Are stuck in not being able to organize your time and space? Do you often feel overwhelmed regarding time and clutter?
- Are often rushing to get things done?
- Are you often late to appointments?
- Do you rarely have time for yourself?
- Do you lack balance between work and play?
- Do you lack time for family and friends?
- Do you often feel overwhelmed and anxious regarding getting things done?
- Do you procrastinate?
- Do you generally pay bills and taxes late?
- Do you find that you frequently can't find what you are looking for?
- Do you create clutter by having papers, mail, magazines and other items stacked up in piles or scattered in disarray?
- Do you still have things packed in boxes or not put away from the last time you moved?
- Have you not created a peaceful and aesthetically pleasing environment in your work and home spaces?
Do you often feel anxious about any of the above?
"Well," you might be thinking, "all well and good to say I need to be more organized. I already know this, yet I can't seem to do anything about it. I'm stuck in this area. What do I do to change this?"
Changing this pattern ultimately relates to intent. Since we have free will, we each get to choose what is most important to us in any given moment. You will stay stuck in this issue when your adolescent self -- rather than your adult self -- is in charge and your intent is to:
- Resist being controlled.
When not being controlled is more important than loving yourself, you will stay stuck. The adolescent part of us is often in resistance to being controlled -- even by ourselves. "You can't tell me what to do," is the refrain of the adolescent, or maybe the 2-year-old! Whether you are resisting being controlled by yourself or another person, the result is the same. The adolescent part of us gets a grim pleasure out of resisting control.
- Get away with things in the hopes someone else will do it.
The adolescent part of us loves to believe that we can get away with things. This part of us gets a dark satisfaction out of doing as little as we can, especially if we can get someone else to do it for us.
The sad thing is that the grim pleasure and dark satisfaction of resisting control and getting away with things does not hold a candle to the real peace and joy of taking loving care of ourselves. The wounded self, the part of us that is always lying to us, cannot see that by resisting responsibility we are deeply limiting our full ability to manifest ourselves and the profound satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from fully expressing who we are.
All this changes when our intent changes. When we decide that loving ourselves is more important than resisting control and getting away with things, we move out of the adolescent state and into a loving adult state. It is our intent to be loving and compassionate with ourselves that changes everything.
"How do I change my intent?" is a question I frequently hear.
You can't change your intent until you become aware of and own your present intent. If you think you want to be loving to yourself by being organized, but you really want to resist control and you are unaware of this, you will stay stuck. So the first thing you need to do is become conscious of your intent. Pay attention. Notice. When you can notice yourself resisting control and actually own it by saying to yourself, "Right now, it's more important to me to resist being controlled and get away with stuff than it is to be loving to myself. I choose this," then you can also choose to be loving to yourself. But you don't even have that choice available until you are conscious of what you are choosing.
However, you can also resist awareness of your choice, which means that it's still more important to you to not be controlled than to be loving to yourself. Until you "remember" (this memory is within your soul) that you are here on this planet to evolve in love, compassion and empathy and to fully manifest your special gifts, you might not have the motivation to become conscious of your intent.
I hope you wake up and remember! Everything changes when you remember that your reason for being on the planet is to evolve in your ability to love -- starting with yourself -- and to fully manifest your special gifts and talents.
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