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5 Myths About Forgiveness in the Bible

Posted: 08/16/2011 9:17 am

The Bible has plenty to say about forgiveness. Where the Old Testament focuses mainly on God's forgiveness of individuals or groups, the teachings of Jesus in the Gospels also address how human beings can and should forgive each other.

Those teachings, however, are a precarious guide for 21st-century human relations. While Jesus mentions forgiveness several times, he never defines the term, leaving contemporary listeners to fill in the blanks. Is forgiveness something a person does, i.e., does it indicate an action, such as reconciliation or amnesty? Does forgiveness require action on the part of the offender? Is forgiveness something a person feels?

While modern conceptions of forgiveness focus mainly on its emotional dimensions, in Jesus' first-century context, forgiveness had more concrete implications. The Greek word translated as "forgive" in the New Testament, aphiēmi, carried a wide range of meanings, including to remit (a debt), to leave (something or someone) alone, to allow (an action), to leave, to send away, to desert or abandon, and even to divorce.

In fact, the Greek word appears 146 times in the New Testament, but it is translated in most English versions as "forgive" only 38 of those times. Considering the entire range of meanings of this word gives us some indication of what "forgiveness" might have meant to listeners in Jesus' first-century context. Most of all, forgiveness was an action rather than a feeling, and so our contemporary ideas about forgiveness as an emotional state must come from sources other than the biblical text.

Here I submit five prevailing "myths" about forgiveness that have come into Christian belief and practice. I call them myths not because they are not worthwhile guides for moral behavior, but because they do not actually have their roots in the New Testament. Separating what Jesus taught about forgiveness from what we have assumed and inferred puts a fine point on how Christians can define and practice forgiveness today.

1. Jesus teaches unconditional forgiveness.

Nowhere in the Gospels does Jesus teach that forgiveness should be offered unconditionally. In Matthew, Jesus says that church members should forgive each other "seventy times seven times" (18:22), a number that symbolizes boundlessness. However, even though he preaches boundless forgiveness, he does not indicate whether that forgiveness has conditions. "The author of the Gospel of Luke repeats the same story, but adds a condition to forgiveness, stating that church members must forgive boundlessly "if there is repentance" (17:3).

Further, in Matthew, Mark and Luke, Jesus warns his disciples that there is a sin that will not be forgiven: "Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit" (Matthew 12:31-32; Mark 3:29; Luke 12:10). Blasphemy (Greek: blasphemēo) means to speak against or slander. The meaning of "blasphemy against the Holy Spirit" is open to interpretation, but it is clear that there is a sin that God will not forgive under any circumstances. If Jesus teaches unconditional forgiveness, then God must be exempt from that teaching.

2. Jesus forgives the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11).

Perhaps one of the best-known stories about Jesus comes from the Gospel of John, when Jesus confronts a crowd about to stone a woman who was caught in the crime of adultery. Jesus interrupts the melee, saying, "Let anyone among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her" (John 8:7). When no one moves to attack the woman, Jesus says to her, "Neither do I condemn you. Go your way, and from now on do not sin again" (8:11).

This story is often cited as an example of Christian forgiveness. However, the Greek term most commonly translated as "forgive," aphiēmi, does not appear in this story. Jesus' refusal to condemn the woman is not the same as an offer of forgiveness. Further, Jewish wisdom teaches that only a victim may forgive an offender. Since the woman has not done anything to Jesus, he has nothing to forgive her for. His refusal to condemn her is more a lesson to the crowd about judgment than it is an expression of forgiveness.

3. Jesus forgives his attackers from the cross.

Luke's depiction of Jesus on the cross is often cited as the quintessential example of unconditional forgiveness. As he is being crucified, Jesus cries out, "Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). Readers often take this to mean that Jesus forgives those who are attacking him. However, a closer look at the syntax reveals that Jesus is not, in fact, forgiving his attackers; rather, he is praying that God might do so.

It is possible that the lack of repentance from his attackers prevents Jesus from forgiving the men directly, since he has taught his followers that repentance is a requirement for forgiveness. Also, earlier in the Gospel of Luke Jesus instructs his disciples to "pray for those who abuse you" (Luke 6:38). While his prayer from the cross is a perfect model of this teaching, it is not an explicit act of forgiveness.

4. "Turn the other cheek" refers to forgiveness.

Just after he gives the instruction to pray for one's enemies, Jesus tells his followers, "If anyone strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also" (Luke 6:29; the identical teaching appears in Matthew 5:39). Some interpret this instruction -- given by Jesus as antithetical to "an eye for an eye" -- to mean that the proper response to violence or aggression is to ignore it. However, in the time of Jesus the act of turning one's cheek when slapped was not a sign of acquiescence. Turning the cheek would force the aggressor to strike with the left hand, which was seen as unclean, or the open right hand, which would signal equality. Thus, turning the other cheek would have been seen as an act of rebellion.

Further, just as the "eye for an eye" teaching served as a check for vengeance, Jesus' instruction to turn the other cheek applies to a person who is slapped and does not apply to more severe acts of violence. Nowhere does Jesus suggest that turning the other cheek is an act of forgiveness.

5. Forgiveness sets you free.

Theologian Lewis Smedes writes, "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." Much of Christian self-help literature touts the emotional and physical benefits of forgiveness. And while contemporary understandings of forgiveness may very well have positive psychological outcomes for those suffering in the aftermath of mistreatment and abuse, the idea that forgiveness is good for the forgiver, that it "sets you free," does not come from the Bible.

The closest parallel comes after the parable in which Jesus describes an unforgiving servant being condemned to prison and torture. Then he warns, "So my heavenly Father will also do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother or sister from your heart" (Matthew 18:35). In this case, forgiving is in the best interest of the one forgiving in order to avoid an afterlife of torture and abuse. However, the concern here is not a psychological one, but rather a concern for salvation.

Again, it may well be true that "Forgiveness sets you free." However, the idea of forgiveness as a psychological or emotional condition traces to 18th-century moral philosophy, not first-century Christian writings. Forgiveness in the time of Jesus was an action verb, and Jesus' instructions served as checks for the health of the community, both on earth and in the world to come. There is nothing in the Bible that says that forgiveness is good for the physical or mental health of the forgiver. It is anachronistic to suggest otherwise.

 
 
 
The Bible has plenty to say about forgiveness. Where the Old Testament focuses mainly on God's forgiveness of individuals or groups, the teachings of Jesus in the Gospels also address how human beings...
The Bible has plenty to say about forgiveness. Where the Old Testament focuses mainly on God's forgiveness of individuals or groups, the teachings of Jesus in the Gospels also address how human beings...
 
 
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Redhunteur
If I damn yer POV will u turn the other cheek?
03:02 AM on 08/24/2011
“Jesus describes an unforgiving servant being condemned to prison and torture. Then he warns, "So my heavenly Father will also do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother or sister from your heart" (Matthew 18:35). In this case, forgiving is in the best interest of the one forgiving in order to avoid an afterlife of torture and abuse. However, the concern here is not a psychological one, but rather a concern for salvation.”

Gosh that’s sweet of him; so that’s essentially, “play nice or be tortured.”
Isn’t that the type of thing Gaddaffi had been using on his people for 42 years?
08:06 AM on 08/22/2011
So perhaps 666 has to do being Caersar like or worshiping the caesars of this world - i.e. false idols of fame,sex and money - those that hate God
08:00 AM on 08/22/2011
The forgiveness where there is repentance is concerning forgiveness of sin - repentance requires a change of heart. You like to suggest that God should forgive where there is no actual repentance. But that is very much part of Jesus's ministry.

AS for the stoning of the women that is a question of condemnation - becsue the penalty for all sin is death, and non of the pharasees were without sin and ultimately why Jesus died on the cross for those who chose to believe.

I dont understand why you attempt to apply the blasphemy of the HOly Spirit to our not forgiving or not forgiving people - some theologians would say that is connected to a failure to actually to believe in who Jesus is and therefore they do not receive the promised HOly Spirit.

As for your suggestion that Jesus is not actually forgiving those at the cross - the statement then becomes a nonsense - How can you say for they know not what they do unless Jesus has already forgiven them. Those same people were offered faith by the early Church - hardly a failure to forgive on the part of God who would send his HOly Spirit.

Jesus asks us to love our enemy and to ask God to bless them - that must involve a decision to forgive them out of love.
reallybarb
War on women, finally women fighting back
03:24 AM on 08/21/2011
Myth number 2 is a myth in more ways then the one mentioned it was from what scholars say added to the Bible around the the 10th century so does that make it a myth twice removed or just another pseudepigrapha?
01:29 AM on 08/21/2011
Why is it when anyone offers a new perspective or critique of Christianity, especially one that could possibly benefit society, people fear and hate change or difference so vehemently? Someone suggests that love and grace may be a bit more complicated than we'd like to admit, and the response sounds ironically similar to the very kind of hate most Christians often preach against - "Look at Mayo, a bad Christian, if Christian at all, because she obviously doesn't love as much as we do." It's not like Mayo is sitting in a chair, stroking her cat like Ernst Blofeld laughing to herself that she's going to destroy forgiveness and the Christian tradition. So stop painting her out like that.

The reality is, there's an unfortunate history of asking victims of abuse and violence to forgive their attackers (a history which, in many cases, has only lead to further violence), and regardless of
where you stand on what the Bible has to say about forgiveness, not every circumstance should necessitate forgiveness as the sole or immediate solution that provides healing. Can forgiveness be healing? Of course. But can it also be damaging? Absolutely. Mayo's article opens up the possibility that, even in the first century, forgiveness was as complicated as it is today, and perhaps an illustration that the Bible is not so unequivocal on the matter could be humbling to Christians who view it with such certainty and arrogance.
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Bobrobert
Go God... Jesus rocks... the Spirit is very cool..
10:00 AM on 08/20/2011
lol

Read in the Spirit...

All your answers will be clear...

I am just saying...

:-)
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Mr Anonymous
Mumpsimus, I am not entertained!
11:35 PM on 08/20/2011
What does that even mean?
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Adam of CA
Independent Information Hunter
05:18 PM on 08/19/2011
Ms. Mayo's viewpoint should have relied on Hebrew translations, instead of Greek.

Yet inspite of all the guidance about forgiveness, it's the virtue least practiced by Christians. So there is truth in the adage: To err is human, to forgive is divine.
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GeorgieMark
Cogito Ergo Sum
07:42 PM on 08/19/2011
No she's spot on since she's dealing with New Testament Theology.
The original texts were written in Greek.
11:08 AM on 08/19/2011
To sum up the bible, I would say it is a book about relationship-man with God and man with man. God’s desire is to have fellowship and relationship with you. Forgiveness is essential to maintaining relationships. Without forgiveness a relationship will remain broken. So forgiveness is the essence of the Word.

When Christ died the veil to the Holy of Holies was torn from the TOP to the bottom, “but Jesus let out a loud cry and breathed His last. Then the curtain of the sanctuary was split in two from the top to bottom.” Mark 15: 37-38. That was done so we could have direct access to God.
“You will seek me and you will find me when you search for Me with all of your heart.” Jeremiah 29:13

Christ is rejected and despised by many, yet His arms are open wide with forgiveness. He truly loves you and desires to have fellowship and relationship with you. Seek Him while he may be found.

I would venture to guess that Maria is not a believer. All though she has obviously studied the scriptures it is lacking the depth of wisdom which comes only through the power of the Holy Spirit. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, fools despise wisdom and discipline.” Proverbs 1:7
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kadene
wordsmith
10:42 AM on 08/19/2011
Does Jesus really speak for God? Although his preachments purport to be the word of God, they seem to be in conflict. He talks about forgiving and turning the other cheek while on the other hand, he warns of the eternal roast and torture for all those who do not feed God's extremely fragile ego with adoration and worship. It's just a case of "do as I say but not as I do". God doesn't have to forgive, but we must, seventy times seven!
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Bobrobert
Go God... Jesus rocks... the Spirit is very cool..
10:01 AM on 08/20/2011
Read in the spirit...

It will clear up the muddy water for you...

:-)
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wordsmith
09:15 AM on 08/21/2011
In other words, I must first believe in nonsense for nonsense to make sense!
12:53 PM on 08/24/2011
Kadene

God is a God of justice. It seems very reasonable that those who showed no mercy receive in return what they offered. Jesus is only executing the requirements of the law. For sinners who believed in Jesus and repented He was prepared out of love to take that penalty of the law on Himself.

How do you really praise God - by loving Him - by following His ways - which means loving people. It seems reasonable that God ultimately withdraws His love from those who only returned it with hatred - perhaps the individuals get "burnt-up" by their own hatred and Jealousy
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wordsmith
01:58 PM on 08/24/2011
This god of justice, is he the same one who directed the Israelites to wipe out towns tribes, killing everything in sight but also told to "keep the virgins for yourselves; is he the same just god who made Job suffer just to win a bet with his own adversary; is he the same one who, it is said, wiped out every living soul on the earth except Noah's family, commanded that young brides who presented little evidence of their virginity on their wedding night be stoned to death? I am appalled at your idea of justice. Your god cannot be just if he endorsed the subjugation of women and the possession of slaves. He doesn't deserve worship, but should voluntarily step forward and allow himself to be tried for millennia of crimes against humanity. And you want people to "follow his ways"? Those are ways of murder, lies, rape, torture and other heinous activities. You obviously have an abridged version of the bible!
06:29 AM on 08/19/2011
In fact , the bible talks hell of a lot more about punishment and adhering to god's will than it does about forgiveness.
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02:12 PM on 08/18/2011
Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.

Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
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wordsmith
10:48 AM on 08/19/2011
Not seventy-seven times, but seventy times seven! And if we are exhorted to do that, why was hell propared? If God himself with all his power, isn't capable of forgiving, how does he expect us to do it?
He could have forgiven Lucifer and the billions he plans to torment for eternity, instead of taunting us for millennia with the threat of eternal torture.
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02:16 PM on 08/19/2011
Your math is better than mine. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. This grace is available too all.
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brooklyncitizen
Soror quaerens lucem
02:06 PM on 08/18/2011
It is possible that the lack of repentance from his attackers prevents Jesus from forgiving the men directly, since he has taught his followers that repentance is a requirement for forgiveness.
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So the idea is to discard all theological thinking and wing it, huh?
Well then mission accomplished.But it has no beaing on Christ's teachings.
CognitoErgoSum
CogitoErgoSum was taken when I signed up.
02:19 AM on 08/19/2011
The idea is to understand the term in the linguistic and cultural context of Jesus' time, rather than put our own spin on it.

In Jesus message about not coming to worship if you have a grieivance against another, but to resolve it first and also the process for seeking redress of grievances before the issue goes to court also speak to this.

In his admonition against returning evil for evil, he was saying, in effect, that if you do that, you're no better than your antagonist and that evil, not righteousness, is what's informing your actions.
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Razpooten
Nil homini certum est
10:38 PM on 08/17/2011
"Forgiving you was easy. Forgetting's gonna take a long long time" Willie Nelson.
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Stephen B Kidde
Human Rights Rule!
04:26 PM on 08/17/2011
Unconditional forgiveness suggests that there is no need for an offender to ask forgiveness for an offense. While it is good to be ready to forgive someone that is sincere in offering apology, it is also important to help correct the behavior. Overcorrection isn't helpful. Taking no offense isn't either. Helping to provide correction takes prayer and experience.
12:14 PM on 08/17/2011
Dear Ms. Mayo, can I call you Maria? Will you marry me? All my other girlfriends and the odd fiance or two never had an inkling of what forgiveness means.
Yours truly,

Mr. Christopher Daly (you can call me Chris)