8, 2016 | 11:03 AM

Trusting our inner knowing can be challenging when someone we are close to or someone we admire tells us what is best for us.

All of us are born connected with our spiritual Guidance. Young children, whose parents value them as individuals and foster their inner knowing, grow up...

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Sustaining Romance After Becoming Parents

(0) Comments | Posted February 1, 2016 | 9:33 PM

A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is finding the time to be together in ways that foster romance in their relationship. A question that a reader recently asked me is: "Is it the quality of time versus the quantity of time that is significant in 'we-time?'"

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Speaking Up For Your Feelings

(1) Comments | Posted January 25, 2016 | 11:19 AM

What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared, or lonely from the interaction?

Perhaps the other person is judging you, blaming you, or threatening you, or is being sarcastic or discounting of you. Or maybe the...

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Does Your Compassion Disappear When Someone's Angry?

(0) Comments | Posted January 18, 2016 | 7:01 AM

Learning to respond to another's anger or blame in ways that promote caring is vital to relationship health.

Renee saw herself as a very compassionate person. She could easily feel into her husband Jeff's feelings when he was sad or scared. But as soon as Jeff got angry or...

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Power Struggles: Being Right or Being Loving

(0) Comments | Posted January 11, 2016 | 2:05 PM

Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple's counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other.

I ask Mandy and Evan to...

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Setting Yourself Free

(0) Comments | Posted January 5, 2016 | 2:46 PM

I often hear my clients say to me, "I can't do what I want to do because he or she wouldn't like it." How often do you find yourself limiting your own freedom because you are afraid that someone will get mad at you, disapprove of you, or leave you?...
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Setting Yourself Free

(0) Comments | Posted January 4, 2016 | 12:28 PM

I often hear my clients say to me, "I can't do what I want to do because he or she wouldn't like it." How often do you find yourself limiting your own freedom because you are afraid that someone will get mad at you, disapprove of you, or leave you?...
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How to Connect With Your Spiritual Guidance

(0) Comments | Posted December 28, 2015 | 12:08 PM

Problems connecting with your spiritual guidance? Here's how!

Did you know that connecting with Spirit -- with your personal spiritual Guidance -- is a natural process? We are all born with the ability to connect, but, since this ability was rarely fostered as we were growing up, we forgot...

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What Does It Mean to Be a Spiritual Person?

(5) Comments | Posted December 21, 2015 | 12:45 PM

People often confuse spirituality with religion. People can be both religious and spiritual, but it is also possible to be religious without being spiritual, or to be spiritual without being religious.

You go to church every Sunday and you say your prayers every day. Does this mean you are...

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